AIBU to feel a little upset no-one has asked about my love life since separation/divorce

People being respectful I think, nothing more.

For what it’s worth, I’m planning on looking for a parter later in life! Always assumed I would, really. I’ve never wanted children and was quite a later developer myself. By the time I felt ready to date / knew the type of person I wanted to couple up with, all the best men had long been snapped up. I expect I will be some lovely man’s second partner, ideally aged 50+ when his children are all grown. Step-grandmother feels like a role I would enjoy. Not so close as to take any direct responsibility but close enough to take an interest. Retirement will be the romantic time in my life, I am sure of it!

I think people are more wary of these conversations the older we get, as it can be more of a touchy subject and they probably don't want to offend or make you sad if it turns out you're not seeing anyone or haven't met anyone. I've heard kids of stories of people meeting their soulmates later in life, get out there, you will find your person it's never too late!

I'm 48 and got separated three years ago - no one asked me. I never thought anything of it. I wouldn't ask anyone what was happening with their love like as an adult! Close friends you would know anyway as you would chat, and anyone else too intrusive. I remember being in my twenties and older relatives asking if I was 'courting' and I just found it odd and intrusive, even as a younger woman. In fact, yesterday I was called out the blue by a former colleague who wanted some work information and she did ask, and I found it a bit bizarre! Don't worry about anyone else and concentrate on living your life to the fullest.

I find it weirder that you're bothered about this, very strange post

I have been single for over a decade. No one asks if I’m seeing anyone as it’s my private life and if I had something I wanted to share then I would.

Because they see you often and assume that if you wanted them to know something you would tell them. I would assume that too and wouldn't want to be nosy.

I don’t think you’re too old to find anyone but I do think you’re unreasonable to be upset that people don’t ask you about it. It’s horrible and intrusive to have people quiz you about your love life when you are single. I had years of it before I met my DP but if I’m single again I will tell people to fuck off if they ask me about my love life.

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Let's get right to it 🤣🤣🤣.

I can't vote on those options, but YABU to expect people to ask. It's no-one's business, really.

If you're not looking to date, there's nothing more grating that folks constantly asking if you are or when you're going to get back to it.
If you are and want to share, then do so.

Utterly bizarre thing to be annoyed about. You have a mouth, why don't you just tell people rather than wait to be asked?!

I don’t ask single friends about their love life unless I know that’s welcomed, because I don’t want them to feel like I think they need someone in their life or that they aren’t enough on their own.

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I don't like asking my single friends if they're seeing anyone. I feel like it makes it out that being in a relationship is something they have to do. Plenty of people are happily single

It’s unreasonable you are expecting people to just ask you about it, but are not doing anything about it yourself.

My MIL was widowed and when she felt ready she got herself on an age appropriate dating site and connected with her now husband. They have a beautiful relationship. Why does it matter what other people think, or ask you, about your ability to find someone? If you want to find someone, get yourself out there. That’s the only way it will happen.

This!

Maybe others aren’t too interested in your love life.

If asking intrusive questions about people’s private lives is normal and desirable behaviour in your opinion, can I point out that you are unusual in this respect, and suggest that you don’t do it to others?

I'm newly divorced, approaching 60, & people keep asking & assuming I must be looking for a partner. I just got rid of one annoying partner why would I rush to get another?

I wouldn't dream of asking single friends about their love lives in case it upsets them, whatever age they are. I always work on the basis that they'll tell me if they're seeing someone without me nosing around.

I voted by accident. Neither of your choices describes my opinion. They probably don’t ask about your love life because it’s not their business. Of course you are not too old.

Ha! If it's women not asking you, it's maybe because they presume/outright know that you're better off not bothering in the current dating climate 😅

I'm 20+ years your junior and no one asks me either. Because I have enough on my plate already and my friends are probably relieved I'm off the merry go round of shit relationships and situations for the first time in my life. I am free. No cock, golden or otherwise, is worth disrupting that, and they know it.

They are highly personal questions and unless someone volunteers information on the subject, e.g. I'm thinking of dating again or I've been talking to someone etc. people would generally shy away from those questions.

I'm 53, youngest in a large friendship group of single women up to the age of mid 70s. Divorced, widowed, never married. Just a coincidence that we're all single.

No one, not a single one of us, has ever discussed if we're dating or seeing anyone. Not in the 6yrs I've known them all. We have far more interesting things to chat about!