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Why do so many people criticise vegans?

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trunch · 09/01/2025 16:45

I'm a meat eater!

However, I don't understand why people criticise vegans so much.

They aren't hurting me and are trying to save animals and the environment.

What's wrong with that?

Surely people should be more critical of me because animals are killed for me to eat?

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Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 11/01/2025 11:45

BogRollBOGOF · 10/01/2025 11:30

The biggest thing that convinced me that I could not be a vegan was catering for DS when he was allergic to milk, eggs and soya in infancy.
I can find pleasure in vegetarian recipes, but vegan food lacks too many ingredients and uses too many UPFs to compensate for things like eggs being used as an emulsifier. I do not love vegetables enough to go near a healthy vegan diet, and there's too many IBS triggers. "Plant-based" not food is annoying. Ok, it's not a chicken nugget- I don't want to have to read the extensive small print to find out what it actually is.
I swerve vegan totally in restaurants because menus lack the nuance to tell if it's an acceptable trace amount of soya content, or a fast-acting laxitive content of soya.

I am not ripe for converting.

Zealous moralising is not an attractive character. It's not that vegans are bad people, it's that difficult, alternative lifestyles are attractive to people who have high control needs. When I was at school before "free-from" aisles and vegan subsitutes in the supermarket, it was vegetarianism that was "alternative" and there was a disproportion of vegetarians who also had disordered eating. Using an established restrictive form of eating was a socially simpler way of establishing control into an eating pattern that was already disordered. These days it would be veganism rather than vegetarianism.
I am not saying that all vegans/ vegetarians have eating disorders, just that it's a filter that is useful to people that do and therefore they are more represented.

Environmental veganism is tunnel-visioned. Often irrelevant statistics are mis-applied to British agriculture. A lot of cattle and especially sheep farming is on marginal land unsuited to reliable arable farming. They're better for biodiversity than large fields of crops. Crops such as palm oil and soya incentivise deforestation in other parts of the world. Environmentalism is complex and nuanced. Generally traditional regional diets are environmentally sensitive. It was easy and appealing to eat vegetarian food in India. Russia values meat for good reason. It is not as simple as vegan = best.

I don't mind whatever diet/ faith/ political choices people make for themselves. I just don't appreciate the proportion of those people that lecture and try to convert others.

I’m not reading further, because this post seems to me to have delivered the final correct and nuanced statement. @BogRollBOGOF thank you.

roota · 11/01/2025 11:37

Hunglikeapolevaulter · 11/01/2025 11:34

"I like cows but am more than happy to eat them."
How can you "like" an animal, but be prepared to have it killed on your behalf, and then eat it? Just weird.
Not trying to be provocative here, just find it baffling.

Pragmatism, really. And I'm not really upset about things dying as long as it's quick and humane.

The same way farmers can care carefully for their livestock, and genuinely feel affection for them, but be pragmatic about the end result.

@Hunglikeapolevaulter I do understand your point, but I don't think any of the deaths are "humane" though. It is not possible to "humanely" slaughter an animal. Even if the cow was stunned beforehand or whatever. Nor the methods of artificial insemination, taking their babies away from them or whatever - I believe that's another point of cognitive dissonance.

roota · 11/01/2025 11:35

macaroniandcheeze · 11/01/2025 11:26

As a vegan can I give you my perspective on this. For the record I have never ever lectured my family on animal farming, cruelty etc. But I can totally see why others do.

The thing is, when you become vegan, the only way I can describe it is like you’ve left a cult, and all your family and friends are still in the cult (it’s just an analogy). You have realised how awful farming is, seen how the animals suffer, etc etc (not going to lecture here either!) and you want everyone to know! You didn’t know, and now you do, and it’s suddenly shocking and appalling that people don’t know! Why doesn’t everyone know this?! Everything would be different, if these good people, kind people that you love, knew and cared in the same way you do.

And it’s incredibly hard for some people to accept that you can’t influence people, and that some people who will always be good kind people that you love will never know or care like you do.

But you have to remember that you were them once too and nothing would have changed your mind either. 10 years ago I’d have laughed at the idea of being vegan, I loved cheese!! No amount of vegan ranting would have changed that.

Personally I accepted pretty much straight away that I’ll never convince anyone to see animal welfare/ farming / veganism the way I do so I won’t try as it’s just upsetting for everyone. That’s why it feels culty, as soon as you speak out about it you’re looked at as a troublemaker.

Don’t get me wrong I still wish people would abstain from animal products. It would be a much better planet if we didn’t abuse it so. But I know yelling at my aunt about pigs being slaughtered isn’t going to help.

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@macaroniandcheeze I agree with you about trying to convince people in real life (not talking about this thread, which was opened to discuss veganism and so is a valid space for debate) - it doesn't work, unless they are somewhat open minded about it.

However I think people are influenced in different ways - when they see the health benefits, for example. Non-aggressive ways. Veganism being "cool", benefits to environment, and also when they see that you are a proponent of kindness and so on - these are the things that catch on. Hence we've seen such a shift towards veganism in recent years. These are ways to influence people which work way better. Mostly leading by example.

On another note I do think some of the videos about slaughterhouses also really do work - but will you find anyone prepared to watch them? Unlikely. And pressurising them to watch them often puts them off even more.

Hunglikeapolevaulter · 11/01/2025 11:34

"I like cows but am more than happy to eat them."
How can you "like" an animal, but be prepared to have it killed on your behalf, and then eat it? Just weird.
Not trying to be provocative here, just find it baffling.

Pragmatism, really. And I'm not really upset about things dying as long as it's quick and humane.

The same way farmers can care carefully for their livestock, and genuinely feel affection for them, but be pragmatic about the end result.

macaroniandcheeze · 11/01/2025 11:26

guc · 11/01/2025 10:45

I’m not bothered by other people’s food choices. However, what I am bothered by is a family member, who upon becoming vegan, made this the absolute centre of their personality. The rest of us get told we are animal killers (in those words) and lectured over and over every time this person is present.

So I personally don’t want to hear anything about veganism as a direct result.

As a vegan can I give you my perspective on this. For the record I have never ever lectured my family on animal farming, cruelty etc. But I can totally see why others do.

The thing is, when you become vegan, the only way I can describe it is like you’ve left a cult, and all your family and friends are still in the cult (it’s just an analogy). You have realised how awful farming is, seen how the animals suffer, etc etc (not going to lecture here either!) and you want everyone to know! You didn’t know, and now you do, and it’s suddenly shocking and appalling that people don’t know! Why doesn’t everyone know this?! Everything would be different, if these good people, kind people that you love, knew and cared in the same way you do.

And it’s incredibly hard for some people to accept that you can’t influence people, and that some people who will always be good kind people that you love will never know or care like you do.

But you have to remember that you were them once too and nothing would have changed your mind either. 10 years ago I’d have laughed at the idea of being vegan, I loved cheese!! No amount of vegan ranting would have changed that.

Personally I accepted pretty much straight away that I’ll never convince anyone to see animal welfare/ farming / veganism the way I do so I won’t try as it’s just upsetting for everyone. That’s why it feels culty, as soon as you speak out about it you’re looked at as a troublemaker.

Don’t get me wrong I still wish people would abstain from animal products. It would be a much better planet if we didn’t abuse it so. But I know yelling at my aunt about pigs being slaughtered isn’t going to help.

5128gap · 11/01/2025 11:24

Sevenwondersofthewoo · 11/01/2025 10:31

Ok for the vegans out there

can I have a run down of what you eat in a day or even a recipe of what would be your go too of a meal.

genuinely asking this as most vegans main staple that I’ve noticed is pasta and rice

also someone up thread said everything is flavoured with curry these days I have to agree there as I’ve noticed on the menu boards it’s there a lot.

Yesterday:
B: porridge with oat milk and banana and half a grapefruit. L: peanut butter on whole grain toast, bowl of home made veg soup. D: lentil shepherd's pie with brocoli. Snack: coconut yoghurt with berries.
My dinners are not that different from the usual family menus except I substitute beans, nuts pulses for meat. So I might make a nut roast in place of beef (recipes on line) bean chilli (no mince obvs) lentil curries, bean burgers etc. I do cook a lot from scratch as don't care for substitutes much, but its very quick and easy when you don't have to faff with meat.

roota · 11/01/2025 11:24

Hunglikeapolevaulter · 11/01/2025 11:04

You love an elephant but you don't love a cow. Yeah, the elephant is cleverer than the cow, but we specifically bred the cow to be our slave.

I like cows just fine. It doesn't preclude me eating them, that's all.

All this propaganda about how bad it is for farm animals, is mostly just that. I live surrounded by sheep and beef cattle. They have perfectly nice, peaceful lives, and at some point a quick end.

You see, I don't get the cognitive dissonance in statements like this.

"I like cows but am more than happy to eat them."

How can you "like" an animal, but be prepared to have it killed on your behalf, and then eat it? Just weird.

Not trying to be provocative here, just find it baffling.

roota · 11/01/2025 11:20

On a side note, with reference to the biological age and longevity studies, all the vegans and veggies I know all get frequently told they look way younger than their biological age. I do personally think it really does make a difference.

roota · 11/01/2025 11:13

Small correction to my post above, I should have said "in areas where soil lacks sufficient cobalt to allow them to make b12"

Merryberrypie · 11/01/2025 11:11

Sevenwondersofthewoo · 11/01/2025 11:00

Yes I’ll continue to eat my meat thanks as I know where it’s came from and wasn’t the supermarket.

I have to as being a vegan would make me ill as I’ve done the vegan diet and was told by my GP to stop as it was making me ill as in really ill, but you shove your views down my throat thanks.

But who’s shoving their views now? You were making incorrect assumptions and people have been correcting you.

There is no medical condition that requires you to eat meat. Sorry you didnt know how to eat a balanced diet as a vegan. No shame, plenty of meat eaters don’t know how to eat a balanced diet that’s why the hospitals are full with patients suffering number one killer - heart disease.

macaroniandcheeze · 11/01/2025 11:08

Sevenwondersofthewoo · 11/01/2025 10:31

Ok for the vegans out there

can I have a run down of what you eat in a day or even a recipe of what would be your go too of a meal.

genuinely asking this as most vegans main staple that I’ve noticed is pasta and rice

also someone up thread said everything is flavoured with curry these days I have to agree there as I’ve noticed on the menu boards it’s there a lot.

Hello!
For breakfast I usually have oats or granola with almond milk, or brown toast with marmite or baked beans if I have time.
For lunch usually a vegetable soup (sometimes shop sometimes home made) with some tinned beans added for bulk and protein. Or a wrap with falafel, salad and hummus. Yesterday I had cold pasta leftovers mixed with roasted veggies and pesto.
Often I have a coconut or soya latte and an “accidentally vegan” snack like some Oreos or Soreen malt loaf. I like nuts and an apple as a snack too.
For dinners we have recently had a sweet potato chickpea spicy stew with spinach, a mushroom risotto, pad thai (with tofu instead of egg), lentil cottage pie.

roota · 11/01/2025 11:05

sashh · 11/01/2025 08:48

Ruminants create B12. They need cobalt in their diet to create it.

Game animals do not have supplemental feeding but still contain B12.

All female mammals are ipso facto built with the emotions of mothers. Well I must not be an animal then. Or maybe you are making things up?

If you want to be pedantic about it, yes, ruminants are given cobalt, a necessary supplement for areas where b12 is not present in soil in sufficient quantities, to enable them to make b12. Just read an online figure that around 73% of ruminants are given cobalt (in order to create b12) due to soil deficiencies. So in aroundabout way, the majority of ruminants receive a supplement to enable them to create B12.

I did not refer to game animals, but in commercial poultry farming, B12 is routinely added to chicken feed as part of a vitamin and mineral premix to ensure they meet their nutritional requirements.

Secondly - I did not make the "all female mammals" statement. Please direct that to the correct poster.

Hunglikeapolevaulter · 11/01/2025 11:04

You love an elephant but you don't love a cow. Yeah, the elephant is cleverer than the cow, but we specifically bred the cow to be our slave.

I like cows just fine. It doesn't preclude me eating them, that's all.

All this propaganda about how bad it is for farm animals, is mostly just that. I live surrounded by sheep and beef cattle. They have perfectly nice, peaceful lives, and at some point a quick end.

Sevenwondersofthewoo · 11/01/2025 11:01

Scaredandalonepls · 11/01/2025 10:56

If a dog killed a cat plenty of people would call it a dog out of control and vicious. You know it.

The dog in question would be pts

Sevenwondersofthewoo · 11/01/2025 11:00

Merryberrypie · 11/01/2025 10:55

@Sevenwondersofthewoo It has been mandatory for a vet to be present in slaughterhouses since 1995 so that’s not changed since footage was filmed. Some vets have harrowing tales of what they have witnessed in slaughterhouses, it’s heartbreaking. But yeah you keep trying to justify the killing of innocent animals for your meal / sandwich.

Yes I’ll continue to eat my meat thanks as I know where it’s came from and wasn’t the supermarket.

I have to as being a vegan would make me ill as I’ve done the vegan diet and was told by my GP to stop as it was making me ill as in really ill, but you shove your views down my throat thanks.

Scaredandalonepls · 11/01/2025 10:56

Bollocksmorelike · 10/01/2025 07:58

Whilst I agree that the mass slaughter of animals for human consumption is incredibly cruel, your argument is weakened by comparing it to dogs.
Of course a dog isn’t “nasty” if it kills a cat, or a cat “nasty” if it kills a bird. It’s a primary prey driven behaviour. It may be completely undesirable to us, and as pet owner we have a responsibility to prevent
it but this instinctive behaviour certainly doesn’t make pets “nasty”.

If a dog killed a cat plenty of people would call it a dog out of control and vicious. You know it.

Merryberrypie · 11/01/2025 10:55

Sevenwondersofthewoo · 11/01/2025 10:38

Go back and watch the time line it’s dated from 2010 to 2016

a vet is present at slaughter houses now it’s a bloody boring job but they are there daily over seeing it all.

@Sevenwondersofthewoo It has been mandatory for a vet to be present in slaughterhouses since 1995 so that’s not changed since footage was filmed. Some vets have harrowing tales of what they have witnessed in slaughterhouses, it’s heartbreaking. But yeah you keep trying to justify the killing of innocent animals for your meal / sandwich.

Sevenwondersofthewoo · 11/01/2025 10:46

humanely just like we’ve done for years quickly @Pinkbonbon

guc · 11/01/2025 10:45

I’m not bothered by other people’s food choices. However, what I am bothered by is a family member, who upon becoming vegan, made this the absolute centre of their personality. The rest of us get told we are animal killers (in those words) and lectured over and over every time this person is present.

So I personally don’t want to hear anything about veganism as a direct result.

Pinkbonbon · 11/01/2025 10:44

Sevenwondersofthewoo · 11/01/2025 10:38

Go back and watch the time line it’s dated from 2010 to 2016

a vet is present at slaughter houses now it’s a bloody boring job but they are there daily over seeing it all.

And? How do you kill something humanely?

People have gone onto these places and found that 1 in 3 cows arent even stunned correctly before being killed.

And the problem for many animals is the environment before the slaughterhouse.
And we're not talking about family farms here.

And how do we justify getting dairy cows pregnant over and over again until they are spent, then sending them to the slaughterhouse?

Even if killing was done right and humane, there animals suffer. 'Oh there's a vet' doesn't really mean anything.

Sevenwondersofthewoo · 11/01/2025 10:38

Merryberrypie · 11/01/2025 10:34

@Sevenwondersofthewoo This was made into a documentary film since which hundreds of hours of further footage have been made. Which practice are you referring to that has changed?

Edited

Go back and watch the time line it’s dated from 2010 to 2016

a vet is present at slaughter houses now it’s a bloody boring job but they are there daily over seeing it all.

Merryberrypie · 11/01/2025 10:34

Sevenwondersofthewoo · 11/01/2025 10:27

Practices have changed as this was videod in 2010 - 2016

i already knew of the happy egg one as I was campaigning too and I’m not vegan

Edited

@Sevenwondersofthewoo This was made into a documentary film since which hundreds of hours of further footage have been made. Which practice are you referring to that has changed?

Pinkbonbon · 11/01/2025 10:33

Atina321 · 11/01/2025 08:20

These things may happen in other countries but British standards are higher and farms would not be able to sell to major supermarkets if they did these things. I find comments like this tend to come from people who have never actually visited a British farm for any amount of time and have got their information from online sources.

I’m vegetarian BTW.

I'm sorry, but you are wrong.

I'm sure there are plenty of nice little farms with 'high standards' but, as pointed out by the poster above, 'land of hope and glory' is brittish farms. There are still activists reporting back similar do don't believe the 'changes'.

The red tractor approved shit means nothing too as they WARN the farms before they visit. And I could be wrong on this but, I think that's the one ran by a farmers association...would you ask a wolf to inspect how nice other wolves were to the sheep they'd corner? Of course they'll say 'things have inproved'.

Also, we don't only consume meat and dairy from britain in Britain. Lots of it is shipped in from other places.

Uk is awful for welfare. Of course they don't want us to know.