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To ask my partner to walk me to the bus stop?

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eightsaie · 11/01/2025 09:55

I'm heading into town
The bus stop is a minute walk around the corner but it's really icy outside and my shoes have no grip at all.
I fell over yesterday and got a bit of a shock.
I'm going to grab some better footwear in town.
I said to my partner do you mind walking me to the bus stop so I can hold on to you just incase I fall.
He kicked off saying who walks him back home?
So I get to the bus stop with no thought for him etc etc
Anyway I said it's okay il just walk around myself-if I fall I fall
Aibu to ask him?
He says it's his only day off

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Pinkissmart · 11/01/2025 10:13

  1. Dress for the weather. This means appropriate footwear

  2. Your partner is being a dick

Shoxfordian · 11/01/2025 10:13

Yabu, you're an adult not a toddler who needs to hold someone's hand to walk along

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 11/01/2025 10:13

edwinbear · 11/01/2025 10:09

She’s not set feminism back 3,000 years. It’s icy, she fell over yesterday because she doesn’t have suitable shoes, which she’s recognised and going into town to buy shoes with more grip on them. She’s just asked her DH to take 2 minutes out of his day to walk with her to the bus stop as she’s lost her confidence walking on icy pavements. It’s a one off request until she has better shoes. She’s not asked him to climb Everest with her.

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Presumably she is an adult, who might perhaps have considered owning more than one pair of shoes.

rainbowunicorn · 11/01/2025 10:13

As others have said wear some socks over your shoes to give you grip on the ice. Why should he risk himself falling?

ItFellOffAgain · 11/01/2025 10:11

TenThousandSpoons · 11/01/2025 10:00

YANBU. A loving partner would do this without a second thought.

A loving partner wouldn't ask for such a ridiculous thing from a partner

Aliflowers · 11/01/2025 10:11

I think its 50/50 here. Im not sure why you'd need someone to accompany you for a 1 min walk. Its a few feet, take a bit of care and puts socks over your shoes if youre worried about slipping so its not something Id ask or expect. In saying that if I asked my DH (if he hadn't already offered) he'd do it no problem

MyDeepZebra · 11/01/2025 10:11

I can see his point. I wouldn't be going out unless absolutely necessary and I wouldn't be best pleased at someone else thinking it's ok to put me at risk. Personally I would have ordered some crampons off Amazon Prime yesterday for over shoes, or got an Uber/Taxi into town if it was completely necessary to go out at all. Don't put yourself, or anyone else at risk.

ItFellOffAgain · 11/01/2025 10:11

Whyherewego · 11/01/2025 10:00

Does he have good shoes for the weather? Otherwise what's the point as he won't be stable either.
Have you a stick or broom you can use ?

or a broomstick?

ItFellOffAgain · 11/01/2025 10:09

eightsaie · 11/01/2025 09:55

I'm heading into town
The bus stop is a minute walk around the corner but it's really icy outside and my shoes have no grip at all.
I fell over yesterday and got a bit of a shock.
I'm going to grab some better footwear in town.
I said to my partner do you mind walking me to the bus stop so I can hold on to you just incase I fall.
He kicked off saying who walks him back home?
So I get to the bus stop with no thought for him etc etc
Anyway I said it's okay il just walk around myself-if I fall I fall
Aibu to ask him?
He says it's his only day off

if you ask if YABU, why not enable voting?

Simonjt · 11/01/2025 10:09

If it slippery enough you can’t put one foot in front of the other then its slippery enough to need crampons, so unless he has these you’ll just end up with two people falling over.

edwinbear · 11/01/2025 10:09

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 11/01/2025 10:02

Are you for real?! Surely this is a joke? You’ve just set feminism back about 3000 years.

She’s not set feminism back 3,000 years. It’s icy, she fell over yesterday because she doesn’t have suitable shoes, which she’s recognised and going into town to buy shoes with more grip on them. She’s just asked her DH to take 2 minutes out of his day to walk with her to the bus stop as she’s lost her confidence walking on icy pavements. It’s a one off request until she has better shoes. She’s not asked him to climb Everest with her.

ItFellOffAgain · 11/01/2025 10:09

Dear god
Did I dream Women's Liberation, Germain Greer, equal pay, equal opportunities, maternity leave & pay...
Do you need help breathing in and out?

PierceMorgansChin · 11/01/2025 10:08

Whyherewego · 11/01/2025 10:00

Does he have good shoes for the weather? Otherwise what's the point as he won't be stable either.
Have you a stick or broom you can use ?

I think she OP only flies at night time with full moon

fairyup · 11/01/2025 10:08

My partner would if I asked him too. But I do think it's a bit pathetic unless you are an elderly person.

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HRTQueen · 11/01/2025 10:08

I think that’s mean

if I had friend round and they asked me for the same reasons you did I wouldn’t hesitate to put my sturdy boots on and walk with them

CheeseandMarmiteToastie · 11/01/2025 10:07

Well I think you’re being a bit pathetic but he doesn’t sound much of a catch either.

Werp · 11/01/2025 10:06

If you’re old, ill or disabled then fair enough. If not then very weird and probably not an isolated demand.

Emilianoo · 11/01/2025 10:06

My DH would have offered. The first replies on this thread don't surprise me though. I dont think you were wrong to ask, if he had better shoes and not likely to fall.

RichardMarxisinnocent · 11/01/2025 10:04

Echoing the advice to put a pair of socks on over your shoes to walk to the bus stop.

bestcatlife · 11/01/2025 10:04

I understand the only 1 minute walk part, but it's the 'kicking off' I'm not keen on. So YANBU ...

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 11/01/2025 10:02

Are you for real?! Surely this is a joke? You’ve just set feminism back about 3000 years.

edwinbear · 11/01/2025 10:01

On the face of it, you really should be fine to walk yourself to a bus stop a minute away and just be really careful. However, given it is just a minute and you fell over yesterday, it’s really not putting your DH out at all, to stick his shoes on and walk you round. My DH would probably roll his eyes at me a bit in the same situation, but would absolutely have done it if I was worried. Tbh 15yr old DS would also if I asked, although he’d think I was a bit wet!

TenThousandSpoons · 11/01/2025 10:00

YANBU. A loving partner would do this without a second thought.

Whyherewego · 11/01/2025 10:00

Does he have good shoes for the weather? Otherwise what's the point as he won't be stable either.
Have you a stick or broom you can use ?