Calm me down

Wow. The amount of inadequate manchildren I hear about on MN only reinforces my determination to stay single.

How could anyone find such a selfish, entitled, shithead attractive? No joke, I’d be kicking his pathetic arse into the street and making sure I get EOW to myself.

Come on women (not just OP!) - don’t stand for all this bullshit.

Same. To have a bath in peace and there’s no way I’d be back in time for him to go to football 🤬

You should so do this! See how he likes it!

I often bath with my babies but then after my partner gets them out and dries and dresses them and I run it hotter for me, but if I was having a bath by myself I know it would be too hot to put one of the kids in. Wasn't yours hot? And if not couldn't you have just said oh no it's too hot for him?

I would be absolutely furious. He knew full well putting ds in the bath was not right.

You want to get in the bath with mummy don't you?
This is the seriously worrying bit. Once one of you starts manipulating your child to get your own way with a spouse, it is a slippery slope and a dreadful psychological burden for a child. You must talk with your OH and get that nipped in the bud.

A talk with your OH about what it is you want needs to happen - spell it out. He may respond that he doesn't think it can happen - but you can't move forward till it is spelt out. To be fair to him it can be very difficult when you are trying to keep a child away from the other parent and they are determined not to cooperate, especially one so young. The task of looking after that child becomes far more difficult than yours when the child is happy to be with you. It looks as though the only way of achieving what you want is for there to be an arrangement that he takes the child out for a regular specified period so you really can relax.

I would bet anything that the DC wasn't actually missing his Mum, but her DH actually sent the child to find his mother as he couldn't be bothered looking after him. The child isn't going to be scarred for life by being looked after by his own father for a few hours FFS!

that won't fix husband.

Get a lock on the door
High enough so child can't reach
Problem solved

You have to give him consequences. Get up earlier than him, earlier than your child tomorrow, and leave the house. Go somewhere lovely - or take a book to a railway station. Anything. Teach this man a lesson. Bollocks to his football training - you step up to give him that break every fucking week. He couldn't step up for a couple of hours.

Glad you have a lock on the way OP 😊
Try she can only say no.
It maybe the start of a new friendship.

Stick to your guns and keep trying OP. With repetition it may not always the case sink in.
It's not easy being a mum, you deserve a break.

My kids know if I'm sat in the chair next to the window with a book not to approach me without a cup of tea and good reason 😆 Best learn behaviour I adopted from my own mother, that she took fom hers.

What a selfish bastard he is. Honestly, every day on here I hear more and more cases of ordinary men acting in a completely selfish way.

I remember your previous thread. He has been a complete dick with this bath stunt!

Edited to remove lock recommendations as cross posted with OP’s update.

If you can afford it, go away for a weekend alone, and soon!

You don’t need calming down you need to have a conversation with your DH that basically tells him that this isn’t fair that he doesn’t just get to decide to go out on Sunday and leave it to you and that your alone time means he parents

It's awful when you have to leave your own house to get a bit of breathing space. Just extending some solidarity.

What is his friends partner doing Sunday?
Do you know her? Can you ask her if she wants to meet for a coffee.
I know its not alone time but atleast it's adult time. Icing on cake is he will have to look after child while helping with DIY.

PS make sure you have to leave a good hour before he will be leaving.

Get a lock for the bathroom door?

Eh? I just felt sorry for the child not understanding. Otherwise yes I completely agree what her DH did was shit.

Handmaids are out....

Leave the house in the morning before he's up. It's extreme but he thinks he can just take the piss with zero consequence. Absolutely shit behaviour.

This is wild.

You don't need to calm down you need a serious word with your husband about what being a dad entails. What a selfish man

My ds's is footy is cancelled this weekend.... Even if it is will he tell you or still slope off? You need to start having Friday night at a mate's house.. See how fresh he is for footy after a night with dc...

Please OP, do this!!

Don't ask, walk out! Once DS is in his arms!!

Weaponised incompetence at its finest. I haven't read your previous thread, but this man sounds unkind. This was deliberate.

Well fuck him

I’d be telling him he’ll have to cope when I divorce him and he has eow at least
He sounds incredibly unkind