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Most people don’t declare medical conditions at work unless they absolutely have to.

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Grapesandcheseseplease · 12/01/2025 15:23

I’ve had a few medical conditions since my twenties (I’m now in my forties) which I never declared on work applications or on health checks at work. I haven’t needed any adaptations at work and no one was in danger so I felt that telling them would be pointless and I would face discrimination. In my last job I declared a medical condition and within weeks was pushed out. Speaking to my friends, it seems we’re quite split.

What do you think?
YABU- I have always been honest about my health in (prospective) jobs.
YANBU- I do not declare heath issues unless absolutely necessary.

OP posts:
DojaPhat · 12/01/2025 17:01

Yanbu but someone will come along with a rose-tinted view of the modern workplace. Morality is a separate question, we'd all like to think the best of others and the workplace but the truth of it is if you can manage without telling a soul then take that route. Discrimination won't show up a neatly wrapped package labelled 'get this one out', it will be very subtle, almost to the point you'd feel odd questioning it, but that doubt will always linger. All else being equal don't declare it.

ohyesido · 12/01/2025 16:41

@Owwwwwww it is challenging to manage an employee who has mental health struggles. I had to manage a team of young people who all developed anxiety if they were given a warning over terrible timekeeping.

I found those who genuinely struggled with disabilities were more likely to want to succeed despite their difficulties

fivebyfivebuffy · 12/01/2025 16:37

fivebyfivebuffy · 12/01/2025 16:36

I declared mine at interview because I need reasonable adjustments

Oh and also time to have bloods and a hospital appointment every 8-12 weeks. I take it as annual leave though

fivebyfivebuffy · 12/01/2025 16:36

I declared mine at interview because I need reasonable adjustments

Owwwwwww · 12/01/2025 16:31

Not a wind up at all, I just know how difficult MH issues can be to fight and I wouldn’t take the risk of employing someone who declared them.

biscuitsandbooks · 12/01/2025 16:28

Owwwwwww · 12/01/2025 16:28

Why would I choose to employ someone like me who struggles to get out of bed some days and can’t focus enough to watch the TV let alone concentrate to do my job? That’s just being honest.

Because not everyone who has mental health issues struggles to get out of bed and can't even watch the TV Hmm

Starting to think you're on the wind up, tbh.

JoanOfArchers · 12/01/2025 16:28

I would have to be honest and declare my chronic medical condition as I have 8 weekly treatments at the hospital. I’m currently job hunting and the thought of bringing this up during an interview is a little daunting, I also imagine it might have negative implications for my success but I’d prefer to be honest from the start as it’s not something I could hide from them.

Owwwwwww · 12/01/2025 16:28

Why would I choose to employ someone like me who struggles to get out of bed some days and can’t focus enough to watch the TV let alone concentrate to do my job? That’s just being honest.

FatFiatMultiplaWhopper · 12/01/2025 16:27

My work know all about my physical disability. They know nothing about my mental health condition.

WaitingForMojo · 12/01/2025 16:26

Grapesandcheseseplease · 12/01/2025 15:34

How would you know if your company would discriminate before telling them? It was a dismissible offence in all of my jobs but I took the risk. I lied on medical checks, in 20 years no one ever found out.

I know someone (a nurse) who was dismissed for failing to declare to occupational health, and lost a tribunal, so lost their registration.

You wouldn’t know before telling them, that’s my point. By telling them, you’d find out whether it’s somewhere you want to work.

biscuitsandbooks · 12/01/2025 16:24

Owwwwwww · 12/01/2025 16:23

Why are you being so rude to me? I’m stating my opinion as a lifelong suffer of severe MH problems.

It's not rude to be angry at someone who has openly declared that they discriminate against people Hmm

SuzieNine · 12/01/2025 16:23

Never been asked. Is that commonplace? Obviously it would be for some jobs involving machinery, driving or personnel/medical care etc but for the average office job why would they care? We do have private health insurance and I answer that honestly but that’s just between me and the insurer, they can’t disclose anything to my employer.

Owwwwwww · 12/01/2025 16:23

biscuitsandbooks · 12/01/2025 16:21

And this is exactly why nobody hires anyone who struggles.

Well fucking done.

Why are you being so rude to me? I’m stating my opinion as a lifelong suffer of severe MH problems.

biscuitsandbooks · 12/01/2025 16:21

Owwwwwww · 12/01/2025 16:19

I wouldn’t knowingly employ someone with MH issues though, as I know from personal experience how debilitating they can be. I wouldn’t fancy having to manage them when they were struggling and it would be very disruptive to the business.

And this is exactly why nobody hires anyone who struggles.

Well fucking done.

swordpen · 12/01/2025 16:21

Never. It's none of their bloody business. One HR lady told me I was legally bound to declare any health issues. Nonsense.

EmmaMaria · 12/01/2025 16:20

JenniferBooth · 12/01/2025 15:50

Well of course they fucking dont. Take a look at the Dispatches Britains Benefit scandal thread and you will see why!

Quite.

That said I always have and have had no problems with doing so. But I suspect that being highly skilled and highly qualified makes a difference, as well as the type of employer.

Owwwwwww · 12/01/2025 16:19

biscuitsandbooks · 12/01/2025 16:15

I really, really wish all companies were like that. Sadly, so many aren't and disabilities and mental health conditions are still severely discriminated against.

I wouldn’t knowingly employ someone with MH issues though, as I know from personal experience how debilitating they can be. I wouldn’t fancy having to manage them when they were struggling and it would be very disruptive to the business.

biscuitsandbooks · 12/01/2025 16:15

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 12/01/2025 16:12

I worked for a company that would bend over backwards and sound thousands supporting members of staff with a disability, always getting professional advice from "access to work" in the first instance.

I really, really wish all companies were like that. Sadly, so many aren't and disabilities and mental health conditions are still severely discriminated against.

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 12/01/2025 16:12

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 12/01/2025 16:12

I worked for a company that would bend over backwards and sound thousands supporting members of staff with a disability, always getting professional advice from "access to work" in the first instance.

Spend not sound !

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 12/01/2025 16:12

I worked for a company that would bend over backwards and sound thousands supporting members of staff with a disability, always getting professional advice from "access to work" in the first instance.

HellofromJohnCraven · 12/01/2025 16:11

Companies discriminate because they rightly judge the risk of action is small and manageable. .
I wouldn't declare anything unless it was unavoidable

ohyesido · 12/01/2025 16:11

I have ADHD and wouldn't dream of telling my employer or colleagues. I don't fancy being treated like I've just been released from a secure hospital

HoppityBun · 12/01/2025 16:05

I have chronic diseases that were well controlled when I applied for my current job but I made clear what they were in my application form, even though at the time I felt a bit foolish because I wasn’t having any difficulties. I’m very glad that I did because they’ve caused me real problems over the years and it proved to be essential that they were marked up right from the beginning as the disabilities that they are.

biscuitsandbooks · 12/01/2025 16:03

MujeresLibres · 12/01/2025 16:01

I've always been honest. I'm diabetic though, and there might be a safety risk if something happened and no-one knew. I haven't experienced any discrimination to do with my health (that I know about!).

Unfortunately, I think there's a big difference between declaring a physical disability or condition, and declaring a mental health issue or condition. Whether they'll admit it or not, there are huge issues with employers discriminating against people with MH issues, or just not knowing how to handle them. See also conditions like ADHD and autism.

Toddlerteaplease · 12/01/2025 16:03

I've got MS. It's pretty obvious when it flares up. So I didn't have much choice but to tell people. My colleagues are all incredibly supportive though.