do all beneficiaries have to be paid at the same time

You sound incredibly petty. What’s the point. It is not about you. It is your grandma’s wishes, all you have to do is respect them.

Ps. You could give your 1k to a local charity in your grandmas’ name, if you’re not that fussed about it. I’m sure they’d appreciate it.

Talk about cutting your nose off to spite your face. Just supply the details.

YABU.

Your grandmother has died, which is very sad.

You and your mother are now obstructing the solicitor doing their job. You can complete a deed of variation if you don't want the money, but saying you "don't want it because you wanted your grandmother to have it" just sounds childish.

Please stop dragging the solicitor into your family disputes.

For heaven’s sake you sound so childish. If you don’t want your money donate it to an elderly charity in honour of your gran, but stop fucking around and let the solicitors do their job.

You’re being spiteful. It’s nothing to do with grief otherwise you wouldn’t equate your reluctance to complete the form with whether it will cause a delay to your aunt (who you clearly despise) receiving her inheritance.

It is not for you to judge whether your aunt is worth of your grandmothers money, your grandmother already did that and that was the purpose of the will.

Is it not costing the estate money every-time they send a letter?

Just sign it and send it back and stop
worrying about an aunt you don’t like very much.

Your grief is stopping you from thinking straight. Your GMs will is exactly that - her wishes, not yours.

Stop holding things up out of petulance. Believe me, holding on to grudges wont help with your grieving and wont change the past.

Be grateful your GM loved you and wanted to give you a gift in her memory.

This exactly. You really need to cop on.

All you're achieving is increasing the solicitor's fees. This in turn reduces the amount your Aunt and MOTHER receive. I suggest you grow up.

If you don’t want the money then tell the solicitor that you wish to disclaim your legacy so it can go back into the estate. Or ask them to draft a Deed of Variation and have your share redirected to charity or maybe to the care home to benefit the residents. Plenty of options. But at the moment all you are doing is racking up solicitors fees and preventing them from doing their job. If the funds on their client account are accruing interest then there will also be income tax to pay on it and that will mean an additional task for them to complete and charge for. Which again will reduce your mother's inheritance.

I understand you're hurting but this wasn't your grandmothers wishes. You need to grow up and fill the form in.

This is not a grown up attitude. Just send the form back and let the solicitor finalise their job.

You’re not achieving anything by doing this and your grandmother stated her wishes irrespective of your thoughts on the matter.

You really need to grow up.

It seems to me that your aunt isn’t the only one being disrespectful of your grandmother (if she is - your behaviour doesn’t exactly entitle you to take the moral high ground).

Aunt is apparently being grabby but you (and your mother and brother) are deliberately disregarding your grandmother’s wishes and wasting her money.

Frankly, I think your behaviour is worse. Why is it OK for you to ignore your grandmother’s wishes like this but not OK for your aunt to follow her will?

Also, somewhat amusingly, this won’t work so your spite gains you nothing. The solicitor will have drawn up estate accounts that total the estate assets, deduct the liabilities (debts) and list what remains to be distributed. They will then send out the individual shares. I’m sure they’d like to close the file but all they need to do to comply with their obligations is send reminder letters periodically while leaving the money sitting in their client account. They can take their fees when the actual work of administering the estate is finished and probably have done already.

Sign the form. Today.

Of course the solicitor is chasing you, they can't close their file and send their final invoice until all funds are dispersed. So you're just preventing a solicitor from being paid for the work they've done. It's not a good look OP.

The solicitor will charge for their time including all the letters they send you and this will come out of the estate. So all you're doing here is spending your inheritance on a solicitor. And no they don't have to be paid at the same time. If you don't reply after a set number of letters they'll crack on without you. It's their job to pay you the money so they will make a decent effort to do so but not carry on forever

You're being childish, spitefully delaying hoping it'll irritate your aunt. You may not like her, but she is your grandmother's daughter and your grandmother loved her.

I'm sure everytime the solicitor has to send you a letter the estate is charged for it, if that's the case your taking money from your own mother, your money will be protected!

Just fill the form so you can stop thinking about this aspect of it. Get it over with and then you can just think about your grandmother without anything else hanging over you.

If you want to respect your grandmothers wishes, truly respect them, stop delaying. You may think your aunt is a dick. Your dm may think her sister is a dick. She may well be a dick. But your grandmother wanted her to inherit. Do right by your grandmother and ensure her wishes are carried out.

And that means quickly - unless there was something in her will that said make sure to give the solicitors tons of extra cash?

All you will be doing is making more of the money be spent paying the solicitor so, yes it will mean your aunt gets a little less, but so will the rest of you. What's really the point other than to be disrespectful of your grandma?

Not returning the form will only delay your payment, not anyone else’s.

The money will be sitting, allocated, in the solicitors client account and will likely be manually transferred to each beneficiary as soon as each form is received. There is no basis for one beneficiary to hold up the others once everything is settled- the beneficiaries have a legal entitlement to the funds, like it or not

Because yours is a set amount they have to pay those out first because what's left is a percentage split . And that split can only done with the balance. It's possible that you not replying will hold everyone's else inheritance up.

The fact is your aunt was the equal of your mother in your grandmother’s eyes and is equally the beneficiary of her will. Your postponing does nothing in terms of denying your aunt her rightful inheritance- it just irritates the solicitor and makes you look disorganised and disruptive.