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Grandparents and baby names

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garciacherry · 10/01/2025 06:07

My parents are constantly pressuring us to tell them what we are thinking of naming our unborn child, and saying we should use X Y Z names, that it has to be a strong name, giving opinions on names they think are awful (some of which we like!), etc.

Whenever they suggest a specific name, it makes us want to strike it off our list, as I don't want my parents to think they have named our child and them grow up being told that grandma/ grandad gave them their name.

Is this petty? AIBU to tell them that we will choose a name and announce it when our child is born, and that they need to stop all discussion about names?

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achangeofusername · 10/01/2025 06:13

Like the first PP but slightly different "we've already chosen a name ourselves. We'll tell everyone when they arrive"

PiastriThePastry · 10/01/2025 06:13

My sibling has this exact issue with my parent actually. Parent is adamant that they essentially ‘named’ all but one of siblings children, because they so happened to suggest names sibling eventually chose. Now maybe those names wouldn’t have been thought of without parents suggestion, but perhaps they would, but that doesn’t stop parent mentioning it regularly!! Enough so that I was adamant when having my first child, and this time around with my second, that I wouldn’t be discussing names or taking any suggestions at all!

AlwaysFreezing · 10/01/2025 06:12

Tell them a false name to piss them off and keep them busy till the baby arrives.

Let them get worked up about it. Then when you do announce your baby's name they'll be so relieved it will all go away.

MumChp · 10/01/2025 06:11

Ask them to stop it. It's none of their business.

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garciacherry · 10/01/2025 06:11

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 10/01/2025 06:09

‘Thanks, but we’ll decide between us’

Change subject.

The problem is I don't want them to even suggest a name/ bring up the topic.

The other day my mum suggested a name which was actually on our list, but now we've crossed it off, because if we use it, she will think it was her choice (it wasn't, it was already there).

I don't want that to happen again because we've got a limited number of names we actually like!

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OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 10/01/2025 06:09

‘Thanks, but we’ll decide between us’

Change subject.