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To ask what you actually do if

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NoNoNona · 11/01/2025 23:03

You do not cook, clean, tidy, drive or iron.
There seem to be a load of people on this site that do none of these things (and I am not advocating that they are the only people in a family to shoulder the burden).
So what, exactly, is your contribution?

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BobbyBiscuits · 12/01/2025 01:12

I do things I enjoy. And care for other disabled people.
Why should women tidy, iron, domestic drudgery etc? Most men CBA to do it. I should only do what a man would do. Sit on my arse drinking and swearing at the telly. 🤣

Monty27 · 12/01/2025 01:08

Where I live there's daily posts from cleaning and such begging for work. No shortage that I can see.

Mum2So · 12/01/2025 01:04

DH does the school run every morning. I can drive but he mostly drives the family around. I have a cleaner. DH and I cook on alternate nights - same with putting DCs to bed. No ironing generally. I tend to tidy more.

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 12/01/2025 00:59

I lay on my chaise longue eating the grapes that someone else peels for me.

stonebrambleboy · 12/01/2025 00:51

Cryptic crosswords ( very time consuming).

isthatmyage · 12/01/2025 00:37

drink 😊

WilmerFlintstone · 12/01/2025 00:18

i’m an awesome sex goddess, my husband wants for nothing. And I do the ironing, sometimes with no knickers on 🤭

GuineaPigWig · 12/01/2025 00:02

I spend time instructing my estate manager to advise my housekeeper to manage the cleaner and the gardener and the cook and the ironing-boy (we call him Tefal Tim).

When I have spare time, I do my hobby (which is too outing to tell you about)

HTH.

NuffSaidSam · 11/01/2025 23:59

So you're asking what things people do other than your very short list of things?

Work
Childcare
Pet care
Family admin
Laundry
Food shop
DIY
Car care
Care for other relatives

Why don't you make a list of everything you do and see what else is there other than the things you listed? That'd give you a good idea.

Hollowvoice · 11/01/2025 23:58

I drink wine and I know things

Caswallonthefox · 11/01/2025 23:56

Take out, maid, walk, what is this you speak of?
I watch my maid while I listen to a book and crack my whip when I feel they are slacking.
When I can't be arsed to walk I get my cat to pull my carriage.

MrsPinkSky · 11/01/2025 23:55

I twiddle my nipples.

Agix · 11/01/2025 23:54

I tidy and clean. I dont do any of the rest. Instead I read, play computer games with partner, watch youtube shows. My contribution to our home...not sure, think its mainly looking cute and singing songs.

Original poster
NoNoNona · 11/01/2025 23:49

@Ilovelurchers
I meant to post this ages ago, when people were making a virtue out of NOT doing the things I listed.

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Ilovelurchers · 11/01/2025 23:41

Not being deliberately obtuse, sincerely, but I find this thread weird.

There is LOADS of stuff not included in your list that people might do:

Work outside the home to earn money to pay the bills.
Childcare
DIY
Gardening
Handle household finances
Shopping and other errands

And also, some people are unable to do any of the things on your list or mine. My father for example is very unwell with dementia. He can't do any of the things you or I have listed (apart from the fact, I suppose, that his work earlier in his life now generates an income for himself and my mother through his pension).

He still contributes to his household and our wider family. Simply by being his own precious self.

Screamingabdabz · 11/01/2025 23:35

Everyone in the household cooks. Sometimes we eat together and it’s a joint effort.

Everyone cleans up after themselves.

Ditto tidying.

I drive. So does the rest of the household.

I don’t iron. But cotton and linen exist so the iron lives in the cupboard for anyone who needs it.

Domestics are for everyone. Not just those with vaginas.

Barney16 · 11/01/2025 23:34

I read books.

username299 · 11/01/2025 23:31

I don't drive, I use public transport. I don't iron.

MJDecember24 · 11/01/2025 23:31

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Juiceinacup · 11/01/2025 23:29

I don’t cook DH does the cooking he enjoys it, I make snacks and lots of tea and coffee I don’t drive ( medical reasons) only buy non iron clothes, we do have an iron and ironing board if my DH feels the need. I do have to clean and tidy unfortunately but I’m thinking of getting a cleaner. I work full time, have my grandkids to stay over a lot, do the garden and put the bins out. Organise life stuff, holidays, finances and the shopping. I also do loads of volunteering in my community.
I have hobbies and spend time with my elderly mum so I’m content I’m doing my share.

Assthatwontquit · 11/01/2025 23:20

Wallawallakoala · 11/01/2025 23:04

I get brought margaritas whilst being wafted by palm leaves

Same

9tee · 11/01/2025 23:19

I don’t iron. I do the other things. I only buy clothes that won’t cause ironing - applies to entire family. I won’t waste time on ironing.

TankFlyBossWalkJamNittyGrittyIAmFromAMidSizeCity · 11/01/2025 23:16

I just sit around looking pretty mainly.

MinorGodhead · 11/01/2025 23:15

I hire someone to clean and iron. DH drives and cooks. My ‘contribution’ is supporting the family financially, general parenting etc.

CantHoldMeDown · 11/01/2025 23:15

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