Page 3 | To want the bedside lamp on!

Rainbowdottie · 10/01/2025 22:43

I must admit I wouldn't be able to sleep with the light on but then I guess it's what you're used to or not. I love going to bed early to relax, we often watch tv in bed and I will go to sleep earlier than dh, and can sleep quite happily with him still watching the tv....as long as it's not too loud. Other people will think this is odd and unreasonable I guess, if they're not used to it.
I think your dh is not asking anything unreasonable tbh

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 10/01/2025 22:34

minipie · 10/01/2025 21:32

Clip on light would stop me sleeping too sorry. But your DH may be ok with it.

Me too I'm afraid. A kindle on low would be OK though.

suburburban · 10/01/2025 22:34

tapdancingmum · 10/01/2025 21:43

We both have bedside lights and mine is lit until I go to sleep which is later than DH goes to sleep. He doesn't moan unless it's really late and I remind him I don't moan when he puts his on at stupid o'clock to get dressed and wakes me up. I just turn over and go back to sleep.

I would say as long as it's not the big light he needs to turn over and sleep through it.

I don't want to be sat downstairs reading - I want to be snuggled in bed with my cuppa and my book.

Exactly

Floralnomad · 10/01/2025 22:33

Get a kindle , it’s pretty anti social to have a light on , even a clip light , if someone else wants to sleep .

Viviennemary · 10/01/2025 22:27

UndermyShoeJoe · 10/01/2025 21:36

Why should the person wanting to sleep In The bedroom wear a face mask so the person wanting to be awake can read in the bedroom?

If you want to be awake reading or watching tv do it in a room where people are not trying to sleep.

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I agree. Bed Is For sleeping in. If you want to read then go to bed half an hour before your DH and read. Come to an agreement about times.

evtheria · 10/01/2025 22:25

I love reading ('real' books so def need a good lamp) but I feel sleeping gets the priority for the bed, sorry

Silvers11 · 10/01/2025 22:23

I use an eye mask - DH likes to read in bed for a while before he drops off. I have a nice comfortable mask and it is no problem

HereForTheAnimals · 10/01/2025 22:23

I wouldn't be able to sleep with any light on, but my DH likes the bedroom window open, I don't. My DH likes the radiator in the bedroom turned off, I don't. My DH snores which keeps me awake, I snore which keeps DH awake. We are lucky to have separate bedrooms 🤣. Is that something you could do? If not, then being respectful of each other's preferences is needed in situations like these, where they can be accommodated of course.

FoxFaceRabbitFish · 10/01/2025 22:21

I have a Lumie light alarm clock, you can turn it down on to a really low orange glow setting which is enough to read by but doesn’t disturb my partner, maybe try that if you don’t want to use a kindle.

suburburban · 10/01/2025 22:19

I remember wanting to read in bed and arguing with my dh about it.

I like to read in bed. Difficult one

OldTinHat · 10/01/2025 22:19

You need a Kindle Paper White thingy. No light needed.

Wonderi · 10/01/2025 22:17

The person who wants to sleep gets priority.

If you want to stay awake then go into a different room or go to bed earlier.

Nanny0gg · 10/01/2025 22:12

Trufflebutter24 · 10/01/2025 21:30

Off to buy a clip on light I go!

Kindle is the answer. Or go to bed 1/2 hour before he does

NotMeNoNo · 10/01/2025 22:02

Kindle with the light turned down to 4 or 5. I still sometimes fall asleep with it on but I think it turns off eventually.

SabreIsMyFave · 10/01/2025 22:02

HeddaGarbled · 10/01/2025 21:58

If He doesn’t like it he can sleep downstairs

The most unreasonable remark on AIBU this week.

HAS to be a joke! Imagine the uproar on here if a poster said her DH had made her go downstairs to sleep on the couch, while he watched the football on the TV in the bedroom! Posters would be screaming 'LTB! He is abusive and controlling!' And they would be right!

Sparkletastic · 10/01/2025 22:00

I've got a lovely satin eye mask that blocks all light out. Treat DH to one.

HeddaGarbled · 10/01/2025 21:58

If He doesn’t like it he can sleep downstairs

The most unreasonable remark on AIBU this week.

monkeysox · 10/01/2025 21:56

Kindle app on your phone.

SabreIsMyFave · 10/01/2025 21:56

HappyPanda613 · 10/01/2025 21:37

If He doesn’t like it he can sleep downstairs. Keep it on and read for as long as you want, it’s unfair to tell you that you can’t have it on.

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You are joking, right...?

NoNotTodayThanks · 10/01/2025 21:54

I can't sleep with the light on so I got my husband one of these and it's brilliant, doesn't disturb my sleep at all.

ReadingLight

SabreIsMyFave · 10/01/2025 21:53

Trufflebutter24 · 10/01/2025 21:23

I sometimes want to get into bed and read but my husband often gets quite annoyed by the bedside lamp light being on, he says I’m inconsiderate asking for it to be kept on. Am I blind to my inconsideration?

How ridiculous to start a thread about this. Of COURSE you are being unreasonable. And selfish. If you want to have a light on - to read or look at your phone, go in the lounge. The bedroom is for sleeping in.

Daft! 🙄

Offleyhoo · 10/01/2025 21:53

My dh is same as your DH and I've had to accept it as it is the sleeping room. I read on the kindle app on my phone.

AllRightNowt · 10/01/2025 21:52

This is our problem too. People saying read downstairs, this doesn't work as I wake up going to bed. I hate the dark and sleep with a light on anyway if I'm alone and tbh I don't really understand needing it to he dark to sleep, you close your eyes and then it's dark 🤷‍♀️. Our compromise is I have a Kindle, although OH will compromise by putting up with the light for a little while.

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 10/01/2025 21:47

tapdancingmum · 10/01/2025 21:43

We both have bedside lights and mine is lit until I go to sleep which is later than DH goes to sleep. He doesn't moan unless it's really late and I remind him I don't moan when he puts his on at stupid o'clock to get dressed and wakes me up. I just turn over and go back to sleep.

I would say as long as it's not the big light he needs to turn over and sleep through it.

I don't want to be sat downstairs reading - I want to be snuggled in bed with my cuppa and my book.

fine if he can sleep but OP is keeping her DP awake! It’s not fair.. How would you like it ?

cariadlet · 10/01/2025 21:45

We've got an unofficial rule that whoever goes to bed first gets to choose.

If I'm already in bed reading when dp comes up, then he'll put up with me reading a couple more chapters or will go in the spare room.

If I go up 2nd and he's already in bed and sleeping or trying to sleep, then I'll either go to sleep or listen to a podcast or audiobook with my headphones on.