Husband says any man would cheat given the opportunity

I've seen those figures pertain to a study in college students.

Most studies suggest an average figure of around 20-25% it's been pretty consistant across a number of studies, both genders cheat with women tending to admit in slightly lower percentages than men, possibly because of sex work availability.

I suppose if we look at our sexual history overall there is a lot more cheating in casual relationships but less cheating in serious relationships. When you consider women on average find attached men far more attractive than single ones the opportunities for married men to cheat is potentially higher and yet the actual amount of cheating in more serious committed relationships is relatively low.

’Men are as faithful as their options’…… quote from Chris Rock

Actually, I'm relieved he's admitted it. I feel as if men all know this, but never admit it.
My DH definitely would.

And yet there are lots of posts on here speaking on behalf of all men, and also on all humankind as a whole 🙄 total arrogance, and it’s because of their own desires, because they would, so they can’t fathom that some are so far removed from that thinking. And for those who thing all men would, it’s either misandry, or just the men they have known

.*..deploy the penguin bollards

😂*

@ByHardyAquaFox

It takes a staggering level of arrogance to believe anyone can speak on behalf of every single one of the billions of men in the world.

It's actually laughable.

He's completely wrong.

it was a joke

Wrong thread? What do penis beakers and penguins have to do with DH willingness to cheat ?

Sorry but, your house with CCTV that you both know is there.

I am cynical but I've read so many - really so many threads from women who've believed.

Some men are serial cheats and will dip and in and out. They won't ever leave their wives. They simply want sex with other women. Some will only cheat for exit affair because they fundamentally aren't happy with their marriage but do want to be married. Given the chance to be with someone they're more suited to they will cheat briefly and go. I'd put at least 75% of men into either of the above categories. Women are fools who give up their own independence and stay home long term. You're just so vulnerable.

My husband would never say that in a million years, he is staunchly anti cheating

LTB, change the locks, get your ducks in a row, smash the penis beaker and deploy the penguin bollards. It was a stupid remark on the back of a frivolous and largely pointless, wine-fuelled disagreement on the back of a fictional TV show. He clearly can't speak for all men and unless he has actually been in the situation he can't even speak truly for himself.

I've seen those figures pertain to a study in college students.

Most studies suggest an average figure of around 20-25% it's been pretty consistant across a number of studies, both genders cheat with women tending to admit in slightly lower percentages than men, possibly because of sex work availability.

I suppose if we look at our sexual history overall there is a lot more cheating in casual relationships but less cheating in serious relationships. When you consider women on average find attached men far more attractive than single ones the opportunities for married men to cheat is potentially higher and yet the actual amount of cheating in more serious committed relationships is relatively low.

Men are genetically programmed to spread their genes as widely as possible, and hence are much more likely to be tempted take any opportunity arising. That's not to say all men would.

I don't think this is the case for every man at all. Some, maybe.

I came home one night, we were having a small party and it was just me, my friend, DH, and newer friend left. Kids were in my sister's. I popped out to the next village (taxi) for more booze with my friend. Left DH alone with a newer female friend. Absolutely gorgeous, tall, model-like (I'm 5' nothing and while I'm good looking, I'm not a model), properly beautiful.

I came back and no one heard, the doors were closed and lights off. They were down the other end of the garden and you can't hear from there. Was putting the wine out in the kitchen and looked out the window into the garden where we'd been sitting. This woman made a move on DH. He literally swerved back, held her wrists and pushed her back off him. Stood up, yelled at her for trying to cross boundaries and stormed inside. He didn't know I was there, he saw me and panicked in case I got the wrong impression. I saw the whole thing and our security camera proved nothing else had happened.

He was as mortified as I'd have been if a male friend had done that. So no, I don't think all men will cheat if given the opportunity. I know it sounds naive, and I've met the kind of man who would. I don't think I'm married to one of them at all.

I’m a bit gobsmacked. Been with my DH for 30 years and have 2 grown up kid. Our relationship is generally ok.
We were watching a TV show tonight in which a woman hired a private detective to seduce her husband to see if he was faithful to her. My DH said it was unfair as it was entrapment. I said it was a bit odd but I guess the fictional wife had some concerns and was testing her husband. My DH doubled down by saying that all men would cheat given the opportunity. I challenged him and asked if he felt like that (ie he would cheat given half a chance). He said that he would and that any man would.
A very frosty exchange followed. He raised his voice and then tried to backtrack saying that wasn’t what he’d said and he didn’t mean it. But he did definitely say it. He’d drunk a bottle of wine so no doubt that exacerbated his truculence. He then went to bed in a huff.
I’m don’t particularly think he’s been /being unfaithful - and as a slightly plump balding 60 year old I don’t think he’s exactly Casanova.
I’ve tried to tell myself that it was just a slightly drunken silly remark. But I am still fuming - I thought it was a pretty rude and disrespectful thing to say to your wife. Particularly as he doubled down and didn’t apologise. He just didn’t seem to care or think what he was saying and it raised some concerns with me about his underlying moral code.

What is the source for these figures?