DH out earned me many, many times over (I don’t want to give exact figures because it’s so embracing) and felt his career should be given preference over mine by virtue of how much he was financially contributing.
I thought this was unfair and after many arguments we agreed on a compromise, where my career and aspirations were equally important as his.
To this end, he ended up moving jobs and changing careers to support my career. Unfortunately, my career hasn’t progressed the way I had hoped despite my effort. I am now at an age (mid 40s) where I don’t have any sort of hope of establishing myself.
DH has been quietly seething for a while as he has seen colleagues flourish and those he mentored secure the promotions he wanted. I know he resents me for asking him to give up his career aspirations to support mine.