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Anxiety causing DP to want to quit job

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madderthanapissedonchicken · 12/01/2025 10:29

Hi All,

My DP has recently started a new job (been there almost 2 months), and he isn't liking it at all.

He was previously on medication for anxiety, but hasn't had to take it in a long time. Although it seems like he will again.

He doesn't like that there is a lot of people at this new job, really doesn't like crowds, there's no direction from bosses, the people training have accents that make it difficult to understand what they are saying.

His anxiety has been set off big time, in a bad mood, and doesn't want to be there. He's been applying for anything else he can see, but no joy yet.

He clearly wants to leave but we have children and bills and I can't just say quit and look for something after.

Am I being harsh here? I don't think I am, we need money! But I've never suffered with anxiety, and I can see it is having a really negative affect on him.

Any advice please?

OP posts:
lmcvities · 12/01/2025 10:35

Can you work instead and he looks after the kids?

madderthanapissedonchicken · 12/01/2025 10:33

toomuchfaff · 12/01/2025 10:31

the people training have accents that make it difficult to understand what they are saying.

The content, is it very specific to the role or can he gain knowledge elsewhere; books, Internet etc? Does he have to rely on the trainers to gain his knowledge?

Yes unfortunately it's internal processes, and working machines etc, so the training is all internal

OP posts:
TheWonderhorse · 12/01/2025 10:33

If he's not coping, he will need to go on the sick. It's a health condition where pushing through is great if you can, but people often can't. It's a bit like pain, a constant alarm going off in your head, your body telling you to do something totally different to what you need to do. It's deeply rubbish.

toomuchfaff · 12/01/2025 10:31

the people training have accents that make it difficult to understand what they are saying.

The content, is it very specific to the role or can he gain knowledge elsewhere; books, Internet etc? Does he have to rely on the trainers to gain his knowledge?

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