To wish that people wouldn’t comment on size?

Yep. I also have a problem with the universal assumption that all women are trying to lose weight.

The issue is why are people so obsessed with weight, it’s so boring!!! My weight is the least interesting thing about me and I’d hope it is about anyone or you’re a right boring bastard. Isn’t standard now for people that comment is oh I don’t diet or weigh myself I think it’s boring.

Definitely, comparisons are out. There's just no need for anybody to make personal assessments of any other woman (and it is always women).

And again with this you wouldn’t say “oh your nails looks so much nicer now they’re painted!” You’d just say “I love your nail colour”.

I also think it’s the comparison thing. It’s not just saying “oh your figure is really nice” it’s saying “you look better than before - before you didn’t look good.” I wouldn’t compare, just make a positive comment. You can still tell someone who’s lost weight that they look really ncie if that’s what you mean, just don’t go on about how they look better than when they were fat. Or thin. Or whatever.

Exactly. Dress, bag, shoes, nail colour even - all fine. The minute though that you comment on what someone looks like in them, you've gone too far.

Don't make it personal. If you don't know the difference then keep quiet or stick to weather.

I think you should never comment on something over which the person has no control. If tell someone you like their dress you are complementing them on their choice, if you comment on their weight its on something they have limited control over and it is really rude.
A woman I know often comments on peoples weight, I heard someone say it was because she had been very ill, you would think she would learn her lesson but she doesn't.

Just awkward small talk, always nest to keep it it to oh you look good, I like your shoes etc. X

Cut me down to size? 😂😂

And where did I say I actually do it to other people 🤔.

I think I get what you mean. If you haven't actually lost weight it doesn't feel like a compliment, it's more like a negative remark somehow.

It is indeed but you are imposing on other people with your fakery. They are not doing that to you by simply existing.

One day you will blether on to a woman who will tell you straight and cut you down to size. Still, the world will keep turning.

It's one thing to me, another to you, the world keeps turning.

It's just chitchat. People complimenting each other. It's not deep.

I agree.

I'm a regular gym goer but without the gym body to match - my weight fluctuates a bit depending how clean I'm eating/how many holidays I've been on recently, and I don't even weigh myself from one year to the next. I just try and stay active and eat well.

However, one acquaintance at the gym comments on my size/weight EVERY time I see her (if we end up close to each other at the same class - maybe every 6 weeks) It's always "oh, have you lost weight? You look great/really well". Now I haven't lost any significant weight for a couple of years now, so I'm assuming she just has me in her head as a "fat person" so is surprised to see me looking "reasonably fit".

It gets right on my tits! It's like she's sizing me up and judging me every time she sees me, when I don't even pay that much attention to my own weight/size. Like she expects me to be grateful for her approval 🙄

It’s probably because you work from home, less stress and look good. They only think and you’re doing it yourself, is it’s about weight.
they’re saying you look good because you probably do, but it’s all to do with stress of working in the office opposed to working at home.
dont take it personally, just say well the only change is me working from home, less stress!

I think I remember dawn french in an interview saying she didn’t like people gushing over how great she looked now. As it was like an insult to her previous self who felt she loved that version of herself too.

I absolutely hate people commenting on my weight, even asking "have you lost weight", I hate the idea that they're assessing my body like that, that they presumably thought I'd previously looked fat, it literally makes me want the ground to swallow me up.

I'm generally fairly easy going and thick skinned, this is about the only thing I'm sensitive about.

All of that sounds fake. Why do we need this ridiculous puffery? Why do women need to be assessed by others all the time? You'd think that other women would know better but some clearly don't.

I'm intolerant of it now so when I hear crap like that I respond accordingly.

Small talk is weather. We have lots of weather just for that purp;ose.

I agree with you OP. It annoys me when people "compliment" others' weight. It's weird that people consider commenting on it a compliment at all and that some people expect their weight loss to be commented on - there may be so many reasons for weight loss, not all of them benign.

I am perfectly fine healthwise, a steady size 10/12, but I did occasionally reply to some "oh, you look good, you've lost weight!" comments (when I haven't) with "Alas, it's not out of choice" and left them to mull it over. It usually shuts them up.

It's small talk, that's it.
Have a stock answer, like I'm always up and down, not intentionally trying.

Some comment on hair, nice haircut, except the person didn't have a haircut.

Ooh, your skin is glowing, your eyelashes look longer etc.

Just small talk compliments.

Or you could make a point of making them feel awkward so they don’t do it again.

Personally I think that’s on them. The weight loss is for their own health and benefit. Do they really want people saying wow you always looked so fat to me and now you you don’t, I prefer you now.

It’s feels really objectifying.

Exactly. I’ve lost weight before for bad reasons and it was awkward and upsetting to be told about it, especially when it was always viewed positively. I also don’t like the idea they thought I was big before or cared before.