Looking for honest opinions….
I’m a single mum of 3, with two neurodivergent school age children at home and an adult DD who lives 20 miles away with her partner and 5 year old DD.
DD complains that I don’t babysit enough. Apparently i’m a terrible grandmother and should make more of an effort with GD. I currently babysit overnight one weekend every 4-5 weeks and a few hours here and there during the week (though admittedly not every week).
I love my GD dearly, we FaceTime
every day and I do genuinely enjoy having her, especially for shorter visits. However, a night out for DD usually equates to the entire weekend. On these weekends i barely sleep as GD snores like a freight train and wakes up throughout the night (not her fault, she has adenoid issues).
Perhaps I should do more but I’ve genuinely got a lot on my plate at the moment and loosing a weekend of sleep, plus getting behind with weekend work takes me a while to recover from.
For context, I work full time, run a business and I’m currently up to my neck with a house renovation. My younger two are challenging and I’m perimenopausal with some ongoing health struggles. DD thinks I’m making excuses but I would sometimes like a break too!
Adult DD, is a stay at home mum, has a supportive partner and GD is in FT school. DD struggles with her mental health and whilst I sympathise with her and do what i can, it’s never enough.
AIBU, should I do more?