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To pack up and go abroad with DD for 3 months in September

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Journeyintomelody · 09/01/2025 13:04

Before I had DD I acted on all of my whims and crazy ideas without hesitation but I'm really not sure about this one. I was thinking of NZ or Cyprus for 3 months before I go back to work. DD would be 18 months. I don't feel like I have anything holding us back. The only thing I can think of is that it might be unfair to take DD away from her grandad who she has grown up with. Have you or would you do this? Any recommendations of places to go? 🤞

Be honest in the comments. Should I keep this as a dream or could it be workable?

YABU- better to give DD stability and keep her in the area she is familiar with
YANBU- go on adventure, its your last chance to do this for a long time.

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Nerdlings · 09/01/2025 13:12

Tubetrain · 09/01/2025 13:06

What about her Dad?

I would also like to know this.

Journeyintomelody · 09/01/2025 13:11

Fupoffyagrasshole · 09/01/2025 13:10

just did it went to Thailand with 4 month old and 3 year old - wanted to make the most of my maternity leave

it was amazing

do it

You are incredible. Sounds like so much fun!!

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Journeyintomelody · 09/01/2025 13:10

minipie · 09/01/2025 13:08

No issues in principle assuming you are a single mum but how would it work financially? Do you have enough savings? Could you get a job easily on return? Also are you legally allowed to remain in those countries for 3 months, I don’t know the rules.

Yes, single mum. I have enough savings. Not worried about getting a job when I get back. You can stay 90 days in Cyprus, longer in NZ.

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Fupoffyagrasshole · 09/01/2025 13:10

just did it went to Thailand with 4 month old and 3 year old - wanted to make the most of my maternity leave

it was amazing

do it

minipie · 09/01/2025 13:08

No issues in principle assuming you are a single mum but how would it work financially? Do you have enough savings? Could you get a job easily on return? Also are you legally allowed to remain in those countries for 3 months, I don’t know the rules.

Tubetrain · 09/01/2025 13:06

What about her Dad?