One child has inherited AGAIN

Should ops son be emotionally blackmailed to hand over some of his inheritance?

It doesn't matter what anyone says the ops husband's family doesn't see the ops oldest as a blood relative. They are a blended nuclear family.

I agree with your DP. In any case, what do you think will be achieved by telling your older DS? Surely this will plant the seeds of resentment?

Vomiting!!!!!!!

Emotionally blackmail her child for circumstances he can't help? What a brilliant idea!

The nuclear family is considered the ” traditional ” family. The nuclear family consists of a mother, father, and their biological children.

What’s your definition then? Below is the dictionary definition, which OP’s family meets.

nuclear family, in sociology and anthropology, a group of people who are united by ties of partnership and parenthood and consisting of a pair of adults and their socially recognized children. Typically, but not always, the adults in a nuclear family are married.

I would find this difficult too but I’m not sure how much can be done about it. Could you agree to save a little bit more to help the older son with a deposit?

I actually find the fact that the girls, fully biologically related, are being left out of this! That would be absolutely awful- the only reason being their gender!

I feel for you OP. You are a mum who loves your children unconditionally and equally and putting all these replies about blended families aside, I totally get how you must be feeling. I don't have any advice, but I do get it. It must take away the happiness that you should be feeling for younger child having this unexpected financial security because you will be feeling heartbroken that older son does not have

Late MiL’s half brother has left his entire estate to the MALE grandchildren of his siblings. Younger son and partner’s nephew and we think 2 or 3 others.

This is fucking horrendous. I almost felt like vomitting when I read it. I wouldn't want any money from such a misogynistic fucker anyway.

its like me, ill admit at times i wish i had the jet set lifestyle, because i would like to travel across the globe and if i had the funds then id cover England first, ive worked and enjoyed my roles but if i had the finances then i want to enjoy life as best as and make the most of it via eg travelling etc, but as it stands YouTube is the best i got for now, with peoples travel videos, then i do my gardening, again if i had the ££ i could get some more fancy materials etc but im happy with making do with what materials i can use etc. overall i do at times wish for more freedom and better finances but also it is what it is,

@Choccyscofffy you clearly have no comprehension of the meaning of nuclear family.

It is true though. You have a very strict interpretation of nuclear, which is your prerogative, but not everyone agrees with that definition.

Absolutely nothing you can do about other people's wills. But you know that.

You need to focus on what's in your own power. Personally I would be redressing the balance with my own will. But you'd need to have full and frank conversations with both your sons if you go down that route.

Use emotional blackmail bad idea.

I'm not leaving to the boys is just terrible. I can understand why you first dc was left out far more than the girls

Of course you can't tell your eldest about this. It's your youngest's private business. You do not have the right to tell other people about his finances.

You need to be careful with your behaviour. From here it looks like you favour your eldest. Out of guilt and wanting to compensate him, sure. But it is still favourtism.

If this was my wider family (5 siblings) then I know the newest inheritance would be shared between all grandchildren and noone would stand for the male only thing. I've know a friend's family do this too in similar circumstances.

It's sad between the two half siblings 😭 mine have same mum and dad and I'd find it very natural to ask them to spit anything unequal between themselves. I believe they would value their relationship with each other more than the money, particularly as it sounds like there's plenty to go round! I certainly would do this if it was my brother and me.

Appreciate it's a bit more complicated 😓

The money belongs to your son now. The only thing you can do is talk to him and ask him to consider sharing some with his brother.

Any male who inherits and doesn't give money to the females who gets left out is as worse as the prick who left the money to only the men. That is so ridiculous. What is their justification to keep that money?

Your sons have different fathers. I don’t know why you think your older son should benefit from an unrelated family.

Doesn’t make it true though.

My partners half sister inherited from her dad. Should my partner inherited because they are part of the same family?

I think many blended families would beg to differ.

that i can agree with,

A nuclear family is a mum and dad and children.

If you have a step parent or half sibling that’s not a true nuclear family.