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AIBU to think that shopping is now a cumbersome and alienating experience?

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HauntedBungalow · 11/01/2025 22:40

I appreciate it may just be me as I've never been one for leisure shopping - I mean I've never seen it as being a hobby or pastime, more a means to an end.

But obviously at Xmas I have to do quite a lot of it, to get presents for people, and my goodness this year it's really felt like work.

Go online - well that's just wading through pages of shit, drop boxes, pop-ups and complex return and postage policies.

In person homewares - half the time the item isn't in the shop - back to online, as above, with no real idea about what the thing looks like (it would be a cold day in hell before I drop £2k on a sofa based on nothing more than a fucking photograph). Or it's broken/no one knows what the price is etc.

In person clothing - most sizes aren't there, and even if you do manage to find something you have to scan it and bag it yourself, regardless of if you're spending a fiver or £500. Piss take.

Supermarkets - don't even get me started. Find your stuff, scan your stuff, pack your stuff into your own bags (or pay £1 for each) with not a staff member in sight ... that's a warehouse, not a shop. And, most times the shelf tickets aren't accurate, the offers don't go through, the self scan tills are dirty, the shelves are dirty, everything is in the wrong place, loads of things are missing and the entire place is freezing cold. (Why are they so cold?) It's fucking garbage.

Is this just what late stage capitalism looks like? Where everything is dowdy and crap, and you have a constant background feeling of being slightly mugged and you'll never get what you want but will spend loads of money regardless?

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Sasskitty · 11/01/2025 23:28

clothes - changing rooms always seem to allow men in now. Can’t stand it.

TeenLifeMum · 11/01/2025 23:15

Haha to be fair we did get a car transported from their Northampton branch. In reality we know nothing about cars so when they open the bonnet we’re like “cool, that looks like it’s probably an engine and no sign of fire 🤷🏻‍♀️”. We went for a 3yo car with a high spec and low mileage in the colour I liked and hoped for the best.

HauntedBungalow · 11/01/2025 23:01

@TeenLifeMum yes, cars! Who tf buys a car online? I mean seriously do these people walk amongst us? Because car dealers seem to think they do. You ring up about something they've got advertised and it's all "well we can transport it here from Goole or some other arsehole place, and you can look at it for five milliseconds to make your mind up but after that your viewing deposit will disappear into my capacious buttcheek bar the usual exclusions of earthquake and outright ongoing war". Wankers.

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CraftyNavySeal · 11/01/2025 22:56

We’ve started going to Lidl now precisely so I don’t have to spend an hour traipsing through a warehouse of 28372 different types of jam.

HauntedBungalow · 11/01/2025 22:52

It’s all rubbish now a days. Cheap shit but expensive.

God yes, thank you for raising that point about clothing. It's so normalised now I didn't even think of it in my op. Our clothes are made of actual plastics that are killing off ocean creatures. Plus they look like shit and you can't tell from one size 12 item to another which will actually be anything remotely resembling a size 12 (or 10, or whatever).

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TeenLifeMum · 11/01/2025 22:48

Supermarket shop - I use Ocado so it takes 10 minutes to order and 10 minutes to put it in the cupboards (family of 5) so no issue there.

Clothes can be annoying as availability is rubbish these days. I also hate sending things back when shopping online and guessing sizes.

i chose a sofa online but went to try it out and found it really uncomfortable so we found a different one in the store. So many options online but I limited our search to what we could test out as it’s an expensive and important purchase.

I’ll add cars to the list. I’ve concluded our local Ford garage is a front to some joinery laundering scheme as 3 times (in 10 years) I’ve attempted to buy a car from them - a fiesta, a ka and an smax and each time been ignored or dismissed as “we don’t have any” before I’ve even told them my budget. I had cash each time but had to go to a different dealership. Last May I went to look at Kugas … I’ve ended up with a vw Tiguan from the vw garage next to Ford 🤷🏻‍♀️

Chaseandstatus · 11/01/2025 22:46

Don’t forget scanning your receipt to be allowed to exit the shop, because you have had to do everything else yourself so it follows that you also have to make sure you aren’t a thief.

Namenamchange · 11/01/2025 22:46

Yes, I used to love shopping, buying new stuff, but now I hate it. I try really hard not to over buy now due to climate and waste, but even when I need new clothes there is nothing that good quality, fits well and is nice. Lots of tops are cropped ruling then out for me. There is a lack of women’s clothing store around, and the sizing is all to variable even in the same stores. It’s all rubbish now a days. Cheap shit but expensive.
online is tiresome

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 11/01/2025 22:45

I feel like I'd like an official rank of online shops. Like avoid this site as drop shipping tat, but buy from these websites

Yeah it's not fun to shop anymore 😕

Feverdream02 · 11/01/2025 22:44

I used to really excited by the shops but now I look down the mall and just see the worst of capitalism as enormous global brands try to prise money from me. No feelings of joy in that.

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