Would you expect your spouse to share their wealth with you

They say: don't marry someone you wouldn't want to be divorced from.

If you don't want to share your wealth on divorce, then don't get married. Or do, but either way a properly drafted (ie by a family lawyer) pre-nup.

Yes I would expect our finances to be shared. But I married my DH for love and when we were young and neither of us had much.

Bloody hell, "marry your equal"? Whatever happened to all people being equal?

you Can get one in the UK and they’re legal, you have it done properly through a solicitor!
Talking from experience because my daughters partners mother met a new man and he’s been stung before and left with nothing, so he had one done so that she couldn’t get any of his money or property if they split!

Do you have any actual plans to get married? If so, I think you should cancel them.

If it's a first marriage with potential children, then go all in, you don't need to add names to the houses because by marriage your assets are shared.

If there is a inherited house or something you'd like to keep separate then you can get something written up for that, you could also put money in to a trust for future children that is not part of the pot. But on the whole your money should be joint.

I certainly wouldn't like getting in to a marriage where my spouse makes it a default that they don't share with me.

I think if it's a second marriage with previous children, then don't get married. Seen this film too many times.

If it's a second marriage with no children involved, do what you want - your partner can decide whether they accept.

Same. He believes he has nothing to do with my wealth. Same with me, especially when it comes to inheritance. But I think we are in the minority.

Well it’s in the marriage vows:
with all
my worldly goods I thee endow
but clearly needs a bit of sensible pre nuptial planning nowadays

This is how arranged marriages in my Asian community work.
I didn't have one myself! But there is something to be said for marrying your equal.

When we met we were very young but DH had a flat he had bought with his own earnings. He sold it and we eventually invested it in a new flat.

I wouldnt want to marry anyone who was all about 'my money' and 'your money'. That post about the man billing his wife on maternity leave was horrifying.

Not if they earned the wealth and houses etc before we met. I'd expect a prenup to clarify who has what, then get married and get to enjoy all "their" stuff, maybe they'd give me some extra cash for better clothes etc so I'd fit in, but I would know if we split up that it's still all theirs.
All would be different if we had kids together though - I'd expect more to compensate loss of earnings while pregnant, working pt etc and to maintain lifestyle while kids still lived at home

This is why people have to marry their equals - be it looks, money, earning potential, inheritance prospect. Of course I would be paranoid too, if my suitor 25 years ago was a penniless foreigner - first thoughts would have been 'he wans a visa to stay in the UK' and second thoughts - 'he wants to benefit financially'. How can you not think that? So I am delighted to say I, being a piss-poor student 25 years ago, married another piss-poor non-student. I can't tell you what bliss it is - even now, when after an operation he can't work and I am the only bread-winner, I know he could not have foreseen this situation so many years ago. Obviously there is a thought - is he STAYING with me for the money, but hey, one never knows I suppose and secondly, it is not that much money.

We've been together a long time so if one of us became wealthy, we both would.

We'd never have BTL properties so that's not an issue but we'd jointly own our home and have equal access to any money.

I can see it would be different if bringing different assets and wealth into the beginning of a relationship and I might want to protect that more carefully.
If you each already had children then that's another factor to make sure they inherit what you would want them to which people often balls up doing in second marriages.

You don’t need to be married for that.

If there's a big disparity in assets which pre-date the relationship, then a pre-nup would be sensible. Particularly if it's a second (or more!) marriage.

Not been an issue for us as we met when young and skint, neither of us had anything except debt! He got a small inheritance whereas I won't get anything but I'm the breadwinner so it evens out. Everything's shared.

But if we were to split and I met someone else who had no assets, I would be very wary about re-marrying.

This

Fine for a first marriage.

Disaster in waiting for a second marriage with DC's.

I think there’s a huge difference between money earnt/inherited prior to the marriage and money earnt during it. In the former circumstances, I would ringfence money and assets pre-marriage but have a discussion about the family house. Either add the new husband/wife to the deeds or buy a property together and ringfence the money each put in.

Moving forward, share bills, mortgage etc certainly not give a new spouse half of all my buy-to-let properties - nor expect them to do the same, in case this is a reverse

Tbh I'd there was a huge wealth difference I wouldn't get married.

Marriage is about legal rights and protections. If I didn't need those, I wouldn't enter into that contract.

I did when I was married. Following divorce, if I were to meet a life partner I wouldn't expect them to share and equally I wouldn't either. Everything will go to my DS. There would be a document in place and this would be made clear initially if a relationship were to get serious.

Fairly young and the spouse will be limiting their career choices to support richer spouse and raise kids. Yes absolutely, it's a partnership.

Meeting later or not intending to have kids/give up work. Then a prenup is sensible. If the person who earns less is giving up a property /moving/changing jobs then it shoud be taken in to account.

Generally on here if a man has the wealth they are expected to share it but if a woman does they aren't.

This!

So go and find yourself a rich man then!