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Estranged son asking for large amount of money

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Friartruckster · 09/01/2025 20:52

Wants the money for a deposit for a house.

States is entitled to money I have inherited, set aside for him.

Hasn’t spoken to me in 7 years. Will walk past me in the street and blank me.

States I am toxic and hence no contact.

I am posting because it’s such a dilemma. I desperately want to help him get on the property ladder, but being estranged has had a massive effect on me. It’s a huge amount of money to handover. The fact we are estranged means I have no close family now. Things like adapting to Christmas alone. Feel that money represents my security as I near retirement.

OP posts:
Friartruckster · 09/01/2025 20:54

Nothing sinister. Simply differing pov. He is ‘my truth is the truth’.

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GretchenWienersHair · 09/01/2025 20:54

Why does he say you’re toxic?

frockandcrocs · 09/01/2025 20:53

Unless there is a humongous drop feed coming, there is no way in hell you should give money to somebody who blanks you in the street and hasn't spoken to you in 7years. Son or not!

maddening · 09/01/2025 20:53

Why are you estranged?