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Could you throw a cuddly toy in the bin?

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mimblewimble · 12/01/2025 09:44

I can't do it. I have to give them to charity shops and hope/pretend they'll find a new home. That's the only way my (teenage) children will ever agree to get rid of any too. I know it's illogical!

Does anyone else feel very attached to their kids' soft toys?

(To be clear, while I do have one very old and tatty teddy I've kept from my childhood, I'm talking about the children's toys here.)

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TorroFerney · 12/01/2025 11:46

Nope. I also feel bad for them being in cupboards ! I read somewhere that it can be a trauma response to a difficult childhood ie when your animals (oh god I don’t even call them toys) have been your friends and you’ve been alone in your room and turned to them for comfort. So that’s my excuse!

CoolPlayer · 12/01/2025 11:39

FilthyforFirth · 12/01/2025 09:53

I thought charity shops didnt accept cuddly toys?! I have so many my boys dont want anymore that aren't sentimental (we have a massive family and they honeslty have loads, we keep their faves obviously!) and would love to get rid!

Charity shops do accept cuddly toys x

CasperGutman · 12/01/2025 11:32

I can throw anything in the bin. But I have to make the move irreversible so I can't have second thoughts later. So: cut the head off, and shove the thing right in the bottom of the bin where I can't see it.

The same goes for kids' artworks: destroy them immediately, before I have a change of heart, and never ever leave them where a child could find the evidence.

WhineAndWine1 · 12/01/2025 11:31

I really can't get that attached to stuffed animals. If they need chucked they get chucked. I'm just not that sentimental 🤷‍♀️

zaxxon · 12/01/2025 11:23

Our school fair used to have a huge pile of them going for 50p each. One year I glanced at it and lighted upon a duplicate of DD's favourite small, obscure, hard-to-find soft toy. Instantly I dived in, yelping, and snatched it ... and it turned out to be an absolute godsend later that year when we lost the original.

Moral of the story is - that little cuddly toy may mean nothing to you or your kids, but it could be special to someone!

Letsbe · 12/01/2025 11:16

Great for school.fairs adopt a cuddly toy tombola every ticket wins. Nothing like seeing them go to clutter someone elses home.

Jollygirlouted · 12/01/2025 11:13

No of course not! Have you never watched Toy Story! 😆🥰

RealHousewivesOfTaunton · 12/01/2025 11:12

I have often taken the kids' soft toys to the charity shop, but only in good condition with the labels attached. The ragged ones stay with me!

HappydaysArehere · 12/01/2025 11:09

No you can’t. It’s impossible. Just look at their little faces. I am elderly and my friend Is too. We have teddy bears and a squirrel which belonged to my children. We found ourselves talking to them. However, when she said Sammy Squirrel looked cross eyed I was afronted and said he would now need counselling ! My (then) friend said he was too easily upset. Cross eyed I ask you!!! What a cheek. She is in her seventies and I am 83.

Ponoka7 · 12/01/2025 10:53

If they are clean and intact, I know of animal charities that want them. Any good ones, MLP/Stitch etc always go to charities. If my own pets have been on them, in the bin they go.

ShadowsOfTheDays · 12/01/2025 10:51

Oh god yeah, in the skip they go! I LOVE getting rid of stuff though.

Drivingoverlemons · 12/01/2025 10:50

When my first was born, my parents brought round three bin bags of me and my siblings’ childhood teddies from their loft. I am still bitter!

I have donated loads over the past fifteen years with great difficulty (They have a face! Where on earth do you give them? Who will love them?) but many are still in my loft (some classics I want to keep like my care bears and a fluppy puppy, some that literally nobody will want and look slightly creepy, and some homemade ones from the 70s that I now feel responsible for - thanks Mum), along with several large laundry bags’ worth of my own kids’ teddies.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 12/01/2025 10:42

To just bin them, no, I never could.

OTOH we got rid of a whole black bin bag of dds’ old soft toys that had been languishing in the loft (we still have quite a lot, the Gdcs love them) after asking Battersea Dogs’ Home whether they’d like them. Yes, please - except for any stuffed with those polystyrene granules.

I’ve long known of friends’ dogs who like carrying a soft toy about, and become attached to it, so we really should have thought of this a bit sooner.
And if they eventually get chewed up/binned, we won’t know!

RainbowSlimeLab · 12/01/2025 10:34

Nope. Can’t give them away either. DP keeps suggesting I cull dd’s collection but it’s not going to happen. Have bought some of mine down from the loft recently and it’s lovely seeing them again.

Nicecuppatea2025 · 12/01/2025 10:27

Childhood teddies are sacred!

modgepodge · 12/01/2025 10:26

FilthyforFirth · 12/01/2025 09:53

I thought charity shops didnt accept cuddly toys?! I have so many my boys dont want anymore that aren't sentimental (we have a massive family and they honeslty have loads, we keep their faves obviously!) and would love to get rid!

The 2 I go to most have big bins full of them so some still do!

BornSandyDevotional · 12/01/2025 10:18

Goldbar · 12/01/2025 10:16

This is why I have an absolute prohibition on people giving my DC cuddly toys as gifts. They get two a year - one for their birthday, one for Christmas. Since my older DC has had pocket money/been given money, a few more have snuck in. I've generally culled the ones that have snuck into the house though fair prizes/party bags although a few have survived the cull and are now treasured friends.

All the soft toys in the house except the bedtime crew are contained in two giant zip up beanbags in muted colours in DC1's room. The kids sit, roll and jump about on these so I feel that the toys stuffing them are being put to good use 😅. And no risk of polystyrene beads leaking out.

This is genius!

Goldbar · 12/01/2025 10:16

This is why I have an absolute prohibition on people giving my DC cuddly toys as gifts. They get two a year - one for their birthday, one for Christmas. Since my older DC has had pocket money/been given money, a few more have snuck in. I've generally culled the ones that have snuck into the house though fair prizes/party bags although a few have survived the cull and are now treasured friends.

All the soft toys in the house except the bedtime crew are contained in two giant zip up beanbags in muted colours in DC1's room. The kids sit, roll and jump about on these so I feel that the toys stuffing them are being put to good use 😅. And no risk of polystyrene beads leaking out.

mimblewimble · 12/01/2025 10:05

StillAtTheRestaurant · 12/01/2025 09:47

Nope! I can't even give them to charity shops as my friend buys cuddly toys from charity shops for her dog who eventually chews them to pieces. I don't want ours to suffer a similar fate! So all the cuddly toys still live here and probably always will.

Argh!

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Nespressso · 12/01/2025 10:02

Maybe because mine are still young but I’m about to throw 2 sack full away that they won’t even notice. They are 2 and 4 and have favourites in their beds, but loads relegated to a cupboard that never get played with. We removing shortly so decluttering so they are going in the bin!

Latenightreader · 12/01/2025 10:01

Charity shops definitely still take them- my daughter has bought several to add to her mountain. I have a bag that need to be sent to another home, but I haven't quite managed it. The local free cycle page sometimes has them, so I should try there.

Toy Story has a lot to answer for. I came home after watching the first one and wanted to apologise to my old toys in the loft...

HellofromJohnCraven · 12/01/2025 09:58

The local primary does a teddy tombola at the summer fete. Ideal solution!

blendingstruggles · 12/01/2025 09:57

I donated 5 bags full of it youngest daughters toys last week and felt sad letting them on it's the memories attached to them sometimes. I thought I was the only one feeling that way lol.

mimblewimble · 12/01/2025 09:57

FilthyforFirth · 12/01/2025 09:53

I thought charity shops didnt accept cuddly toys?! I have so many my boys dont want anymore that aren't sentimental (we have a massive family and they honeslty have loads, we keep their faves obviously!) and would love to get rid!

Oh no don't say that!

I've only ever handed them in as part of a mixed bag of donations...

Obviously only clean ones, which means the ones they weren't very attached to! DS wanted to get rid of a tiny puppy last time we had a sort out, and I knew a charity shop wouldn't take it because it was too worn and dirty, so I snuck it out of the donations box and hid it with some of their baby things in the attic.

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Brooomhilda · 12/01/2025 09:56

In our area there are always charity stalls at fairs/ tombolas looking for cuddly toys! Especially
In the summer. Always useful for a clear out.