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Is it disrespectful/problematic to take a sex toy in hand luggage to Marrakech?

289 replies

sleepitoff · 09/01/2025 11:26

We are going to Marrakech for a holiday in a few weeks and I would like to take my vibrator.

I’m likely to take just cabin bags.

Will I encounter issues either going through or leaving the airport? I know it’s not illegal but I don’t want issues - or to appear disrespectful.

No judgments please, advice only.

OP posts:
Hungryheart2025 · 10/01/2025 23:21

Anything that increases the risk of a delay at security would be no from me, and in Morocco you could be unlucky with a judgemental security guard, so there's a potential of being pulled aside for a further search, or even missing your flight home.

You could bring one over but don't bring it back as it will show up on a scanner in the airport as you leave, and I can't imagine anyone caring in Heathrow.

Survivingnotthriving24 · 10/01/2025 23:20

Christ, plenty in need of a love honey order on this thread.

Anywhere else I wouldn't think twice OP, but conservative religious countries I'd probably pick up something over there and bin it instead of travelling home with it. I'm sure you'd likely be fine flying in with it, but not returning where your luggage will be scanned if you can even order something cheap and cheerful.

toxic44 · 10/01/2025 23:18

Every time I've gone through Customs at Marrakech I've been peeled like a grape, bags thoroughly inspected, camera opened to check what's within, strip searched by female officer. If the potential of that is okay with you, by all means take your toys.

onwardsup4 · 10/01/2025 23:13

Pretty sure @Flozle was being sarcastic

CountessWindyBottom · 10/01/2025 23:08

I think I’d either opt to pay for a checked-in bag or else opt for a little bullet or something. I’ve a wand type one which I wouldn’t take to somewhere like Morocco simply because it’s a conservative country. I think the idea of buying something small and mighty that could sit in the tray along with make up etc is probably your best bet.

This looks perfect, I think I’ll get one myself

https://www.lovehoney.eu/sex-toys/vibrators/bullet-vibrators/p/rocks-off-rainbow-7-function-bullet-vibrator/a31452g68642.html

Arlanymor · 10/01/2025 23:02

Flozle · 10/01/2025 20:38

Yes, OP, take a long hard look at why you need mechanical help to achieve orgasm. Satisfaction is not a woman's right, you know 🙄

You've never heard of arthritis, rheumatism or manual dexterity disability?

But, yeah, sure, anyone with any of those has no right to use anything to assist them with pleasure? I guess they should all just crumble into dust?

Sorry just realised your eyeroll was sarcastic, my bad - was looking on my phone and then on my laptop the penny dropped - was catching up on some Victorian posts on here! Apologies, I agree with you.

oakleaffy · 10/01/2025 22:48

sleepitoff · 09/01/2025 11:49

I was thinking more about confiscation.

I’m sure they can buy themselves a new one!

Flozle · 10/01/2025 22:46

@StrikeForever

"An orgasm is every woman's right"

Yes I know...

oakleaffy · 10/01/2025 22:44

sleepitoff · 09/01/2025 11:38

I think the comment about using my hand is judgemental about using a vibrator.

Not at all!
I’d not want the embarrassment of being caught with an ersatz penis in my luggage.

HughGrantsfurrysquirrel · 10/01/2025 22:36

Gettingslimmer · 09/01/2025 11:50

Most people. Who wants their used sex toy on view in a busy security queue. The op seems ok with it though. She’s just sensitive to people on line.not in real life.

Yes, that's certainly how it's coming across anyway!😁

legoeggs · 10/01/2025 22:11

Take an electric toothbrush?

StrikeForever · 10/01/2025 22:08

@sleepitoff ignore to uptight idiots. Their comments are not worth your head space. 💐

legoeggs · 10/01/2025 22:08

sleepitoff · 09/01/2025 11:34

Unnecessary comment

Not really. If you're that worried why would you risk it. Even if random strangers said it would be fine.

sleepitoff · 10/01/2025 22:06

onwardsup4 · 10/01/2025 21:58

It's Mumsnet of course you'd get jumped on by some , you knew that when you posted. Maybe call the airline? They should have more info, just to be sure.

No, I genuinely did not think I would get
such a pile on. I wouldn’t have even dreamt of posting if I’d had an inkling.

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sleepitoff · 10/01/2025 22:04

LocutisOfBorg · 10/01/2025 21:22

I thought the same so consider this answer pretty relevant actually.. not at all "uneccessary". It not worth the worry of being hassled at the Moroccan customs. I just read it out to my (adult) daughter who is a travel agent and has heard it all before and she said "ffs! Why on earth can't she DIY it!!"

Why indeed! 🤷‍♀️

FFS, I’m incensed enough to come back and say - who the fuck is your daughter or anyone else to have an opinion on how I should approach my sex life! and all the others who think they have a right to tell
me what I should go without sexually, or that something so ordinary is grim and all the other nauseating comments that need to be left in the fifties, where they belong.

i honestly just thought this would be a short, nothingy thread. What an eye opener.

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onwardsup4 · 10/01/2025 21:58

sleepitoff · 10/01/2025 20:47

i appreciate all the responses - the indignation and the outrage!

for the record - my vibrator is very clean, I don’t particularly get off using my hand, I have a great sex life with my partner but we like sex toys and this is the mildest one to take. I feel no shame about asking this question and I’m sorry that so many of you felt the need to jump on me.

And yes, I do think there’s quite a lot of judgement here.

anyway, I will now sign off.

It's Mumsnet of course you'd get jumped on by some , you knew that when you posted. Maybe call the airline? They should have more info, just to be sure.

BelleSauvage9 · 10/01/2025 21:54

So much judgement, I'm actually really surprised!

I took my bullet vibrator on holiday last summer op, it had to be in hand luggage as it was rechargeable (whatever kind of battery that makes it 🤷‍♀️) so I just put it in a clear bag ready for the machines and put it in along with my other electronics and liquids. No questions asked, wasn't really paying any attention to see if I got any funny looks but all was fine. I imagine sex toys are very common and seen a lot so not shocking for airport staff, though I understand why you've asked the question (I can't answer on that point specifically as I've never been to marrakech).

Also, for what it's worth, I struggle to orgasm without that additional help (fucking hell the judgemental and frankly insulting comments about why can't your hand suffice and looking at why that might be!?!) and wouldn't want to have unsatisfying sex on holiday.

AngelinaFibres · 10/01/2025 21:53

sleepitoff · 09/01/2025 11:38

I didn’t use the word embarrassed. I asked if it would be an issue or disrespectful. I’m not embarrassed.

It would be disrespectful and also grim.
The comment about using your hand is the first thing that came into my head too.

WhappleBee · 10/01/2025 21:48

Decided to leave a comment here bc it’s really pissing me off. Nothing to do with whether you should bring it or not.

People saying that it’s ridiculous to not be able to cope a week without one and worse… you do know disabled people exist? Not everyone can “just use their hand”. It’s one thing to answer the OP as if they are able bodied but some comments are getting very offensive tbh. You don’t have to insult people for needing to use a vibrator?

Deeperthantheocean · 10/01/2025 21:28

It's not something I would think of taking with me on holiday in hand luggage tbh, or any holiday. You have to decide if your need to is greater than the risk of possible embarrasment and just go with what you decide. I can't imagine it would be a huge deal if found and you're unlikely to see these people again so honestly just make the decision. Xxx

LocutisOfBorg · 10/01/2025 21:22

HebburnPokemon · 09/01/2025 11:33

can you not survive with your hand for a few days?

I thought the same so consider this answer pretty relevant actually.. not at all "uneccessary". It not worth the worry of being hassled at the Moroccan customs. I just read it out to my (adult) daughter who is a travel agent and has heard it all before and she said "ffs! Why on earth can't she DIY it!!"

Why indeed! 🤷‍♀️

StrikeForever · 10/01/2025 21:16

Flozle · 10/01/2025 20:38

Yes, OP, take a long hard look at why you need mechanical help to achieve orgasm. Satisfaction is not a woman's right, you know 🙄

An orgasm is every woman’s right 🙄

RebeccaBunchh · 10/01/2025 21:10

choccytime · 10/01/2025 19:37

Why would you even want to go there, never mind take a vibrator !

I know it’s shocking but there’s a world beyond Skegness and Blackpool lol

sleepitoff · 10/01/2025 20:47

i appreciate all the responses - the indignation and the outrage!

for the record - my vibrator is very clean, I don’t particularly get off using my hand, I have a great sex life with my partner but we like sex toys and this is the mildest one to take. I feel no shame about asking this question and I’m sorry that so many of you felt the need to jump on me.

And yes, I do think there’s quite a lot of judgement here.

anyway, I will now sign off.

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Flozle · 10/01/2025 20:38

MinnieBalloon · 09/01/2025 12:18

You’re going on holiday. You should be able to survive without your vibrator and if you can’t you need to look at why that is.

Yes, OP, take a long hard look at why you need mechanical help to achieve orgasm. Satisfaction is not a woman's right, you know 🙄