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To think KFC is fine for an 11 year old?

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whereisthediff · 13/01/2025 14:47

New friend stuck for emergency childcare for a hospital appointment

I offered to have her, no problem. This was Saturday afternoon and her mum would be out early evening

I asked if she had any allergies because I said 'I'm happy to feed her, what does she like, any allergies?'

Her mum said no allergies, where were you thinking? I said Bella Italia

Her mum said that's lovely! That would be great

Job sorted. Got there and they had closed down! So we went nearby to KFC (both girls very happy and keen to have that instead)

Was I wrong not to run this by her mum?

When I returned her DD, I gave a small run down of how lovely she has been, all the usual. And said we had a KFC, I can't believe X place is closed

She said 'Oh? I thought you were taking her to Bella's Sad. I don't like her having fast food'

I said sorry about that, the conversation trailed off and then I said my goodbyes, said I hoped she felt well soon and drove off

Was I wrong here? She explicitly said she had no allergies and this isn't something I would be bothered about, a friend taking my daughter to place Y when they had previously said place Z (obviously no allergies involved)

OP posts:
Nonitor · 13/01/2025 16:06

whereisthediff · 13/01/2025 14:51

Just to add, a few months ago she went to the same birthday party as DD - At Pizza Express! And they all shared pizzas

Yeah but pizza express and KFC aren't really equivalent. KFC is garbage, same as McDonalds or Burger King. I don't want my kids eating it either. I wouldn't have said anything in this case though as you were doing her a favour and you didn't know but it's a bit silly to not see why pizza express is OK but KFC isn't.

mitogoshigg · 13/01/2025 16:05

Who else is now fancying kfc???

Can't remember the last time I had it but I'm wondering if dh could pick some up on his way home from the motorway services.

TallulahBetty · 13/01/2025 16:04

No good deed goes unpunished!

KeyWorker · 13/01/2025 16:04

Have you posted this before? This thread is familiar.

LittleBigHead · 13/01/2025 16:03

Wouldn't be my first choice if Bella Italia were closed, although it's not as if Bella Italia is fine dining! Wasn't there anywhere else?

But you were doing your friend a favour - your friend was a bit thoughtless to comment.

MyDeftDuck · 13/01/2025 16:02

leopardprintz · 13/01/2025 14:51

God. You do people a favour and they always have to act like an arse.

You did nothing wrong.

This

ginasevern · 13/01/2025 16:01

What an ungrateful and ungracious woman. Next time she can find other childcare arrangements. Does she honestly, in her wildest dreams, think that Bella Italia's food is known for its good provenance! Does she think it's overseen by Hugh Fearnley Whittingstall? It's cheap crap, mass produced in a factory on an industrial estate and delivered to site. It's no better (and possibly even worse) than an Asda Smart Price ready meal. Silly cow.

ChopstickNovice · 13/01/2025 16:00

Well that's the last time I would be doing her any favours. Cheeky cow.

BarbaraHoward · 13/01/2025 15:59

This is exactly what fast food is for imo, when you're caught out for whatever reason or in a rush. Or even <gasp> as am occasional treat. You did her a huge favour.

mitogoshigg · 13/01/2025 15:59

Pure snobbery, pizza express and Nando's is no better for you than Pizza Hut or kfc but you would think that you were poisoning kids in some circles. She's lucky you helped her out, Bella Italia and s hardly gourmet

NWQM · 13/01/2025 15:58

Another 'vote' here for saying don't worry about it. You made a plan but it couldn't happen. She was abit thoughtless to worry about where and not simply say thanks

Waterboatlass · 13/01/2025 15:58

Extremely rude of her to say anything but 'thank you very much'. Obv KFC isn't health food but it's a one off and manners are more important in this instance, you're not paid childcare.

SouthLondonMum22 · 13/01/2025 15:55

You did nothing wrong but then my 2 year old loves a KFC very occasionally so clearly, I'm nothing like your friend.

How ungrateful. I'd never do her a favour again.

VelvetFuzzy · 13/01/2025 15:55

You didn't do anything wrong. It was one meal for an 11 year old not a whole week of fast food for a toddler. Don't worry about it.

Delphiniumandlupins · 13/01/2025 15:53

You did nothing wrong. She ought to be grateful to you but maybe she was feeling a bit stressed. Don't overthink it. Your plans had to change and you fed the child. If she never has fast food one KFC meal in 11 years isn't going to do any harm.

TypingoftheDead · 13/01/2025 15:53

I think it’s fine, especially as it’s a one off (or might be occasional, if friend asks you for help again).

arcticpandas · 13/01/2025 15:53

LadyKenya · 13/01/2025 15:48

Your post is unpleasant. Just because she is mindful of what her Daughter eats, is no reason to call her names.

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I am mindful of what my children eat. I am also very greatful when somebody takes my DC out, especially if I needed emergency childcare. I would have thanked the OP profusely, offered her money to cover the expense and I would have brought her a little gift. I would not be rude and try to make OP feel bad for her choice of restaurant (especially since the other one was closed!)

MrsSunshine2b · 13/01/2025 15:52

Beautifulbouquet · 13/01/2025 15:36

KfC isn't really food in my opinion (a meal there contains a lot of harmful substances and doesn't provide the nutrition the body needs). I really can understand her blurting this out.

But as a one off it isn't really going to make any difference.

I hope she was just a bit shocked and blurted this out without meaning to be ungrateful.

You haven't done anything bad!! But there are quite a few people who totally avoid these sorts of places because of the animal welfare, business ethics, nutritional harm etc so it's not really a neutral alternative.

Of course it's food. It's mostly MSG, which is naturally occurring in tomatoes, chicken, and salt. We need salt and fat to survive. Most people eat too much salt and fat, that doesn't mean that salt and fat are poisonous.

susiedaisy1912 · 13/01/2025 15:52

What a CF she is. Does she not realise that any big chain restaurant is mostly preprepared fast food with loads of salt fat and sugar in it.

DreamingofGinoclock · 13/01/2025 15:51

This is crazy ....she could have chosen something similar to KFC from Bella Italia ... The larger children's meal (although at 11 I'm guessing on cusp of moving to adult meals) had chicken crunchies and chips... basically KFC 🤣....just because it's table service doesn't make it more healthier than KFC 🤣 (obviously depending on what meal is had)

AllTheChaos · 13/01/2025 15:49

Feelingstrange2 · 13/01/2025 15:00

You did all the right things.

Some parents just don't get it!

Chances are she'd bring a child up, stressing over no fast food ever and at the first opportunity her daughter will fall across the threshold at 2am half cut and holding a half eaten doner kebab with extra chilli sauce!

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This was me! My poor mum was horrified 😂

Ohshutupsimonyoutwat · 13/01/2025 15:49

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 13/01/2025 15:06

I wouldn't feed KFC to my dog.

Literally nobody gives a rats ass what you would or wouldn't do so bore off.

LadyKenya · 13/01/2025 15:48

arcticpandas · 13/01/2025 15:42

How rude! I always send money with mine for an outing because I don't want to take for granted that the other parents will invite my DC. And even worse, she was not happy with where you took her child that you had as a favour! What an unpleasant person! And poor girl to live with a mother so neurotic and orthorexic that she thinks eating at KFC once is a problem. Don't do any more favours for that ungrateful and displeasant mum!!!

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Your post is unpleasant. Just because she is mindful of what her Daughter eats, is no reason to call her names.

Youtookmyhandle · 13/01/2025 15:48

New friend would quickly become an ex-friend.

mumofoneDS · 13/01/2025 15:48

So rude considering you just did her a favour for an emergency!

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