Would you expect your spouse to share their wealth with you

if you are married that’s pretty much the contract you are signing. I’m sure you could pre-nup in the even of divorce?

I’m a second time rounder and whilst not wealthy I do own my house. I share the benefit of this with my partner and our family. If we were to split it would remain mine. I will leave it to my children in my inheritance (DP is not interested in living it anyways)

I have been married for 23 years, and we share everything, yes. Wealth, children, lives and are fully committed to each other,

It depends.

If you are not comfortable sharing your assets, don’t get married. Protect yourself if you feel you need to. If your partner is carrying or raising your child, you may look to ensure they are financially secure and comfortable and not losing out with the arrangement. Otherwise you are taking advantage of them, and actively disadvantaging them which is harmful.

Marriage is a legal contract, it creates security and permanence. You are there in sickness and in health. Consider if you are committed enough to the relationship to get married,

Even before we married we just naturally put everything together, and 5 years of marriage joint accounts,house etc still works fine for us

We endowed each other with all our worldly goods..

It doesn't matter if his name isn't on it, he now owns half

Don't do it!

Maybe colloquially but not legally. What is yours doesn’t become mine on marriage unless ownership is formally transferred. You’re confusing it with the courts power to divide assets on divorce and even then, significant pre acquired wealth is only divided where the less wealthy person can demonstrate that their needs require it.

OP get a prenup.

You're not cut out for marriage.

Day to day stuff like holidays, nice house, going out and generally having a good lifestyle, I would expect to share with my partner. The bulk of it which is no doubt invested absolutely not! If it’s a significant amount you need to have a pre nup drawn up!

But what do you mean by give it away:
If it’s eg invest in equalizing the others pension, or a joint asset that’s one thing, but if it is hand over half the cash so he can dispose of it as he wishes that’s quite another.

Presumably this is a joke?

But otherwise we have separate finances, even though I earn more. We have very different spending habits (I'm a saver and DH is a spender) and I couldn't imagine watching my money go in then watching it be spent on the silly (in my opinion) things DH spends them on. So we keep it separate and no one gets annoyed!

I'm not hugely wealthy but had a very large inheritance just before we got married. I used it to buy our house, which DH obviously lives in with me. The house is in my name though. One of the conditions of the inheritance was that it be used to benefit me and me only (the person didnt know DH yet) so I'm kind of breaking that but DH has nothing on paper.

We haven't. We have a prenup- husband doesn't work but is very wealthy, the house We live in he owns (I am not on the deeds)- he also owns 3 more properties. I have a BTL and he isn't on the deeds. Yes we are all in with monthly income- but the big stuff we don't share...

Mid thirties and we half everything, have our own bank accounts and a joint account we use for bills etc. we've been together 15 years and have an agreement that if we ever get divorced we would just half it again. Most people I know my age also do this, we saw our parents go through bitter divorces and don't want the same

Depends how old you are, are you planning to have a family etc

I see marriage as a legal and financial agreement mainly to support the bringing up of children and allows for one or both adults to reduce their capacity to earn in order to undertake caring while the financial risks of doing that are formally shared. It’s a “standard contract” which fundamentally includes sharing wealth. If it doesn’t work for you don’t do it.

Me too - probably not as much money as you but I 'shared' my good fortune by buying a bigger house with my husband for us and kids. ie when inheriting money from a parent.

My DH has always been on the mortgage and we both contribute for bills etc

If you’re talking multiple properties sort of wealth then I probably wouldn’t, and I wouldn’t expect it of someone I married. Especially not if we married later in life or if there were children from a previous relationship.

I would expect to have similar lifestyles and spending money in day to day life and for long term plans to be jointly agreed. But control of wealth - I don’t think I’d be handing that over in one fell swoop. Over time I’d expect some or all of that wealth to be transferred to assets we had joint control over, though.

He's lovely, he has a pension by virtue of his hard work and service in the military and his ill health, he's contributing. Good for them that they have had some good fortune. It's only money, when it's gone it's gone. Wish them well and don't worry.

Goddaughter (34) inherited a number of properties at a young age...worth several million. A big residence and several rentals, shares etc. Before she unexpectedly inherited she was in a committed relationship for quite a few years with a man with nothing, and now wants to marry him. He's lovely, but I'm concerned about her future. They will live in the big house and the rentals will give them a good income on top of her salary. HER salary, note...(she's a g.p), he doesn't have a job just now, having served in the Military and suffering from PTSD. He receives a pension of some sort though. I worry that he won't ever work. I'm very close to her in view of the loss of her mother. Should she share everything with him as a married couple? Solicitor isn't a fan of pre nups, but she might carry the entire family financially..in fact, it looks very likely.

In the absence of a prenup get a post nup.

I earned more than exH, so he got more of the assets and cash, even though I paid the majority of the bills. It stings, but it's life. It would not be beneficial, financially, to marry again so I probably won't.

No it’s fine, for example, a husband/wife can dine on the finest of foods while they watch their other half eat tinned soup.

That does not add up, that is not equal halves.

The whole premise of marriage is unity driven by love in all aspects of life intertwined. If you would feel uneasy about what comes naturally to the rhythm of love in marriage then I guess that is a little bit worrying. I hope you are ok. 💐