Husband doesn't want to do legal registry

If he won’t give you the legal protection of marriage, then you need to leave before the baby is born. After the baby is born it’s possible that he could prevent you taking the baby out of the area.

Time for you to take charge & move out.

You are not legally married and could be in a tricky position if he leaves or throws you out.
Can you get advice from someone within your community who might be sympathetic or who he might listen to?
There is a Muslim Board on MN and some of the ladies there may be able to offer advice as well

Nope I never say this ..LTB. Run. Do not put his name on the birth certificate

do it. before you give birth.

do you have anyone at mosque you can confide in or will they say the nikkah is enough?

he is being cheeky making demands when you have HG let alone using the registry as a bargaining tool.

He won't marry you because you don't cook enough for him? Huge red flag sorry OP

This is only going to get worse once baby arrives...if he won't cook, what makes you think will he change nappies? Do night feeds? Care for the baby in the day so you can get some rest?

I remember your previous thread.

If he won't marry you legally then go back to your parents and tell him he won't be on the baby's birth certificate.

He's lied and strung you along. If he's not going to stand by his word now then leave.

he doesn’t want to legally marry you and provide you with the security that that offers.

he wants you to become his servant.
a “better” wife.

surely you can see what the future holds now.

how practical and active a parent do you think he will be?
how much domestic work will he do whilst you are caring for his child? For his baby?
will he keep up with the laundry? Will he tidy the kitchen? Clean the bathroom?
how many nappies and bottles and loads of washing will he do?
how many cups of tea and jugs of water will he bring you whilst you are breast feeding?
how many weekends will he take the baby for walks out of the house just so you can sleep?

if you realise that he won’t be doing all of this willingly, instinctively, keenly, thankful that you have had his child and acknowledging how tiring it is to care for a new born then leave .
so then you only have one baby to look after
not also a manchild.

He's having his cake and eating it. He has no responsibility to you and your child and doesn't want it. He's using the excuse if a religious marriage as a trap to get a chief cook and bottle washer, not a wife he loves and cares for. He can give himself the excuse he's married in god's eyes to have sex and make a baby but isn't man enough to make a real commitment that can be seen and which actually counts. Id imagine your life is about to get a wyhile lit worse with a man like this once a baby is born and you have less freedom/ flexibility. Id seriously be considering if I wanted to stay with him with this kind of attitude.

Yes, absolutely this.

This.
Also echoing the PP who said if he won't agree to give you the protection afforded by a legal marriage, do not give him parental rights over your child by naming him on the birth certificate. You leave yourself and your child vulnerable if you do that.

You should have married legally before you are having a child.
I wouldn't stay with a man declining to secure me and a child in legal marriage. An Islamic ritual isnt enough.
And no way say yes to more work at home. It's his responsibility as well.

Are you sure want to legally tied to this prince among men?

If I were you, I would leave now too. The marriage is doomed, it’s not realistic for him to expect you to cook more with a newborn. The baby comes first.

He sounds revolting, leave now and do it by yourself.

Don't put him on the birth certificate if he won't do the legal part of the marriage. It also isn't a negotiation. If he's marrying you he needs to do it properly and complete the process. Currently you are vulnerable. It's not ok.

No, you're not wrong. You need to be legally protected.

But saying you need to cook more while also being a FT teacher and a mum would put me off him for life, to be honest.