Would you expect your spouse to share their wealth with you

If you have children together then yes, if your past those years then no.

he shares his brokenness with me no problem, so yes!!! 🤣

@JollyQuail please get a pre nup or simply don't get married. Its such a huge risk financially.

Why do you want to get married? Marriage is essentially a legal document and quite a lot of it is about combining lives, including assets.

No, I would not expect him to add me on titles, however I would expect him to share the places with me.
I would expect to be able to call a place my home while we lived there and to be able to invite friends round.

If, years later, he died I would expect that I would have a roof over my head and to know in advance that that would happen and be able to discuss financial affairs.
If we shared children I would expect the children to inherit.

I agree with this.

@MadnessIsMyMiddleName

Yes, prenuptial agreements are legal in the UK, but they are not automatically enforceable in court. Courts will consider each agreement on a case-by-case basis to determine if it is fair and properly executed.

No I would expect a pre nup

Absolutely I consider all assets shared in a marriage.

My husband and I have been together over a decade (since we were teenagers). We married a few years ago and have a baby together.

My mother died when we were living together and engaged and I inherited a significant amount from her, it was in the low seven figures. A lot of money for a couple in their mid twenties but we saw a financial advisor and made a plan that would enable my inheritance to set us up as a family for life.

This money was put into a shared account when we married and combined everything, and our property and investments are all in both of our names. We only have the one shared joint bank account.

I’m a stay at home parent and don’t plan on going back to full time work ever, and if I do not until our youngest child is high school age. My husband works full time.

His salary is ours even though he’s the one working for it, just as our assets are ours even though they primarily come from my inheritance.

The way I see it we made a commitment for life and we have a family together so of course our resources/wealth is shared. We discuss our financial strategies and budget together and consult with each other on any big purchases.

I know a lot of people would say I’m an idiot for letting him near this money or that stay at home mums are financially vulnerable or whatever but this works for us.

OP don't get married. Marriage is over rated. People change after the marriage ( both , men and women). You are putting yourself at a massive risk by marrying someone who is not equal financially.

Yes I would expect wealth to be shared in a marriage, and I say that as someone who is the wealthier one in the partnership. I would also expect it if the tables were turned.

I think you share when together but protect yourself in case you get divorced.

Yes, DH was much wealthier than me when we met and we have shared everything since we got married. I came into other money after 13 years of marriage and it was simply added to the pot.

Absolutely this

I honestly don't know what I'd have done if I had been wealthy before I met DP. We aren't married, but I wouldn't have an issue sharing assets and accounts noew - we already do and I wouldn't change it if I won the lottery, for example. My children are also his so wouldn't worry about them missing out as they'll be our only beneficiaries when the time comes.

If you don't want to share your wealth, then don't get married. Simples.

I would expect wealth to be shared during marriage. I can't imagine why you wouldn't. I have no problem with a fair pre nup to protect pre marital assets but if a spouse gives up work to raise children, or a long term marriage ends I believe the less well off spouse deserves some compensation.

Me too.

An oddly romantic sentiment. Although linked to love, marriage is fundamentally a legal contract. To both sign the legal document and opt-out of core elements of the legal document seems silly.

If formalizing your love is your aim, you can have a commitment ceremony and a party and save yourself a bunch of lawyers fees by not getting married.

Totally shared here.
He is worth far more than me and I offered a pre nup several times, but he wouldn't hear of it.

Yes but then we were never really wealthy! He has state and work based pension we never count his PT earnings he can do with that what he wants!

@JollyQuail in your case id speak to a solicitor and see if there are/ what are the ways to ring fence/ structure your assets so they are not impacted by a divorce.

I think it depends on age and where you are in life. If you were starting to build a life together, then i would say it should all be shared. If you have worked for 20 years already to get what you've got, maybe keep some ringfenced.

Twenty years ago if I were to marry I would assume assets ought to be shared. This is how my parents and grandparents treated finances. My grandmothers didn't work once married so to that end their spouses were considerably wealthier than them as they didn't have an income. They brought other things to the table beside income to keep the house running and the kids fed.

But now, having invested 20 years into saving and getting a mortgage, if I had to sell up and split the proceeds with someone that would put me and my children at risk of losing the roof over our heads as I wouldn't be able to afford another home with enough bedrooms for half the money.

There are so many questions! How long have you been married for? Do you have children together? When did your money start coming in in terms of your marriage?