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This is grim, yes?

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loveawineloveacrisp · 09/01/2025 13:50

Gym changing rooms. Woman sat butt naked on vinyl type benches while she rubbed body lotion in for about 10 mins. Bare arse and foof all over furniture which others are using. Put some knickers on ffs, I don't care if you're naked but please don't rub your lady bits all over the furniture 🤮

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BoldAmberDuck · 13/01/2025 07:33

ruethewhirl · 12/01/2025 23:20

Exactly. And apparently if we're not, we're misogynists. 🙄

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This has me laughing a lot! I am imagining the woman whose unfortunate fanny and bum hole was squished to the vinyl seat wondering if it’s her we are talking about ! Hopefully this post will instil a sense of shame and future decorum, particularly the lady who was mentioned blow drying her bits in front of 5 year olds. It’s foul and disgusting, I know it, you know it, we all know it! 🤮

SwingTheMonkey · 13/01/2025 03:56

SnowFrogJelly · 12/01/2025 23:43

I was thinking the same thing. If it were any private part of a male anatomy it’d be ‘urgh, disgusting’. But because it’s a magical vulva, we should all be in awe.

I'm amazed any of you managed to have kids.. why are you all so weird about people's bodies

I really cannot see the link between thinking a stranger in the gym should avoid her private parts coming into contact with a public bench and having children…

Frillysweetpea · 13/01/2025 00:44

Newsenmum · 12/01/2025 19:24

I just find the hypocrisy funny.
Floppy penis = no
squishy vulva = ok and VERY clean

Has anyone said that? If so, I missed it. I don't want any penises in the female changing rooms but have zero problem with naked people of either sex, fresh from the shower, sitting on a bench.

SnowFrogJelly · 12/01/2025 23:43

Bodies are generally not unhygienic or grim

SnowFrogJelly · 12/01/2025 23:43

I was thinking the same thing. If it were any private part of a male anatomy it’d be ‘urgh, disgusting’. But because it’s a magical vulva, we should all be in awe.

I'm amazed any of you managed to have kids.. why are you all so weird about people's bodies

Pussycat22 · 12/01/2025 23:30

Chuchoter · 09/01/2025 13:58

'Get your stench off the bench!' has a nice ring to it.

Or get your perineum off the bench!!

ruethewhirl · 12/01/2025 23:20

SwingTheMonkey · 12/01/2025 22:03

I was thinking the same thing. If it were any private part of a male anatomy it’d be ‘urgh, disgusting’. But because it’s a magical vulva, we should all be in awe.

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Exactly. And apparently if we're not, we're misogynists. 🙄

CherryFlan · 12/01/2025 23:07

Spondoolie · 12/01/2025 22:08

Whaaaat?!

why are you all such prudes?

and to those who mentioned vaginal discharge??! Wtf? Does it pour out of your clean foof? I’ve never had any so cannot see how its a concern to a bench… ?

Do look out for any thread with the word grim in the title - it's guaranteed to be excellent entertainment value, with crazy judgementalism, unhinged tantrums and competitive hygiene standards. It turns out that adding in tits, fannies and arses takes it to a whole new level Grin

Disturbia81 · 12/01/2025 23:01

Spondoolie · 12/01/2025 22:08

Whaaaat?!

why are you all such prudes?

and to those who mentioned vaginal discharge??! Wtf? Does it pour out of your clean foof? I’ve never had any so cannot see how its a concern to a bench… ?

Prudes? Wtf? For being hygenic?
I've heard it all now 😂😂

Spondoolie · 12/01/2025 22:08

Whaaaat?!

why are you all such prudes?

and to those who mentioned vaginal discharge??! Wtf? Does it pour out of your clean foof? I’ve never had any so cannot see how its a concern to a bench… ?

SwingTheMonkey · 12/01/2025 22:03

Newsenmum · 12/01/2025 19:24

I just find the hypocrisy funny.
Floppy penis = no
squishy vulva = ok and VERY clean

I was thinking the same thing. If it were any private part of a male anatomy it’d be ‘urgh, disgusting’. But because it’s a magical vulva, we should all be in awe.

CherryFlan · 12/01/2025 19:45

SabreIsMyFave · 12/01/2025 17:06

Well, yeah, who the fuck wants to be handling money that some woman has had stuffed in her sweaty bra? 🤢 And as a pp said, imagine the amount of germs you have against your tits with all that dirty paper money in there?! 😖

This dirty fecker - from Dickinson's Real Deal - is someone who buys stuff in the auctions, and when she produces her money, she pulls it out of her bra. 😱

Makes me feel sick to my stomach to watch it, and it's made me stop watching the show. Gross as fuck. 🤢 The woman is utterly grim! 😖

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I'm struggling to work out whether these posts are entering the realms of parody now Grin

MarvellousMonsters · 12/01/2025 19:34

loveawineloveacrisp · 11/01/2025 11:18

It takes zero effort or time to put a pair of knickers on though. Completely needless to sit there butt naked for ages.

Or sit on your towel. I'm grossed out at how cold and uncomfortable a vinyl type bench would be on my bare arse.

Newsenmum · 12/01/2025 19:24

I just find the hypocrisy funny.
Floppy penis = no
squishy vulva = ok and VERY clean

Justleaveitblankthen · 12/01/2025 19:18

Nc335799544 · 09/01/2025 14:21

Absolutely grim. Gym/fitness studio hygiene in general absolutely icks me out.

I do a lot of Yoga and have been dubious for a while over the hygiene of the studio-provided mats, despite the fact people are supposed to wipe them after use. Wanted to buy my own one of the same quality but the brand is very expensive so kept talking myself out of it. Walked into a class the other day and a woman with feet covered in massive verrucas was using one of the mats and that was my final straw, ordered the costly mat on my journey home! 🤢

Yuk! Yet another reason for me to avoid Yoga!
I always thought at least socks were worn 🤔
I hate walking in bare feet. I wear flip flops to walk to my own shower 😂

SabreIsMyFave · 12/01/2025 17:06

CherryFlan · 12/01/2025 14:35

Have tits been declared unhygienic now as well as fannies? I'm so festooned with germs it's amazing that I'm still here.

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Well, yeah, who the fuck wants to be handling money that some woman has had stuffed in her sweaty bra? 🤢 And as a pp said, imagine the amount of germs you have against your tits with all that dirty paper money in there?! 😖

This dirty fecker - from Dickinson's Real Deal - is someone who buys stuff in the auctions, and when she produces her money, she pulls it out of her bra. 😱

Makes me feel sick to my stomach to watch it, and it's made me stop watching the show. Gross as fuck. 🤢 The woman is utterly grim! 😖

This is grim, yes?
MidnightMeltdown · 12/01/2025 16:27

Have tits been declared unhygienic now as well as fannies?

@CherryFlan I would say yes if you're going to put your semen and faeces infested cash into your bra. Why anybody would want to put something that has been passed around the general public, into their underwear, is beyond me.

Allthenameshavegone1972 · 12/01/2025 16:07

AD1509 · 09/01/2025 14:15

I posted something similar a while back about an older lady who enjoyed coming into the family changing bay every swimming lesson session, ignoring the many many empty bays, butt naked, one leg hoisted up on the bench E45ing herself head to toe- whilst giving all the waist height 5 year olds quite the eyeful. She also liked to follow up with a full body blow dry too, with foof blow out. I did have posters popping up to tell me I was being ageist….

Those poor kids, what 5 year old wants an eyeful of anybody's - male or female - genitals! Some people just love to show off & have no respect for other people

SexAndCakes · 12/01/2025 16:05

Unrelated38 · 09/01/2025 14:00

Grim for her, people put their dirty trainers on there to tie laces. Or verrucad, athletes footed manky feet. Backpacks that have been on bus floors. Last place I'd want my freshly washed (or otherwise) foof.

Yeah, it's not great but I think the bigger health risks are to her. I think best to assume the gym is fairly unsanitary all round.

Allthenameshavegone1972 · 12/01/2025 16:00

@AnnunciataM was it a lady's only sauna? I can imagine if a man had laid there stark naked, legs akimbo with his family jewels on show, that he'd have been ejected!

Polkadotbabushka · 12/01/2025 15:58

Always find these people creepy!

Allthenameshavegone1972 · 12/01/2025 15:56

@dairydebris are you "Sheila" by any chance? 😅

BoldAmberDuck · 12/01/2025 15:48

CherryFlan · 12/01/2025 15:45

Homophobia and misogyny neatly combined!

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Really? How?

CherryFlan · 12/01/2025 15:48

CarolinaWren · 12/01/2025 15:45

Apparently belly buttons have the highest microbial count on the body, but no one seems concerned about that. 🤪

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Thanks for the tip. I would have thought that for the judgemental Gatekeepers of "Grim" hands must be quite nauseating objects of disgust!

Disturbia81 · 12/01/2025 15:47

@dairydebris There you are going to extremes again. It's not about finding bodies disgusting, we own one FFS. And I personally love ladies private parts.

But same as snot, piss, shit.. we want as least contact with other peoples bodily juices as possible. For hygiene, smell, health reasons. We all have to function together in this world, just keep it covered and clean and then it's nice for everyone.