To ask my partner to walk me to the bus stop?

My DP gave me a lift to meet someone the other day because it was pissing down with rain.I'm quite capable of using public transport and mostly do. Perhaps I should have refused because feminist.

My elderly neighbour used to scatter salt in front of her to walk to her car, from a big box of table salt. She said it stopped her slipping and it gave her more confidence

Ive a size five foot but DH and DS are a size 10 so Id just use a pair of theirs. In saying that Ive a pair of cleats in the shed. I live on higher ground so while the main roads are grited, the estates are lethal in icy weather but our dog doesnt care and still needs his daily walks

It isn't a man/woman issue, it's an inappropriate footwear issue. If thenDH has shoes with grip and the op doesn't, then yes he should help. My DH would drive me to town if I couldn't drive myself.

The lesson to learn is that the right footwear is essential.

I'm 64, have severe osteoporosis, have weather appropriate footwear and haven't been out since Wednesday. I might venture out this pm if the ice on the drive melts, just to the local shopping centre where parking and shopping is under cover

Wouldn't matter if I was perfectly capable and it was only a minute away, my DH would offer and certainly wouldn't say no if I asked. It isn't against feminism to ask for help and to take it (presuming who you ask isn’t an arse like OPs partner!)

Edited to add- I'd have the same opinion if it was a same sex couple.

There is literally nothing about having a willy that makes you better at walking on ice. If anything they are more likely to be bigger and less agile.

Wow, some people have a low expectation of their partners. My husband drove to pick me up on Tuesday because the ice was bad on pavements and he didn't want me to fall.

I get with the shock of falling yesterday you'd appreciate some company to the bus stop. In your situation I'd likely ask my DH too and he'd likely say yes. FTR I'm a feminist and the main breadwinner. I wouldn't feel obliged to hand back my badge if I ask DH for assistance in something.

I'm sure he'd rather the inconvenience of a short walk rather than me injuring myself.

Don’t be so bloody ridiculous.

What do you mean by kicked off? Was he shouting?

Oh c’mon, you can’t be serious

My DP would do this without a 2nd thought and wouldn't whinge about it either. We are generally nice to each other though.

What's that got to do with anything? And not all women are feminists!

But surely you have something else you can wear on your feet with a better grip OP?

No, it’s my criteria for thinking it’s reasonable for a woman to feel unable to walk to the bus stop around the corner without a man to lean on in case she slips.

Why not just get a taxi in to town if you can’t walk to the bus stop.
If you’ve got ice it must be freezing anyway to wait for a bus. Maybe the taxi can drop you closer to a shoe shop too.

To the poster who said that only the old and pregnant should worry about slipping and falling - tell that to the A& E staff who encounter all the injuries in icy conditions, not to mention the joggers who’ve slipped on fallen leaves in the Autumn 😬 Particularly if you’re unlucky enough to live in one of the many areas of the UK at the moment where there’s next to no healthcare - or at best, where you’re likely to be waiting hours for attention in great pain.

There are also thousands of women from middle age up who only discover that they have osteopaenia or osteoporosis after a fracture.

Take a walking stick with you if you have one. If you leave it a bit the day will have warmed up and previous footprints will have melted the ice a bit.

This is the most feeble thing I have ever heard

I think you were wrong to ask but his reaction was pretty careless.

if I was him though I’d find the request pretty unattractive.

It’s going to warm up over the next few days, so stay indoors today, wait until the weather is better, get decent shoes and then you’ll be OK for any further icy days.

I almost went pissing walking from the bus stop after I’d been to the hairdressers on Thursday. By the time my husband would’ve got to me, I’d have been home. My choice to go out, my problem 🤷🏼‍♀️

I know not everyone thinks like me, but this happened to me yesterday ( the slipping over bit) we rarely get any snow or ice where I'm live so no suitable shoes. Went on Amazon and ordered some, woke up this morning and they were on the doorstep before 10am. Perhaps that could be an alternative to slipping around trying to get to town, if the busses are even running, being so icy.

These are options now, certainly, since her DP said no.
And maybe the next time he asks her to help him out in some way, she can point him to mumsnet where there will be a load of solutions so she doesn't have to be bothered.

Buy the elastic chain things that fit over the soles of your shoes/ boots. Mister mint and similar shoe re heeling/ key cutting places often stock them.

I "walked like a penguin" the other day to cross a road.

And I have good shoes!

I get really nervous when it's slippy out & can feel myself tensing my legs!

Here you do have to clear & grit (if necessary) outside your house so that it's safe.

Never heard of the sock trick.

Is any particular kind best?

I think he sounds mean OP.