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Ohwhatnowthenffs · 2025-01-09T22:57:52+00:00

Feel very embarrassed, but also a bit worried. For a while now I’ve felt a sort of thin, quite hard, maybe two thing I think coming out of my bum 😩 I can’t see what it is and really worried to look, but can feel it if i’m lay down and check. So hard to explain, is it piles? Or something worse? I read piles is like grapes? It’s not like that, more like a thin, quite hard thing, freaking me out 🥲

Yellowbananasarebetterthangreen · 10/01/2025 00:18

Go and see a gp. They've seen it all. They can help you, set your mind at rest etc. Much better option than relying on advice from MNers. If you've been pregnant, given birth......... showing your bum to a doctor is no worse than that. Arguably its easier. I had to earlier this year......... several times. Male and female doctors and nurses - all over very quickly and totally no reason for shame.

LouisvilleSlugger · 10/01/2025 00:12

If you have a partner, can you get him to look and take a photo?

Bogginsthe3rd · 10/01/2025 00:08

Ohwhatnowthenffs · 09/01/2025 23:28

Is it dangerous? Does it have to be removed?

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FFS OP. How can anyone answer you here. You need your GP to have a look asap.

Nextyearhopes · 10/01/2025 00:00

Ohwhatnowthenffs · 09/01/2025 23:47

What makes them swell? This seems to always be the same? Did it go away on its own. I’m literally cringing writing all this, not good with this stuff at all. Never had before, not even when pregnant

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Constipation, stress, illness, hormones…so many things.
Mine hasn’t bothered me for years. I do know people who have had them removed

Emptyandsad · 09/01/2025 23:58

Garlicnorth · 09/01/2025 23:43

She could try treating them, as advised on the NHS page, and make an appointment if the treatment doesn't send the thing back where it belongs.

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And then, if that doesn't work, she'll look for some other thing to self-medicate so as to avoid the embarrassment of having a doctor look at her arse.

Meanwhile, time is passing. If, God forbid, it's something more serious, that's time lost - because she's embarrassed

None of us like having strangers staring into our orifices; but it's really simple and when you've done it, you'll wonder what you were fussing about

Delphiniumandlupins · 09/01/2025 23:58

Can you use a mirror or take a photo on your phone and then you could Google pictures of piles to see if yours is similar? But please go to your GP if its causing you any discomfort or distress, they really won't be bothered.

Porlocks · 09/01/2025 23:51

It sounds more like an anal skin tag than a pile. If it is, it won't go away on its own and is just one of those annoying things. Search on Mumsnet for threads about anal skin tags - there are many.

Thelnebriati · 09/01/2025 23:50

I'm sorry but you have to get that seen by the doctor asap. If you are too embarrassed to say what the problem is, write it down.

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Ohwhatnowthenffs · 09/01/2025 23:49

Nextyearhopes · 09/01/2025 23:38

This.
I have had a pile and when it is ‘dormant’ it is similar to what you describe (albeit not as big). When it was swollen up, heck did I know it.
I hadn’t even had any children. I think I got it after a very awful food poisoning episode.

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I think it’s actually maybe an inch long or bit smaller maybe

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Ohwhatnowthenffs · 09/01/2025 23:47

Nextyearhopes · 09/01/2025 23:38

This.
I have had a pile and when it is ‘dormant’ it is similar to what you describe (albeit not as big). When it was swollen up, heck did I know it.
I hadn’t even had any children. I think I got it after a very awful food poisoning episode.

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What makes them swell? This seems to always be the same? Did it go away on its own. I’m literally cringing writing all this, not good with this stuff at all. Never had before, not even when pregnant

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Garlicnorth · 09/01/2025 23:43

Emptyandsad · 09/01/2025 23:36

She doesn't know if it's piles. We don't know if it's piles. She needs to see a doctor

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She could try treating them, as advised on the NHS page, and make an appointment if the treatment doesn't send the thing back where it belongs.

Nextyearhopes · 09/01/2025 23:38

Anonym00se · 09/01/2025 23:01

Piles aren’t always like grapes, they can be long and thin, like a massive skin tag. They’re usually hard when they’re swollen, but soft once the swelling goes down. Have you been constipated lately? Is it sore?

This.
I have had a pile and when it is ‘dormant’ it is similar to what you describe (albeit not as big). When it was swollen up, heck did I know it.
I hadn’t even had any children. I think I got it after a very awful food poisoning episode.

Emptyandsad · 09/01/2025 23:36

Garlicnorth · 09/01/2025 23:31

Not dangerous but can become very inconvenient. You can get cream and ointment from the chemist - it's on the shelves, brand name Anusol and they have own-brand ones the same. The tube comes with a nozzle that you use to insert the medication in your bum ... or you can use a finger if your nails are short.

They do come back, usually if you've been constipated.

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/piles-haemorrhoids/

She doesn't know if it's piles. We don't know if it's piles. She needs to see a doctor

Molly70 · 09/01/2025 23:36

Please just go and see a doctor. My husband is a doctor and absolutely nothing fazes him when it comes to bodily functions. . Doctors have had lectures and examinations in this sort of stuff. A doctor will just see it in a clinical manner.

Garlicnorth · 09/01/2025 23:31

Not dangerous but can become very inconvenient. You can get cream and ointment from the chemist - it's on the shelves, brand name Anusol and they have own-brand ones the same. The tube comes with a nozzle that you use to insert the medication in your bum ... or you can use a finger if your nails are short.

They do come back, usually if you've been constipated.

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/piles-haemorrhoids/

Piles (haemorrhoids)

Find out about piles (haemorrhoids), including what the symptoms are, how they're treated and what causes them.

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/piles-haemorrhoids

Wendolino · 09/01/2025 23:31

Ohwhatnowthenffs · 09/01/2025 23:28

Is it dangerous? Does it have to be removed?

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No I don't think so but mine bled so much I had to wear a pad all the time and I became anaemic. They were really big though and I had internal ones as well. The surgeon said he was impressed 😂

Emptyandsad · 09/01/2025 23:30

Gently, kindly and with the best will in the world, get over your embarrassment and go and see the bloody doctor. Nobody here is going to say "don't worry, just rub it with a potato and it will disappear". We don't know what it is, we're not qualified to diagnose anything remotely (if at all) and this is exactly what doctors are for

Bramble25 · 09/01/2025 23:30

Get your bum out for the doctor,OP! I know it can be embarrassing but you have a medical concern you need looking into. This=doctor. Hope you get it sorted.

Wendolino · 09/01/2025 23:29

Ohwhatnowthenffs · 09/01/2025 23:24

How did they remove yours?

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I can't remember what the process was called but they put a kind of probe inside your bum and it cauterises the veins that are causing the problem. I think it was like those nose hair clippers that go up the nostrils! I had general anaesthetic so I didn't know anything about it till I woke up.

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Ohwhatnowthenffs · 09/01/2025 23:28

Wendolino · 09/01/2025 23:26

No, very unlikely

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Is it dangerous? Does it have to be removed?

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Wendolino · 09/01/2025 23:26

Ohwhatnowthenffs · 09/01/2025 23:23

Will it go away?

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No, very unlikely

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Ohwhatnowthenffs · 09/01/2025 23:24

Wendolino · 09/01/2025 23:19

If it's a pile and hanging out that far, it's unlikely to go back in. You can try ointment but it won't make much difference unless it's sore. The only thing to do is see your GP and if it's confirmed to be a pile you can ask for referral to a surgeon, but that wouldn't happen unless it was very painful/thrombosed.
Pp said it's a very painful op to have piles removed. That's true if you need a haemorrhoidectomy, but there are much easier ways of removing them these days. I had mine done and it was almost painless, just a little bit sore the day after.

How did they remove yours?

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Ohwhatnowthenffs · 09/01/2025 23:23

Wendolino · 09/01/2025 23:19

If it's a pile and hanging out that far, it's unlikely to go back in. You can try ointment but it won't make much difference unless it's sore. The only thing to do is see your GP and if it's confirmed to be a pile you can ask for referral to a surgeon, but that wouldn't happen unless it was very painful/thrombosed.
Pp said it's a very painful op to have piles removed. That's true if you need a haemorrhoidectomy, but there are much easier ways of removing them these days. I had mine done and it was almost painless, just a little bit sore the day after.

Will it go away?

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Ohwhatnowthenffs · 09/01/2025 23:23

MellersSmellers · 09/01/2025 23:14

Sounds like they're beyond ointment. Just get to the Doctors. They've seen it all before!

There’s only one

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Wendolino · 09/01/2025 23:19

If it's a pile and hanging out that far, it's unlikely to go back in. You can try ointment but it won't make much difference unless it's sore. The only thing to do is see your GP and if it's confirmed to be a pile you can ask for referral to a surgeon, but that wouldn't happen unless it was very painful/thrombosed.
Pp said it's a very painful op to have piles removed. That's true if you need a haemorrhoidectomy, but there are much easier ways of removing them these days. I had mine done and it was almost painless, just a little bit sore the day after.