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Shouldn’t after school clubs be for everybody?

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Passionfruitlove · 11/01/2025 07:33

8yo (year 4) DS school offers free after school clubs. They start the second week of every new term. He usually attends football and basketball. School sends an invite out via email then we click on a link to register interest. Yesterday I realised I hadn’t received any emails about it so I phoned the office. They told me that emails were sent out and all places were fully booked. I told them that I hadn’t received any emails and was told that the sports coach had started offering places based on ability.

DS then told me that 3 boys out of his class had been chosen for both football and basketball. I understand going off ability for competitions/tournaments but surely after school clubs should be for everyone?!

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creamsnugjumper · 11/01/2025 08:09

I mean the most logical thing would be the register interest and then run it on a rota, so everyone gets a term or say 3-4 weeks at a minimum.

IdgieThreadgoodeIsMyHeroine · 11/01/2025 08:09

ShatnersWoodwind · 11/01/2025 07:46

Thos is absolutely shocking OP! Their job as PE teachers is to teach ALL children how to enjoy sport and physical activity and help them lead a more active life. How does this policy achieve that? What's next, only teaching maths to the bright children!?! Because that is the obvious parallel!

That's the job they do during the day as PE teachers. This is an extra, after-school club.

Girasoli · 11/01/2025 08:08

First come first served at our school.

There are separate teams for a few sports (the places go to year 5 and 6).

BogRollBOGOF · 11/01/2025 08:08

When you select and train children with better ability that at an early age, you deny the others the chance to practice, learn and improve and open the gap up. If you don't practice, you'll never be "good enough" and the gap only grows.

I got DS2 into football too late... at 8. The Covid year meant he couldn't play anything structured with other children for the entitity of being 7, lost social confidence, didn't get selected, didn't grow confidence, to catch up, didn't get selected, never played games, the gap grew and grew. The school team was entirely people playing matches outside school.

Team sports are for winners not for everyone 🤷‍♀️

Fortunately he's into solo sports, and long term has a better chance of contining.

Timetochillnow · 11/01/2025 08:07

Sporty kids tend to be good at sports in general and can definitely excel at more than one but that’s not a great ethos for after school clubs - if it’s over subscribed then the school should rotate places each term

Georgieporgie29 · 11/01/2025 08:07

Yes op it is very frustrating. The after school clubs should be more inclusive. Our previous primary school was the same and they just picked the best for the clubs and those who weren’t as good, maybe because they had sen or because their parents couldn’t afford clubs out of school and so were new to the sports and didn’t have the same experience were excluded.

So you have 3 children there that have 2 clubs and some children have none? How are the children that are not as good supposed to improve?

ChicagoPizza · 11/01/2025 08:06

What a shitty school!

Passionfruitlove · 11/01/2025 08:05

@ZestyLemonBiscuit Yes you’re right. I didn’t mean for it to come out that way, I just think it’s unfair how they’ve been chosen for both. Obviously it’s not their fault though

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edwinbear · 11/01/2025 08:04

YANBU. There’s nothing wrong with teams playing matches being selected on ability, but a Y4 after school club being selected on ability is dreadful. It becomes self-fulfilling, so the kids that get to go every week naturally improve, compared to those who don’t get to play.

Children develop at such different rates at that age that those who are not quite so big /strong/fast/coordinated now, can easily have a growth spurt and become brilliant players 6 months later. Aside from that, all children should have the opportunity to enjoy playing sport with their friends.

ZestyLemonBiscuit · 11/01/2025 08:03

Passionfruitlove · 11/01/2025 07:59

Maybe a bit of favouritism at play too. The 3 boys from his class for example, how can they be talented in both basketball and football

Whilst I agree with you main point OP… this is a wild take that people can’t be talented at more than one thing.

Chaseandstatus · 11/01/2025 08:01

Presumably the teacher is doing this unpaid so I can see a logic in wanting to spend their volunteer effort on developing the children who will do best at the sport.

They have been very good in providing free clubs at all imo.

I do think it could have been communicated a lot better though.

CrustyOldFrump · 11/01/2025 08:00

On the face of it this isn’t great and all children should be given the chance to take part.

Having run after school clubs I would say that some parents use it as an opportunity for free childcare and send children who clearly have no interest and put no effort in which drags the whole club down. I wonder if perhaps the P.E teacher is fed up of babysitting kids who have no interest in football (not suggesting your son is one of them or this is your intention).

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 11/01/2025 08:00

Passionfruitlove · 11/01/2025 07:59

Maybe a bit of favouritism at play too. The 3 boys from his class for example, how can they be talented in both basketball and football

Obviously they can be talented at both, why wouldn't they be?

But they shouldn't let some children do two sports clubs when others don't get to do any at all.

Passionfruitlove · 11/01/2025 07:59

Maybe a bit of favouritism at play too. The 3 boys from his class for example, how can they be talented in both basketball and football

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SometimesCalmPerson · 11/01/2025 07:58

YANBU. Seems the sports coach at your school is more interested in children winning matches for the sake of his own ego rather than wanting to provide them
witg an activity beneficial to their health and wellbeing. I think it’s worth a complaint.

Hurrayakitten · 11/01/2025 07:57

no they aren't. they routinely exclude children with SEN.

holtol · 11/01/2025 07:57

WidgetDigit2022 · 11/01/2025 07:42

YANBU. In our school it’s first come first serve which isn’t great either. It should be that everyone gets a turn throughout the year for free clubs imo.

This is the fairest way.

Didimum · 11/01/2025 07:56

Indeed – so you’re entitled to free after school childcare if your kid is good at sports? Something is extremely off with that.

Is the sports coach a teacher or an external provider? Does the school offer any other wraparound care or just these teams?

Passionfruitlove · 11/01/2025 07:51

@JustMyView13 No but this has been done in the past at the school

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JustMyView13 · 11/01/2025 07:50

Passionfruitlove · 11/01/2025 07:40

I am wondering if they are preparing for a competition/tournament but surely this should be done separate

Edited

Which one? The World Cup? 😂
School is out of order here. I’d be having a chat which would end in DC attending the after school club.

ShatnersWoodwind · 11/01/2025 07:46

Thos is absolutely shocking OP! Their job as PE teachers is to teach ALL children how to enjoy sport and physical activity and help them lead a more active life. How does this policy achieve that? What's next, only teaching maths to the bright children!?! Because that is the obvious parallel!

TickingAlongNicely · 11/01/2025 07:46

When DDs were at Primary it was register interest (so you listed the clubs in preference order) and they made sure that everyone got one club. Popular clubs you only got for a term.

The only exception was the school play which was auditions for main parts, but everyone could get a chorus part. (The audition process left a lot to be desired unfortunately, but on the surface it was inclusive)

babyproblems · 11/01/2025 07:43

Wow that’s shit and I’d be complaining to everyone who would listen. Unbelievable at ages 8!! The sports teacher is obviously a twat and doesn’t share what I would say are most people’s/parents’ values about children’s sport at primary school.

delphinedupont · 11/01/2025 07:43

That’s not on - here, after school clubs are first come first served as places are limited. Sometimes they will pick names at random too if it’s very popular. The school have various sports teams which are chosen on ability but these are separate from the after school clubs and often meet at lunch times or for matches after school.

WidgetDigit2022 · 11/01/2025 07:42

YANBU. In our school it’s first come first serve which isn’t great either. It should be that everyone gets a turn throughout the year for free clubs imo.

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