I have done a few threads on this issue before but DD is 4 in a couple of months and we are having a lot of issues.
She is extremely controlling of her environment and tantrums all the time if things don’t go her way. Some days DH and I feel like we have just been moaned and screamed at all day.
I gave birth to her sister last summer and DD1 became overwhelmed by the baby crying which I did a post about. DD1 would become inconsolable at the baby crying and couldn’t be in the same room and would hit herself if she could hear it. We got ear defenders to help, especially to try and get them in the car together so we could go places. She improved a bit but then she started pre school and the issue around crying has worsened as she hears it a lot at pre school. 6 months later, DD1 can’t tolerate her baby sister making any noise, even babbling, let alone crying. Everyday a new noise is added to the list, dogs barking, music, church bells, cars, motorbikes, cafes, restaurants, being on FaceTime with family - it is getting to the point where everywhere we go there are major meltdowns, total despair and she doesn’t want to leave the house at all, but at the same time doesn’t want to be in the house because her sister is here. We have been to the doctors several times and gone privately but have no advice or reasonable suggestions. I am at a total loss what to do it is making me sad and she is sad all the time. Any help or a handhold needed.