To be upset with my boyfriend over this ?

Is this a reverse Leonardo?

I agree with this. It sounds as if he has gone off the OP and the relationship. The differences in age and maturity were endearing to him at first but now they’re irritating and he can’t be arsed with them. I’ve seen this is intercultural relationships too where the differences in culture make things interesting at first and become tiresome later. Of course they don’t all end up going that way, but if this one has, it won’t get any better.

I would like to know if the OP often gets him surprise presents. I bet he never gets her any. But it sounds as if she is much more into him than he is into her, and he realizes this and therefore feels he can behave so gracelessly. Thinks he’s invincible and there’s no way you will end the relationship. You can, OP.

I’d be interested to know what he’d say if you said, “You know what? I’m tired of being spoken to like that. I deserve better than this. Either sort your attitude out and treat me better or it’s over.”

This relationship is over. He is vile.
Dump him and find someone better who really deserves you.
Nasty man child Brat.

You're only 25, time is on your side to meet someone who truly deserves you. Don't waste any more time on this man. He's old enough to know better but clearly doesn't.

Be glad that you haven't had the proposal, being married to someone who treats you like this would be far worse. Sorry to be blunt but he's acting like he's fed up with you/ irritated by you. You were relatively young when you got together and he was older, you have both grown up and maybe you have grown apart.

@Fairydustapplecrumble

Well, Occam's Razor says that it's most likely that for him the relationship has run its course, but he's too cowardly (or comfortable) to tell you.

I'd beat him to the punch and tell him that you are no longer getting what you need from the relationship (which is true) and that you are ending it. Make any plans you need to make beforehand as far as any 'change in living arrangements' (ie whose house/flat is it and who will need to leave) as well as separating any finances. And please, double up your contraception. The last thing you need to do is become pregnant.

I'm sorry this has happened to you, but reality must be faced. And in the end, reality is your friend.

Dear me! He sounds horrible. Why are you with him? He doesn’t even want you hugging him, wtf?! Sounds like he has the ick. Some relationships just come to an end and sorry, sounds like you’re there.

I see OP hasn't returned. I hope she's read the replies and sees the man's
a twat but mainly I hope she's ok.

I think it's needy. The last thing I ever wanted in the morning was someone all over me wanting affection. I know quite a few people who aren't happy morning people. Going off to sulk over it, that's shit. Then bursting into tears because he asked if that's his birthday gift, WTF?

I have said he's unpleasant.

And they're obviously incompatible.

That's shit. She isn't needy. That's quite normal behaviour.

Plus the way he speaks to her is just not acceptable.

Withdraw. Men hate needy or nice tbh. They want bitches (no one will tell you this)

No attention until he behaves properly, certainly no more gifts or love. Know your worth ok? Once you realise it, you’ll never let a man treat you that way again 💖

She tries hugging and kissing him when he's watching morning TV. When he says something about it, she takes her tea and goes upstairs. She said she was upset and of course he knows.

Then she gets him a gift, he wants to know if this is his birthday gift and she bursts into tears.

Maybe he doesn't want to be bothered in the morning. Maybe he's tired of her getting upset over that. Maybe he's tired of asking her a question and her bursting into tears.

She sounds like she needs an awful lot of attention and he's over it.

So yes, she's needy and he's unpleasant.

This x100

Never stay with someone based on their potential. Never stay with someone in the hope that things get better. He is treating you badly. There is no justification for this. If he is feeling a bit smothered then that's ok but he should be able to tell you this kindly and warmly. You should be able to have a conversation about each others needs without cruelty and abuse. My fear for you is that the more he distances himself and treats you poorly, the more you will need his affection and the more poor behaviour you will accept. Please don't do this.

I voted YABVU because, quite frankly, it's obvious that you need to pack your bags and go. You will have a lifetime of misery if you stay.

Horrible man. 37 years old?? Good grief. You are only 25, don’t destroy your future with this man. Please. This is not the way to treat people. You felt upset at the time because you know that. You deserve much better. I would you all the best.

You are wasting your time with a nasty guy who will only get worse. You’re still very young so get out now.

Dear God. Sometimes on here the bar for men is so low. Just to repeat, OP - please leave this man, you are worth more than this.

He's a ticket to plummeting self-esteem and knocking yourself out for nothing.

THIS, times a thousand!!

Being single is better than that, OP.

WHY would you want to marry a man like that, OP?!

He's selfish and has a nasty streak.

You're so young. Dump the miserable shit off and go find a more emotionally intelligent man.

He's not going to miraculously change into a supportive partner. He's showing you what he is. Take note and RUN.

He's a dick, leave him. He's way too old anyway. Find someone young, fun and gorgeous to have a great time with.

This seems like a black and white situation, as you've told it.
He's gone off you, why would you want to drag this farce on?
He's a ticket to plummeting self-esteem and knocking yourself out for nothing.
He couldn't possibly expect you to take this overtly crap behaviour from him?
He wants a confrontation, then he'll suggest he, or you, leave the relationship.
Be one up on him and dump the ungrateful cold excuse for a bf.
You can do better, either with someone else, or on your own.

With kindness, get some standards! Dump his ass.

Why on earth would you want a proposal from a man like that? He treats you really badly. You can see that, can't you?

What was your childhood like, OP? Did your parents treat you badly, too? It looks as though you're used to someone not putting you first.

I think what you should do is to leave him. You deserve so much better and you're really young - it's a great time to be single for a while.

Note he'll probably propose to you if you say you're leaving. Hold firm on that - he won't change. He might apologise. He'll almost certainly cry. What he won't do is change. This is who he is and any memories of the nice guy he was at the beginning should be forgotten - he was faking it so that you'd fall for him.