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To ask what you actually do if

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NoNoNona · 11/01/2025 23:03

You do not cook, clean, tidy, drive or iron.
There seem to be a load of people on this site that do none of these things (and I am not advocating that they are the only people in a family to shoulder the burden).
So what, exactly, is your contribution?

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TooManyChristmasCards · 11/01/2025 23:13

I am amazing in bed. HTH.

MarkingBad · 11/01/2025 23:11

I do not iron, I make sure all my clothes don't need ironing

Greywarden · 11/01/2025 23:11

I do these things at least some of the time (except for ironing, which I hate and leave to my DH). I accept that they mostly seem to be important things. I don't accept that they define a person's worth though.

Off the top of my head I imagine people might do other useful or lovely things like working to earn money, playing with their kids, looking after their kids, taking their kids out, taking themselves out, organising stuff for their kids, doing life admin, socialising, doing hobbies, doing extra study outside of paid work, providing support for unwell relatives, volunteering....

Your list doesn't seem very comprehensive in terms of tasks that make useful contributions to a family and has no mention of leisure or of paid work activities.

monkeysox · 11/01/2025 23:08

Ironing is irrelevant

SevenWeeks · 11/01/2025 23:07

I'm the breadwinner and I have a househusband to do all the domestic chores.

PonyPatter44 · 11/01/2025 23:06

Presumably.they pay other people to do those boring jobs.

Wallawallakoala · 11/01/2025 23:04

I get brought margaritas whilst being wafted by palm leaves