They showed up announced?!

Some midwives just have shitty attitudes one actually argued with me whether it was my 2nd or third baby seriously? I SHOULD FUCKING KNOW apparently my "excuse you?" Response to her telling me NO it's YOUR SECOND pregnancy upset her and she didn't want to deal with me again I had a senior come over to me demanding to know "my side" I said my side is this is my third pregnancy and baby I don't need someone telling me how many times I've done this she stared and walked away

I discharged and went to another hospital

But that won’t be necessary, because missing your appointment was a genuine mistake and a a one off right?

I'm assuming they did your blood sugar.

OP you just need a pinprick. Literally a spot of blood. Prick skin then squeeze. The thing your put on it sucks up the blood. I had GD with twins and got veeeeery used to the pricks multiple times a day. Required insulin in the last few weeks too. If you're not controlling the GD out so be making you feel rubbish. What you think is a virus may be GD.

I’m sure they would have contacted social services if you were uncontactable.

If you are so unwell that you cannot take 2 minutes to take your BS readings, perhaps you should be in hospital. Not taking them is irresponsible and harmful to you and your baby. You needed to be check upon.

This. Op says she is under 4 different teams so there are obviously concerns about her health and the pregnancy, GD is not something to be ignored, yes, the OP told them about the missed appointment , but they are not to know there are other family members there to keep an eye on her, and GD complications can be sudden and life threatening both to the OP and the baby .And , btw, do the other family members know what to look for re GD symptoms?

Be thankful you have a team who are concerned about your health and your baby’s health OP, so many stories about people slipping through the cracks in the NHS, so try to understand why they are concerned for you and accept the support they are offering with better grace.

I think it’s good that they came, because IF you were vulnerable they could’ve supported you. So I’m not necessarily anti them showing up, but to be so rude to you in your own home? I’d have shown them the door and told them they’d be more than welcome to return when they find their bedside manner.

I‘m glad they do these checks.

You NEED to check your blood sugars and you need to understand how dangerous GD can be for you and your baby.

Seems to me the midwives are concerned about various excuses you are making as to why you haven't done things. They MAY have been rude, difficult to say, and if they were then that is bad - but you do sound a bit defensive in your posts, and they may have picked up on that when they visited. You don't sound concerned about the GD in your posts, really. And you absolutely SHOULD be.

Edited to add: Refusing to engage, with the midwives, let them into the house, etc. will only end up with more scrutiny of you, not less. Possibly involvement of Social Services too.

Christmas was over a fortnight ago. It astounds me that you wouldn't be asking them for home visits, and for help with your readings (given you've been too ill to get out of bed for a fortnight).
That you're angry and talking about refusing them entry is utterly bizarre, and if anything it'll (correctly imo) ramp up scrutiny.

you said you were feeling overwhelmed and couldn’t manage all the appointments et cetera so they’re saying the adults in your household Should be looking after you better. It’s absolutely right when one member is unwell the rest need to step up and they didn’t did they?

OP why can't you do the blood testing? The first time is tough but you've just got to get on with it. TBH the fact that you are failing to test your blood for the safety of the baby is very concerning.

I've had GD, it's shit it really is. Pricking your insulin finger regularly, obsessing over everything you eat, injecting insulin. But you need to do it for the safety of your baby.

And what is her attitude precisely????

When and how the UK became such a country where people are treated like brainless shit in their own homes

What a great service, turning up at your door. Proactive and preventative care. I think you should be very happy that they checked up on you and your baby.

This.
They have a duty of care to you and your unborn baby. Gestational diabetes can be very serious if not monitored correctly.
Had no one bothered and matters took a turn for the worst you would probably blame someone for neglect like so many others do

I think that the midwives turning up is not the problem - you emailed them to say you were unwell and you are at risk of GD and not getting readings. They have no idea if that email was actually sent by you, was sent under coercion, if you're in your righ tmind or even if the reason you're so unwell is because of hugely uncontrolled diabetes. I think it's pretty impressive that they did and the fact that you are not getting readings is a huge concern.

However, it sounds like they were not helpful and kind or understanding and that IS a problem and, having experienced the same (dismissive, patronising comments about my GD... the week after my mother had died so not exactly easy to keep sugar under control).

You can't really opt out of dealing with gestational diabetes, it's extremely serious and can have very negative outcomes for the baby if not properly managed. Being ill is only going to make your glucose control worse, so theres even more need to monitor in those circumstances. Its a very easy test, rheres really no reason no to manage it. It sounds to me like they think you're not taking it seriously enough, which I'd agree with.

If someone is so unwell that they can’t do their own sugars they need to be in hospital.
Can you shower, shite and drink water in the last 3 weeks because then you can do your sugars!!!

GD isn’t a game - you won’t be saying ‘oh it was too much for me’ if something happens to your baby. No doubt you’d be blaming the hospital for not ‘caring’ for you.

I'm under 4 different teams for different things and appointments are becoming confusing and overwhelming

YABU

If you're under the care of 4 separate teams then you aren't experiencing a 'normal' pregnancy and they are doing the right thing checking on you.

Depends who she lives with. Abusive husband? They just don't know. Yes, it's extreme. But they have to check.
Same as when my son wasn't in school due to EBSA someone came round every week to make sure he was OK. They had a duty of care, just in case I was abusing him. I disliked it at the same time as understanding and accepting why they did it.

And no, that didn't mean they should have been rude/treated her like a child. But them checking up is ultimately a good thing.

You will have e flagged on their system due to missed appointment and GD honestly they were doing their job to check that you were both OK. Sometimes when people fall off the radar it's not for innocent reasons and something else is at play. They have a duty of care.

Regarding struggling to get GD readings you used to be able to apply for a free trial for a libre 2 diabetic monitor directly from the website. You put it into your arm and use your phone to scan your readings. You can the upload these to the portal or screen shot them to an email. It's generally only 2 weeks they last but does save a lot of faff with finger testing.

Strikes me that if the midwives were in the area and they felt that professionally they needed to check in on you then they were doing a good job. N excuse for rudeness of course. But turning up unannounced to check on a heavily pregnant woman with gestational diabetes sounds like theyre very much doing their job and bravo them.

Not saying you didn't, but did you greet them in the most polite way? Their behaviour could have been a result of the greeting they received, when they're just being diligent

This, I found apart from one they talked to me as if I was a bit slow, health visitor did as well but I assumed that was because they are appealing to the lowest common denominator god I mean some of the houses they must go in must be horrendous. My friend as part of her work saw a red book where the hv had written that there were about four adults with the newborn baby in the same room all chain smoking and you could hardly see so she had to point out that it wasn’t a good idea to do that in the same room as the baby. Ffs

I had stitches and the midwife visited me at home and said I don’t suppose I need to tell you to keep that area clean do I. Err no

so it’s not personal op, they don’t know you.

Pretty sure the other people living in her house would have noticed if she'd died in bed.

Why are people excusing unpleasant behaviour from these two unprofessional midwives? They are breaching all kinds of codes of conduct by what they did and said today to this lady. We've truly been brainwashed in the UK to put up and shut up with shitty healthcare.