They showed up announced?!

What are you on about.
Absolutely no need to show up unannounced. If they were concerned about OP they could have given her a call and offered her a home visit.

OP are you a young mum? I was pregnant when I was 19 & the midwives were very rude to me more than once. I do think it was related to my age. I would never stand for it now.

YANBU at all OP.
Next time I’d tell them you are not well with a virus , they are disturbing your rest, and you will be in touch when you are feeling better.

You are a person not a baby incubator; an adult and fully able to make decisions and take responsibility for your own health,

I’m in two minds. GD can be very dangerous so it was important to check you were OK. I’m quite impressed that they went to the trouble of a home visit.

Equally, though, they shouldn’t have been condescending or rude. Perhaps you felt it as ruder than it was because you were taken unawares? But obviously no excuse for rudeness.

How young are you? Do you live with parents, hence the HPs putting the onus on "household members" to look after you? Because that's a very weird thing to say if not.

I came to ask the same questions and make the same point. Uncontrolled GD can lead to serious illness and sadly even stillbirth. In my experience it is much harder to manage blood sugar when you're ill or stressed, @Snowedon not showing up to an appointment probably raised a red flag.

Please engage with the healthcare professionals OP and please take your GD seriously.

They are not wrong for checking on you.
But very wrong for speaking to you that way. You should make a complaint.

Two midwives, my guess only one and a student midwife.

They're not at fault for checking up on you.
They ARE at fault for speaking to you that way.

Health professionals could certainly have “won” in this situation. Even if OP missing one appointment and rearranging it was something they needed to be concerned about enough to show up at her home unannounced, if they had been polite, not condescending, and reacted appropriately to OP’s responses instead of demanding proof she wasn’t lying to them, I doubt OP would be on here criticising them.

I was absolutely shocked at the way some HCPs seemed to think it was appropriate to talk to me when I was pregnant and had young children. I asked several of them to start again and one to leave my home due totally inappropriate attitudes.

I would be upset if that happened to me

i can also understand rationally why they followed up. Even if you are ill, many pregnant women are going to have a supportive partner who is able to serve as backup for tracking appts and doing things like GD testing. If these things fell by the wayside, then you must be going through this pregnancy without good support at home. That is a concern for a medical provider.

I would love to know more about the background story.

No way in hell would 2 midwives turn up to a house following a missed appointment where I am . I mean it would be great, but it's just not possible.

just a standard check up at GP does not bring a home visit from 2 midiwives.

You might be in a country with a much better medical care (and lucky you, no irony) or you are missing out a lot of details!

I'm sorry if this sounds patronising as well, but in what way are you struggling to take your blood sugar readings? As in, have you not done any due to being ill and not feeling up to it? Or are you unsure how to do it? Struggle with pricking yourself? Did they offer any support with showing you how to do it, or teaching your family member how to do it if you're not able to do it yourself?

Christmas was two weeks ago, I can understand why they wanted to check on you if you've not managed to take any readings at all since then. As far as I understand, you can often not have any noticeable symptoms with GD, but it can cause serious problems for you and the baby, and the midwives need to be monitoring your blood sugar levels to assess your treatment and adjust it if necessary. Being ill can also cause your blood sugar levels to rise because of the stress on your body, so especially important to monitor them if you're poorly.

But they don't know that you're normally a responsible person who has been ill rather than someone who is ignoring the risk GD presents or someone who is in an abusive relationship, recently beaten up and was prevented from attending a medical appointment by their partner due to visible bruising.
If you had communicated with the surgery - or asked one of your family members to do so - this wouldn't have happened.
I would have been grateful that someone in such an overworked profession has taken the time to come & check on me. I also might have been embarassed that they had wasted their time and so been defensive, and then posted such a critical post on MN

OP may I ask how old you are? You mentioned you are young - it may be your age that means they are ultra concerned about you even though it isn't your first pregnancy

OP I'm saying moving forward lying and ghosting them wouldn't be sensible,
Going ahead I will tell everyone not to let anyone in or say I'm not home.
If you have an issue with the way you have been treated then raise it but avoiding them and getting your family to lie about where you are isn't mature behavior.

Just be happy that you are having medical professionals looking out for your unborn baby. Better too much checking than not enough.

There maybe something in the notes of a previous pregnancy that will have been noted for this pregnancy. They had my pregnancy notes going back 20 years.

Thing is, you know you are ok. They don’t. You could be being coercively controlled, or lying in a diabetic coma.

Until they check, they don’t know. Of course you were fine and irritated so they were defensive.

If you felt they were condescending etc, surely you challenged that there and then?

It's her job we should be pleased that they are making sure noone is going under the radar. They don't know that you wouldn't put your baby at risk .
I have read a simple post about someone complaining about a health visitor calling. Professionals who deal with children can't win. They are critisised for checking on their clients and critisised when things go wrong when they haven't checked.

They have a responsibility to the unborn baby and if they think the baby's safety can be compromised, then yes they are expected to come round.
I understand that you say you would never put you or the baby at risk, but they can't assume that and take your word for it.