To ask my partner to walk me to the bus stop?

I assume he's not nervous on the ice. I am even though I'm not disabled and fit as a flea. My DP would do this absolutely no problem. I don't really know why people want to be in relationships if helping each other out isn't part of the deal.

Ffs. Another one 🙄

How is it pathetic. Have you never walked in smooth shoes on ice? It can be actually impossible.

Some shoes have less than no grip. They are worse than if you had bare feet which of course isn't an option. Leather sole shoes for example. Death trap

He can wear thick tread shoes and assist. Like any friend should.

I honestly can’t believe some of the replies. Partners help each other. Otherwise what is the point of having one.

I don’t think you were unreasonable to ask at all and you had a valid reason to ask. His reaction was off.

It's not feminism. It's practical. The OP hasn't got shoes with tread

They are at DPs home so he can wear ice appropriate shoes and assist her.

Why is this a man woman thing? I would help a friend in the same situation.

Some shoes are literally impossible to walk in when it's icy

I agree. I can't believe the number of people saying 'it's a you problem' and how it's unreasonable a request. What's wrong with people? Their bar is so so low.

A loving partner would enjoy the feeling of being helpful whether it be practical help or emotional help.

The state of some relationships must be dire if this seems odd to them

OP, any decent man would do it.
When he behaved the way he did, he showed you EXACTLY who he is.
Listen.
So many women don't listen and wonder why they ended up with selfish pricks.

Is this man that you are talking about not displaying chivalry then?

I have every sympathy and would do the same in your position, regardless of the gender of the person with sturdy shoes. Falling really jars you, as well as risks injury.

It's great that you've gone out to get sturdier shoes and I'd also recommend buying ice grips/grippers which fit to existing shoes and can be used to add grip when walking on snow and ice. They sell them on Amazon and other sites so you don't even need to go out to buy them

I think you are both BU.

A small fall may have shocked you but it doesn't seem like you've been seriously injured, in this weather it's not unexpected to happen. Town may be gritted but there may still be patches of ice that you can slip on.

He didn't need to react that way but he does have a point- you both could fall. Did you ask him at a bad time?- was he still in bed or just gotten up?

Thank god chivalry is dead.

Presumably you can leave the house alone though so it’s hardly the same.

Wtf? Where does she say it is because she is female?

Her partner has normal good winter shoes with reasonable grip, he uses them regularly for his work.
She noticed an issue with her footwear yesterday and needs to get to the shop to buy better ones.
Given that her winter grip shoes got lost during moving, it looks as the first winter in the new area.

She asked her partner for one-off support based on the fact that he is better equipped for the current weather.

That's hardly unreasonable.

If he had better footwear then he was being a twat.

You sound like a very good daughter
I'm glad your DH walked with you in the end. I hope he did it in a good humour. Kicking off was a bit rubbish IMHO.
I can see why you asked him. I hope you find some good replacement shoes today.
Personally I can't wait for Spring.!

Blimey he made a fuss about a 1 minute walk?
Obviously you wouldn't have asked him if you weren't still shaken from the fall yesterday.
What a gentleman (not).

Chivalry is dead.

I know a man that meets his girlfriend off the train at their stop every day and they walk home together. It’s very sweet. Some men are thoughtful, some aren’t.

These posts seem small and insignificant but it’s such a small gesture to show you care about someone and I hate how so many see it as silly.

My DH would do this for me without a thought. He knows I don't like walking on icy ground.

My husband walks me down to the bottom of the hill. He offers because he is a nice person and he cares about me. Agree I am being pathetic but I can live with that. However I'm remain a feminist and allowing my husband to support me doesn't change that.

Is your perception of a gentleman from the Victorian era?

An able bodied woman going shopping on an icy day doesn't need a gentleman chaperone.

I see my elderly mum on the weekends, it’s the only time I can manage it.

An Amazon delivery of milk is just not the same.

But she needs shoes so it would make sense to buy the milk at the same time.

Then she could take the milk and see her elderly dad and check up on him.

she’s literally going for better shoes.

Yeah I’d have used snappy shopper or similar and got my Dad a delivery of everything he might need if I really couldn’t go out without a man to hold onto me. Amazon Prime lets you order from Morrisons too.

I mean you could have just ordered milk to his house. If it’s in town which is big enough to always be gritted then almost every supermarket brand offers a 30 min delivery including things like just eat or uber.