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To think KFC is fine for an 11 year old?

283 replies

whereisthediff · 13/01/2025 14:47

New friend stuck for emergency childcare for a hospital appointment

I offered to have her, no problem. This was Saturday afternoon and her mum would be out early evening

I asked if she had any allergies because I said 'I'm happy to feed her, what does she like, any allergies?'

Her mum said no allergies, where were you thinking? I said Bella Italia

Her mum said that's lovely! That would be great

Job sorted. Got there and they had closed down! So we went nearby to KFC (both girls very happy and keen to have that instead)

Was I wrong not to run this by her mum?

When I returned her DD, I gave a small run down of how lovely she has been, all the usual. And said we had a KFC, I can't believe X place is closed

She said 'Oh? I thought you were taking her to Bella's Sad. I don't like her having fast food'

I said sorry about that, the conversation trailed off and then I said my goodbyes, said I hoped she felt well soon and drove off

Was I wrong here? She explicitly said she had no allergies and this isn't something I would be bothered about, a friend taking my daughter to place Y when they had previously said place Z (obviously no allergies involved)

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Arlanymor · 13/01/2025 15:07

I think she should/could have kept that option to herself. You did her a favour AND you fed her child. There's not a massive difference between KFC and BI - they're both high street chains.

I want Marco Polo pasta now... (I know there is a Schwartz packet but it's not the same and I live nowhere near a branch of BI).

eqpi4t2hbsnktd · 13/01/2025 15:06

I wouldn't feed KFC to my dog.

Whoarethoseguys · 13/01/2025 15:05

Twinkletwinklelil · 13/01/2025 14:51

She should’ve said that before she dropped her off or whatever.. unfair of her to expect you to know.
you did nothing wrong, you fed her child.

an example would be - my parents have my son and I’ve told them he can’t have sweets under any circumstances. therefore, there’s no excuse. If they gave him sweets and I hadn’t explicitly said anything, I can’t blame them. If she felt SO strongly she should have told you first, as I said.

I don't think the mother has any right at all to dictate where they ate. As long as there were no allergies or dietary issues and OP checked that. OP was doing the mother a favour by looking after the child at the last minute and in those circumstances the child should fit in with whatever the OP was doing. And all the mother should have said is thank you!

PennyApril54 · 13/01/2025 15:05

She should just be grateful you provided support! Did she give you money in advance for the kids' food? Even if she did I still think this comment is out of order.

fanaticalfairy · 13/01/2025 15:04

Next time take her to Bella Italia and order the kids "chicken crunchies" and a side of fries 🤣🤣

Starlight1984 · 13/01/2025 15:04

Doesn't like fast food but approves of Bella Italia???😂

To be honest I can't believe her mum even said anything other than "Thank you so much for having her". Cheeky cow!!!

Oh and when DSD (12) has her friends over, we pretty much always have a takeaway!

emanresu24 · 13/01/2025 15:03

It's fine. KFC is one of those foods that once I've seen an advert/read/heard about it I can't stop thinking about wanting one. So, thanks for that😂

JimHalpertsWife · 13/01/2025 15:02

That's definetly her problem not yours. Even just basic manners she shouldn't have said anything other than "thank you". So she's rude too.

Plus, Bella Italia is a chain, so bet you £ most of their products come pre prepared in some way into the restaurants.

Crumpleton · 13/01/2025 15:02

I'd be pleased you not only looked after my DC but also took them out for something to eat.

Hayley1256 · 13/01/2025 15:02

It's fine, I'd rather eat KFC than the Bella Italia!

Anniedash · 13/01/2025 15:02

No good deed….

JackGrealishsCalves · 13/01/2025 15:01

I would just be grateful you had looked after my child tbh.
A KFC isn't going to kill her

Feelingstrange2 · 13/01/2025 15:00

You did all the right things.

Some parents just don't get it!

Chances are she'd bring a child up, stressing over no fast food ever and at the first opportunity her daughter will fall across the threshold at 2am half cut and holding a half eaten doner kebab with extra chilli sauce!

Whoarethoseguys · 13/01/2025 15:00

She should be grateful you took her. Presumably she isn't a vegetarian and as you say she has no allergies. She can't afford to complain.
You looked after her and took her for a meal.
Bella Italia isn't particularly home cooked food and I don't think it's any healthier than KFC anyway.

Original poster
whereisthediff · 13/01/2025 14:58

Biker47 · 13/01/2025 14:57

If it had been me asking for emergency childcare I wouldn't have cared where/what they ate, and I would have offered to pay for the KFC, I take it new friend didn't offer any money.

No, she didn't. But I honestly didn't want or expect any

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Biker47 · 13/01/2025 14:57

If it had been me asking for emergency childcare I wouldn't have cared where/what they ate, and I would have offered to pay for the KFC, I take it new friend didn't offer any money.

Jelodah · 13/01/2025 14:54

How rude . Belle Italia probably has as much crap I it as anywhere else !
I would have been so grateful . I definitely took my children and their friends to MacDonalds when they were younger. It would never have occurred to me to ask permission. I obviously would expect a parent to highlight allergies.

Twinkletwinklelil · 13/01/2025 14:53

whereisthediff · 13/01/2025 14:51

Just to add, a few months ago she went to the same birthday party as DD - At Pizza Express! And they all shared pizzas

I wouldn’t class pizza express as fast food.

and your subject line is asking if we think kfc is fine for a 10yo.. each parent parents differently - but like I said, she should’ve explicitly said no fast food lol
so YANBU

SmellLikeStreepForCheap · 13/01/2025 14:53

Very rude of her.

I wouldn’t be doing her any favours in future as your effort is just not appreciated.

B2B25 · 13/01/2025 14:53

Absolutely fine. You were doing her a favour. Mum was UR to even mention it and should have just thanked you!

I also now fancy KFC

rozziee · 13/01/2025 14:51

Rude cow, of course it’s fine

RedLightsStopSigns · 13/01/2025 14:51

Neither restaurant is exactly health food, but you watched and fed her daughter so she shouldn’t be so ungrateful!

No good deed etc.

Twinkletwinklelil · 13/01/2025 14:51

She should’ve said that before she dropped her off or whatever.. unfair of her to expect you to know.
you did nothing wrong, you fed her child.

an example would be - my parents have my son and I’ve told them he can’t have sweets under any circumstances. therefore, there’s no excuse. If they gave him sweets and I hadn’t explicitly said anything, I can’t blame them. If she felt SO strongly she should have told you first, as I said.

Original poster
whereisthediff · 13/01/2025 14:51

Just to add, a few months ago she went to the same birthday party as DD - At Pizza Express! And they all shared pizzas

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ZenNudist · 13/01/2025 14:51

She was rude and I wouldn't be forthcoming with help and treats in the future