Breakfast in bed..teens

@healthybychristmas You’re right, my post was rather contradictory! My dad actually did and still does (sadly) have that perception of himself as ‘support human’, we (his DC) usually didn’t abuse that, or not often!

I don’t do it because I’m usually the first one to leave the house and I never leave myself enough time! I take my breakfast to work! DH always gets up first so he can make me a cup
of tea before I leave - even on his day off which I massively appreciate. I don’t think there is a right or wrong here just whatever suits your family set up

My DH provides morning room service for our teen & tween, also both ND. Like you say, OP, it helps enormously with the transitions of morning routines. It's a school day service though, weekends and holidays they fend for themselves (mostly).

I provide what I jokingly refer to as the lady's maid service, ie. laying out of clothes & organising of school bags. Personally, I think I should receive a butler's wage but I have to make do with my meagre carers allowance!

I go down and make myself tea, and DD a simple breakfast, every weekday morning. Take it all back upstairs and eat / drink as we're getting ready. Works for us. She is a polite and grateful kid. I am ND and I suspect she is too. At least I know she's eaten something, in her own time. Who wants a stressful morning if it can be avoided?

That sound nice, beats shouting at them to get up after the 10th time of asking nicely then shoving them out the door with a cereal bar because they are running late.

Nice one! I'd definitely do that.

I used to take up breakfast to my teenage DDs while they were getting ready for school/college. It was always appreciated by them and never taken for granted. It just made the start to their day a bit easier. They're both now at university so are fending for themselves.

It brought back happy memories of when I stayed with my Dad, he used to bring me up toast (always cut into slices for some unknown reason) and a cup of tea every morning. If I was very lucky I'd get the morning newspaper to read too!

If I'd read this before having kids I would have slated you for this OP! I'm very much for eating-mindfully-at-the -table and don't believe in pandering.

However, my eldest is ND, mornings are difficult for many reasons. Sometimes I take him breakfast to eat at his desk in his room if he's struggling. It helps him transition from night time to morning and saves his siblings from being subjected to a meltdown first thing which can be awful for them.

As a PP said, it depends on how else they contribute/work to manage themselves. My DS is grateful and is getting good at trying to manage and prevent his own moods which is hard for him so I'm happy to meet him halfway.

Do what works.

Nothing to do with teenagers but I think it's gross 🤢 to eat in bed.

I don't do breakfast in bed but I set it out on the table during the week and DD is responsible for sorting breakfast at the weekend and we've done this since she was about 5 - we have breakfast cereal dispensers and a small jug of milk in the fridge she could manage, now she tends to cook some form of eggs on toast. I WFH now so it's really no bother as I'm not rushing to get out the door.

Its just the two of us though and I think it's probably easier for us to be a team and split things rather than a two parent, multiple child household. Shes recently started working at a Charity shop starting at 8:30 so I'll get up and do her breakfast on that day too as I have nowhere to be.

I have no objection but personally I wouldn't do that.

Not in bed but my mum sometimes used to bring me toast while I was getting ready for school in my bedroom when I was a teenager.

I invariably gave most of it to the dog because I never feel like eating first thing in the morning.

Nh, I don't like food in the bed, it's a good way to attract bugs and mice (we live in an old house, there are always mice waiting to get in.) Maybe if I didn't have to remind them to launder their bedding I'd be more inclined, or nag them about food wrappers they leave around in them.

I don't like food in bedrooms so it's a no for me. I know my mum does this for my two though; so they get that there.

I usually make their breakfast though in the mornings so I know they are eating something that will fill them up etc.

I do make eldest a cup of tea though for when I go to wake him up.

In our house - no. If you want something to eat, you come downstairs for it. Meals aren’t eaten in your bedroom.

I have to do this for DD. She's easily overwhelmed and has meltdowns. I avoid it by taking her breakfast in bed.
I've even sprinted to mcdonalds and back to grab a maccy D's breakfast for her before an early mock exam.

Ewwww, eating in bed???

I think it's sweet. My older teen loves hanging out in the mornings though, so the couple of times I've tried this, she has just followed me straight back down, and dd2 leaves the house v early and is always keen to be up and out the door, so I wouldn't catch her!

I do love when DH brings me tea in bed if he gets up first.

We don't eat in bedrooms so I wouldn't do breakfast in bed but will often offer to make them something hot for breakfast at the weekends, which they love. They'll help out when asked so and are very grateful so I do like to treat them sometimes.

My adult DD stayed overnight last week and I took her an omelette in bed. It's nice to be kind, doesn't mean you're a doormat. She really appreciated it.

My Dad brought breakfast in bed to me and my mum every single morning until I left I home. When I was a little child I had no idea anyone ever did it any other way!

I never remember mornings being stressful at all so I do think it was a good idea. He’d wake me up in the morning and take my breakfast “order” and then by the time it arrived I’d woken up properly.

Sadly my husband doesn’t do the same!

DD doesn’t eat breakfast if she can help it. I have found that if I take her something up she eats some or all of it. She is a tricky character (I suspect ND) and I try and think of my ultimate goal in any interaction. I want her to eat properly, I would prefer that she proactively does this herself but she doesn’t, so I compromise without it being a big deal. I am hoping that by eating breakfast regularly she will start to be hungry in the morning and we will naturally gravitate towards her getting it herself. But she hadn’t eaten in the morning for months, was pale and tired looking and would come home and raid the fridge and not eat a proper dinner, so giving it a go this term.

Not keen on food in bed, myself. I find that going in and simply waking them up with a kiss and asking if they’d like me to pop pastries in the oven for 15mins’ time works just as well in terms of waking them calmly/lovingly and motivating them to get their butts downstairs, though.

They don't have breakfast in bed but I do make breakfast for everyone. All they have to do is sit and eat it. If one isn't feeling sociable, they can quietly go and sit in the dining room or even outside.