This is grim, yes?

I'm with you, I think some of the comments on here are childish and whiff of internalised misogyny.

It's a changing room and granted I'd never sit on a bench without a towel (mainly because people put their shoes on them to tie their laces). But it is a changing room, for women, with female bodies. If it's an open changing room with hardly any cubicles like my gym then I'm not sure what people expect.

The woman in question was older and quite honestly I love older women, they often have no more f*cks to give about your opinion on their bodies or anything else.

I wonder if we were at the same gym?! The management eventually put up signs to say that hairdryers were to be used only on head hair! 🙈 There always one (or two!) I’d say… Who have no awareness of etiquette.

I used to work in a spa and a woman shaved her fanny over a bench in the changing room when a therapist was putting her stuff in a locker.
When her friend asked her if she was going to clean it up she said ‘they have cleaning staff here to do that’ and left it…some people are just gross

*I agree. It's not something I would do, but couldn't care less if someone else did. Also, I've never had so much discharge ever that it was going to end up on a bench I was sitting on for a few minutes.

Tbh the word "grim" used in this context is far more unappealing*

Agree.. MN posters are sooo precious

I agree. It's not something I would do, but couldn't care less if someone else did. Also, I've never had so much discharge ever that it was going to end up on a bench I was sitting on for a few minutes.

Tbh the word "grim" used in this context is far more unappealing.

Has she come straight from the shower? I don't mean a quick rinse in her cozzy but from a private cubicle where she has, presumably, used shower gel? If so, I don't see what is wrong with this. To be blunt, she is not going to discharge anything onto the seat in a few minutes. I think it is a pita that women are so coy in the changing rooms, juggling towels and robes, as if we haven't all got the same bits.

This is a good example of why I can't stand the gym. It's all too close for me.

I’ve had a really shite week and today’s been a total shocker. This thread has had me in absolute fits of laughter. Thanks all. I needed you! x

I used to go to a gym where every morning, a lady used to shower, then from her locker produce cereal and a pint of milk, pour it, and wander round the changing area stark naked eating it. Unecessary.

That is just so 🤢. Shower when you get home. Arrive at gym with your gear on already. Find a new gym 😂

Changing room, legs go boom, don't put it on zoom

Urgh, this thread is giving me flashbacks to the swimming pool changing room with my dad in the 80's, saggy balls and willies everywhere. Thank god for changing villages with cubicles nowadays!

I agree with previous posters that there is definitely an element of performance with some of these gym users, whether they want to make people feel uncomfortable or want attention, it's hard to tell.

I don’t sit on the bench with sweaty leggings in either. I either a. Don’t sit b. Sit on s towel c. Have a shower and don’t sit down at all

My DH saw a guy in his gym who, after putting his jeans on, pulled them back down halfway to dry his hairy arse with the hairdryer for several minutes.

I think I’d have to say something. Manners and modesty

So true, I hate it

Yep gross! Same with people who don't wear underwear.

Ooh, I love a quick blast all
over with the cold air from the hairdryer to make sure I’m fully dried! I do this surreptitiously though and when it’s quiet . . . Usually behind my towel! Menopause has a lot to answer for . . .

She is said to have been about 70. Speaking as a women of 65, I can tell you that being dry as a bone is more likely. I don’t know what kind of fanny issues some women on this thread have had, but a freshly washed and dried body won’t be dripping unless a women is menstruating and failing to wear a tampon.

Some of the posts on this thread suggest a pathological disquiet with the human body. I assume they won’t be putting their own naked bottoms on the bench, so what are they afraid of?

This 👆 people sit down in sweaty, bacteria laden leggings and often put their shoes in footwear on the benches whilst tying laces. I personally wouldn’t sit naked on a gym changing room bench, but that would be so my clean skin didn’t pick up something nasty, not out of concern that my clean skin would contaminate the bench.

Oh gosh wouldn't it burn?

Oh god yes it is grim. Years ago I was in a gym changing room and a naked woman put one leg up on a bench and inserted a tampon 🤣 I was horrified, still am 🤣🤣

I think your description is 'grimmer' than her actions tbh. Who on earth describes a woman sitting on a bench as 'rubbing her lady bits all over it". It's the sort of thing a pervy man would say. Ask the gym to put signs up or something.