To be upset with my boyfriend over this ?

If this isn't a very isolated thing over the space of a day or two, in which case he could just have something on his mind or be unusually irritable (perhaps he's been trying to cut down on smoking or is worried about money or work?) then something has changed for him in the relationship. He's starting the process of emotionally distancing himself from you in the run up to dumping you. He's creating friction which will lead to arguments, so he can blurt out what he really feels, instead of having to sit you down and come out with it completely out of the blue.

If you think this might be what's happening then face up to it, be brave and take control. You break up with him. Don't wait around sounding all needy and desperate for crumbs. Easier said than done, I know.

Yeah he sure picked her for a reason. Hopefully OP is now mature enough to see this, or at least very soon.

Yeah babe this is why he's not dating someone his own age, because I'm his age and I'd have changed the locks while he was out for his cig and told him not to bother coming back. Cunt.

If your close friend or if you had a sister described this to you what would your reaction be?!

Your age is not the factor here he's being deliberately nasty for absolutely no reason.
There is a saying which is very true when someone shows you their true colours believe them.

In your case OP your BF is showing them in spades that he's a nasty piece of work.
Get out!

It's simple really ....leave him today

Leave him

I get 25 and 37 just about. I.do not.get 21 and 33. Is he very emotionally immature.
When you are 64 and potentially fit and working, he'll be 76, knocking 80.

Move on up, move on out.

I think you have very low self esteem and he is someone that treats women with low self esteem poorly. You are holding onto things and he is seeking distance. You need to decide if it is worth seeking counselling together over. I personally would let go, do things to increase my self esteem & find someone nicer that is nice no matter what x

Stop crying and find your anger and self worth. You have a the advantage here, you are only 25 and have plenty of time to find someone who is actually nice. He is getting on a bit, and if he had wanted to marry you and have children he would have brought it up by now.

Lucky escape for you, his actions should have severe consequences for him.

It's over. Get out now.

@Fairydustapplecrumble why do normally sensible women move in with those dick arses??? get rid of the shite!

There's a Taylor Swift song called *Tolerate It" about exactly this kind of emotionally abusive fuckwit.

And don't waste energy wondering why he behaves like this, or trying to analyse the relationship or him or wondering where it went wrong and how you can fix it.

The short answer is because he can, because he wants to, and he doesn't love you.

The answer to "why now?" is because he doesn't have the guts to end it, and no doubt wants to keep you around for sex and housework until he finds someone better.

He doesn't like you very much does he?? I wouldn't speak to anyone like this, let alone the person I was supposed to care about the most!

It sounds very much as if he's trying to instigate a row, in order to break up with you...at which time he'll blame you and 'your emotions' for the break up. It won't be his fault!

OP...he's a twat. Tell him so and chuck his sorry arse out! You deserve so much more than this.

I’m sure you’re lovely, and young and great fun, but he probably also got together with you because you wouldn’t be expecting serious commitment for years.

And when OP does, he will find a new younger one. And continue being a stinking creep.

Your standards are on the floor, love. Why on earth would you want to marry someone like this?

Why on earth would you be with this arsehole???

You have the whole world ahead of you. Don't let a man dominate your life and prospects, for god's sake. Any man but especially not this surly abusive tosser.

Radically raise your standards.

Get out OP. If this is new behaviour after 4 years then something has changed and I'd bet there's someone else in the background.

Aside from that, for your next relationship, don't be so passive over marriage. If that and possibly kids is what you want, find someone with the same goals. You might not marry the next one but be with someone who is on the same page. Waiting for a proposal is a weak way to behave.

It hardly needs repeating after all the wise words from other posters- but leave.

You’re 25! You have your whole life ahead of you, and it’s a great age to meet someone new.

also, don’t expect a proposal from this guy. He was mid 30’s when he met you and was chasing after 21 year olds. That’s not the behaviour of someone looking to settle down or have a life partner.

I’m sure you’re lovely, and young and great fun, but he probably also got together with you because you wouldn’t be expecting serious commitment for years.

He sounds hateful. If this is new behaviour then perhaps he’s feeling guilty about something, or trying to goad you into leaving.

Get out of there while you still have your youth, leave that slimeball in the dust. There’s a reason why he didn’t want a partner his own age.

Stop being sad, stop crying, and find you ANGER.

How DARE he speak to you like that!
Just who the HELL does he think he is?!

Anger will help you find the energy to move out.

Go anywhere - friends sofa, family, find lodgings or a house share, or get an Air B&B for three months.
Put your stuff in storage if you have furniture you want to keep, or just pack some bags and GO.
LEAVE the abusive bastard.

25

Me too. Yuk.

You’re 27. You have your life ahead of you. Life it without this twat, it will be infinitely better for dumping him now. Don’t wait.