Would you stop your child going on this trip?

No, caring about your children doesn’t mean you have anxiety 🤷🏼‍♀️

Nearly everybody on this thread thinks stopping the trip is an overreaction. You and the OP are outliers with much more anxiety than most people.

YABU. There isn't any extreme weather forecast tonight.

I can see OP’s point of view though, it is dangerous out there and she’s not the one driving. I don’t think this is all down to OP’s anxiety, I think she makes a valid point.

All of us think our children are our whole world ffs but part of being a good parent involves letting our children have ordinary and normal life experiences without letting our anxiety get in the way. Her ds will never forget this if she stops him from going. And if she keeps letting her anxiety get in the way of his life then he may well resent her and want to leave home earlier too

Definitely let him go. He will have a great time and life experiences and bond with others and therefore learn lots more than staying at home.

Driving at any time carries a risk. It's probably no more dangerous this weekend than the rest of the year. It's probably safer than it was at Christmas or in the summer when there was more traffic on the roads.

If you avoided every possible risk, you'd never leave the house, and even then you'd still be at risk of falling down the stairs or all manner of other dangers.

OP, I completely understand where you’re coming from. I’d probably be the same as you.
Fingers crossed, the motorways will be ok, she’ll just need to take it slowly. It’s a shame they’re not avoiding a non-essential journey.

I say that as someone who was away from home a lot on adventures without my parents. There were no icy conditions involved.

Where I am, all the paths are covered in snow, it just gets icy every day. It’s been like that since Monday. The roads are icy, including some A-roads.

We’re due some relief from Sunday and i’m really looking forward to it!

This is a bit much. There is a responsibility to try to be rational - not many things are genuinely 'dangerous'.

Pretty much every parent would be devastated if something happened to their kid. That's not a reason in itself to say no to most things.

There is no evidence that this is a dangerous situation

by the OPs logic the millions driving today and this weekend (inc people with children!) are all wildly irresponsible

OP trust your gut, this is your child, my DD is my whole world. If I was worried about a dangerous situation that I can prevent then I absolutely wouldn’t let her go. I might sound dramatic here but anything was to happen to him you would never ever forgive yourself.

I moved out at 16.
My son went to australia when he was 16.
House partys at 15 -16 -17 nights out and away from 16.
Yes i was a bit worried sometimes but i didnt show it as i wanted him to do as much as he could and have fun live life and have fun storys to tell.
Op i think you need to back down and let him grow up.
Its more about you and what your feeling.
My sons a grown man now.
However my friend s daughter was not aloud to do these things until she was almost 19.
Let me say shes making up for lost time now still in her 20s left home as soon as she could but no fun storys from her teens apart from school and family stuff.

Unless there is a lot of snow down and extreme icy conditions (is it that bad where you are?) then I think it's unreasonable to stop him from going. There is always a risk of accidents whatever the weather.

Unless there has been a warning issued in your area not to drive , or you had concerns about the mums ability to drive then you are being silly
it would not cross my mind not to drive somewhere at the moment especially in motorways

My said no do my daughter doing an activity with her friend and parents this week. Good job as the main road ended up closed due to the weather. Other people stuck for 5-6 hours waiting for gritters and snow ploughs. As far as I see it it's your child and your decision. You can look at the roads and see if they are clear on the AA route planner if it helps.

This. It's not unnecessary and pointless to them at all. You are making it all about you when it shouldn't be. I might need to consider seeking help for your anxiety - perhaps something cbt based

I think it'll be because it's not that she or family member have had to take time off work or swap shifts etc for it to be THIS weekend. As in, they're a likely to be free another weekend and this isn't wasting any of their AL by postponing the trip.

That's how I took it anyway. Might be wrong. But I don't think it's a dig at them not working - just a statement of fact that it'll be easier to rearrange when they aren't having to fit it around work commitments.

If in UK there are no current weather warnings and given his age you have to let him go

just have a couple of reasonable requests to let you know if has arrived

Depends where. If it was round here the last 2 days I would have said no, as weather conditions with snow and ice were awful and weather warnings a plenty, with motorists stuck on local roads for hours. But today roads are fine, no freezing temperatures and no weather warnings

Feel sorry for the boy next year when he's old enough to drive with such a neurotic mother

Hard to answer without knowing where you are TBH. I’m in the midlands and it’s bloody cold but the roads are fine.

Yeah I have family in the far north of Scotland and they're all in work and driving around as usual.

Please don’t text like this. They are 16 not 6!

YABU OP, don’t put your anxiety onto your son, it isn’t fair.

This! Ridiculous.

I was going to say that unless he’s travelling from Ballatar to Aberdeen then YABU but I’ve just checked a webcam site I use there and the roads actually look OK. It’s not snowing and it looks as though they’ve been gritted.

www.meteoblue.com/en/weather/webcams/ballater_united-kingdom_2656565

So sorry YABU, let him go.