They showed up announced?!

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius thanks for the suggestion. I'll run it past my diabetic team and see if they'll accept it. I suspect they may say it will take too long to get here but it's worth a try!

From your posts you sound unreasonable OP. They are doing their job properly. It can't be nice for them visiting a house where they are made to feel unwelcome. You claim they were rude to you but I wonder if you were rude to them.
Midwives are leaving the profession in droves. They are trying to do their best to keep you and your baby safe. I think you are being very, very unreasonable.

YABU

I would rather a system with checks like this in place than not. It's for the safety of everyone. They're just doing their jobs.

Heavily pregnant. Missed a midwife appointment a couple of days ago that has been re-booked (just a standard check up at GP) and was meant to start home testing for GD but have been ill with what we think was COVID since Christmas. Been utterly wiped out but tried to do some readings. Failed miserably, communicated all this to the team at the hospital.

I was in bed feeling ill, trying to rest when the door went. It was two midwives. A household member let in confused. I was equally as perplexed since nothing was booked nor mentioned to me. Basically I felt the whole time they were condescending and rude. They spoke to me like a little child telling me off, reminding me of the danger I'm putting my unborn child under, and to remind me and household members to do a "better job of taking care of me". The appointment missed was genuinely the first time I've done something like that and it simply went under my radar since I'm under 4 different teams for different things and appointments are becoming confusing and overwhelming with cancellations and changes. I explained that I had already spoken to the hospital about my troubles with my testing to which they demanded I showed them my phone for "proof". I tried to explain how ill I've been and they belittled it by saying "yes a COLD is going around at the moment" and then kept referring to it as a cold.

Surely they can't do this and need permission first before showing up announced. I would never put my child in harms way, but regardless am I wrong for thinking it's my body and I have a right to not show up/decline things when I want (not saying I am) but regardless. That then doesn't give them the green light to come to my home and bully me surely? I maybe overly sensitive to all of this since I've been ill for 3 long weeks now, really pregnant, but I do feel like as I'm quite young that I've had a major history of being not taken seriously and treated in a patronising manner during this pregnancy. This isn't my first and I know what I am doing. I'm listening and taking things onboard, I am trying. But my god I am getting fed up of this treatment by everyone and it's racking my confidence going forward for birth.

Heavily pregnant. Missed a midwife appointment a couple of days ago that has been re-booked (just a standard check up at GP) and was meant to start home testing for GD but have been ill with what we think was COVID since Christmas. Been utterly wiped out but tried to do some readings. Failed miserably, communicated all this to the team at the hospital.

I was in bed feeling ill, trying to rest when the door went. It was two midwives. A household member let in confused. I was equally as perplexed since nothing was booked nor mentioned to me. Basically I felt the whole time they were condescending and rude. They spoke to me like a little child telling me off, reminding me of the danger I'm putting my unborn child under, and to remind me and household members to do a "better job of taking care of me". The appointment missed was genuinely the first time I've done something like that and it simply went under my radar since I'm under 4 different teams for different things and appointments are becoming confusing and overwhelming with cancellations and changes. I explained that I had already spoken to the hospital about my troubles with my testing to which they demanded I showed them my phone for "proof". I tried to explain how ill I've been and they belittled it by saying "yes a COLD is going around at the moment" and then kept referring to it as a cold.

Surely they can't do this and need permission first before showing up announced. I would never put my child in harms way, but regardless am I wrong for thinking it's my body and I have a right to not show up/decline things when I want (not saying I am) but regardless. That then doesn't give them the green light to come to my home and bully me surely? I maybe overly sensitive to all of this since I've been ill for 3 long weeks now, really pregnant, but I do feel like as I'm quite young that I've had a major history of being not taken seriously and treated in a patronising manner during this pregnancy. This isn't my first and I know what I am doing. I'm listening and taking things onboard, I am trying. But my god I am getting fed up of this treatment by everyone and it's racking my confidence going forward for birth.

Heavily pregnant. Missed a midwife appointment a couple of days ago that has been re-booked (just a standard check up at GP) and was meant to start home testing for GD but have been ill with what we think was COVID since Christmas. Been utterly wiped out but tried to do some readings. Failed miserably, communicated all this to the team at the hospital.

I was in bed feeling ill, trying to rest when the door went. It was two midwives. A household member let in confused. I was equally as perplexed since nothing was booked nor mentioned to me. Basically I felt the whole time they were condescending and rude. They spoke to me like a little child telling me off, reminding me of the danger I'm putting my unborn child under, and to remind me and household members to do a "better job of taking care of me". The appointment missed was genuinely the first time I've done something like that and it simply went under my radar since I'm under 4 different teams for different things and appointments are becoming confusing and overwhelming with cancellations and changes. I explained that I had already spoken to the hospital about my troubles with my testing to which they demanded I showed them my phone for "proof". I tried to explain how ill I've been and they belittled it by saying "yes a COLD is going around at the moment" and then kept referring to it as a cold.

Surely they can't do this and need permission first before showing up announced. I would never put my child in harms way, but regardless am I wrong for thinking it's my body and I have a right to not show up/decline things when I want (not saying I am) but regardless. That then doesn't give them the green light to come to my home and bully me surely? I maybe overly sensitive to all of this since I've been ill for 3 long weeks now, really pregnant, but I do feel like as I'm quite young that I've had a major history of being not taken seriously and treated in a patronising manner during this pregnancy. This isn't my first and I know what I am doing. I'm listening and taking things onboard, I am trying. But my god I am getting fed up of this treatment by everyone and it's racking my confidence going forward for birth.

Just be happy that you are having medical professionals looking out for your unborn baby. Better too much checking than not enough.

The UK is utterly mental with its hero worship of authority 😂 OP should be punished through institutional scrutiny because she didn't like inappropriate (demanding proof on a phone, as though they're the police) and patronising contact? For goodness sake

That sounds OTT. More concerning is how you said it was covid and they called it a cold. These are people dealing with pregnant women and babies. Wtf is the matter with them and how dare they endanger others they are meant to be looking after just because of their ignorant attitude.

You don’t know nothing has changed, you only have the other persons say so events have happened as she says so. She might have been hostile from the get go. They may not have been nasty at all. Wouldn’t it be nice to get the other side of this story but that is not allowed they have no defence because they are not allowed to speak & rightly so. Think non treatment of medical conditions also if not more so have a negative outcome on good birth outcomes I am sure you would agree. No one goes into the job wanting to cause distress they go into the job to help but at times patients can be frustrating when plans are made & not kept & contact is not made. The job is hard enough working within a system not working. Fear is an emotion that is felt by lots of professionals because they see the outcomes that you don’t.

Also to confirm - have not been diagnosed with GD. It's been suspected because of baby being slightly above average on my 20 week growth scan. The test is being done to see if I have it. I can't do gtt because of fasting and suffering with severe reflux/sickness during half my pregnancy. The "morning" sickness was so bad I couldn't drink water. That has fortunately calmed down now however the reflux is still bad as it was something I had before pregnancy and has been amplified by it.

Why on earth do you think midwives have to be nasty to provide a life saving service? In what way has OP‘s experience shown the validity of their actions? She isn’t any “safer”. Nothing at all has changed for the better because of their visit and several things have changed for the worse - she is more stressed, more tired and trusts her HCPs less. All of which are negatively associated with good birth outcomes.

It's not. Maybe once if twice but not for weeks, Christmas was weeks ago - it's not difficult to take readings

Can I ask which is more important her feelings or her babies life because that’s what it comes down too. I have seen diabetic women not caring for their condition ending up on the at risk register of their unborn. She isn’t some young girl she is in her late 20’s I am sure they have tried to ring her before turning up to check on her why wouldn’t she answered the phone or rung them. Usually community midwife gives her work mobile to patients.

Really? When they spoke to her like a child and demanded to check her phone and read her emails?? Jesus, you're just the type to bend over on command, aren't you? Totally brainwashed into thinking women should be grateful for shoddy awful maternity care.