Would you stop your child going on this trip?

🤣🤣 good point

I have not gone on an optional social trip to visit relatives today because the final destination is a precipitous street and I’m taking someone who is unable to walk far.

I would have absolutely no concerns about travelling the roads in between, and in your circumstances would allow your son to go unless you have a specific issue with the person who is driving.

At 16, DS was getting himself alone from our town to a city an hour away by train weekly, early in the morning and late into the evening, including walking at either end and negotiating all the cancellations, diversions and other excitements of the train network. Driven by another parent on a cold day would not gave entered into my head as a risk factor, after many years of sharing transport to sport and hobby fixtures around the country.

If they live in deepest Lapland then they should be used to it!

It all depends where you live. If you live where I live, then apart from a smattering on Thursday, we haven't had any snow at all and the forecast is dry for the next few days. So you are being unreasonable.

But if you live in deepest Lapland then you may have a point.

But without knowing the basics it hard to say.

Unless you're in LA you're being ridiculous.

Also, the roads up here are fine (north west). I have relatives in the far north of Scotland and they're all out and about as normal. And I have a best friend down south where it's also fine.

So not sure where you are OP but think you're catastrophising as there is no bad weather forecast for this weekend. It's just cold.

It depends where you live and the road conditions. Everything is fine where we are but ai know some areas are icey and bad roads. Can you check the route in google maps and put your mind at ease or valiate your feelings. I am sure the driver would be happy to share the route if you are worried. Also what is the car they are travelling in, a small car or an SUV? Some cars will be a lot safer than others.

Unless they're quad biking to the Hebridies, I think your risk perception is insanely ever so slightly off kilter.

It’s an unnecessary and pointless journey

You've said it's for his friends birthday? That isn't unnecessary or pointless?

Me too!

This!!!! Also all the insults to the family about the mother being irresponsible and the son??

Give over. You sound bitter and jealous. And now you don't want to let your son go because of your own irrational thoughts.

You are being very unreasonable and quite frankly ridiculous.

Why on earth would you stop him? You're being absurd. It's car journey, not a trek to the South Pole.

Might depend what region of the country you're on, but round here the roads are okay as long as you drive carefully.

God when I was 16 I moved to another country on my own and into a squat, getting up to all kinds of stuff. I'm not saying that was great parenting but surely there's a middle ground?? Let your kid go and have fun!

The journey will be A roads and motorways not country lanes, they have likely been very busy all day, therefore clear. No further bad weather is coming so let the lad go have fun.

Plus if the mum doesn’t work (thanks for including that important info!) and is well off then presumably she has a decent and safe car to transport them in.

I don't know if YABU because I don't know what 'shit weather' means to you.

The fact you've mentioned they're wealthy at least twice would assume they have a good, reliable car. Why would they knowingly put themselves in danger?

YABU.

Do you struggle with anxiety? Bad things can happen anytime. I wouldn't stop my son going on a trip with a responsible adult.

Unless there's a weather warning I would let him go. If they postpone it, will you really feel better when it sounds as though you don't want him to go at all? At 16 I was hopping on trains and going to large cities with friends on our own. I think if you try to tighten your grip, he'll just push harder against it.

When I was 16, my mum let me go on a trip to Ecuador for 5 weeks. In a group of people similar age to me. It was a charitable organisation but there was very little supervision and guidance. We climbed mountains, hitch hiked, did a bit of charity work, camped out in random houses and restaurants - wherever would house us for the night. Got mugged at one point. It was ridiculously dangerous.

Now THAT was a trip I wouldn't let a 16 year old go on.

If the Mum is driving and it's main roads I don't really see what you're worried about, unless you have wider concerns about her driving. I'd have concerns about teenagers driving or lots of rural roads, but not that.

I've driven 65 miles this morning (it was -4 when we left) and will be doing the same back home this evening with my 6 year old (unexpected school closure). Once we were out of the small street we live on the roads were fine.

If you have reason to believe said mother is a bad driver, then it should not be about this weekend but always.

You're going to have to give some more information about the shit weather OP because I don't see a problem in taking that journey, especially main roads. It's not like they're proposing to drive over mountain passes.

Depends where you are OP. I did a lengthy trip on the M4 on Thursday with no trouble at all.

I'm totally perplexed as to what the mum and family member working has to do with anything?