Worrying not heard from husband

I’m glad he got in contact OP - these panic spirals are so awful and I wouldn’t wish them on anyone. Propranolol and sertraline really helped me.

@TorroFerney I am entitled to my opinion. You have commented on mine and another PP yet you have not written your own post, just like to point out that other people are wrong and that you are right?

I had never had anxiety at all before but when I hit perimenopause, OMG! It hit me like a train. I was massively spiralling about the tiniest things and my sleep was terrible as I just lay in bed thinking about stuff.
I am a little bit older than you but I still have a regular period. You can still get HRT, it is just a different combination of hormones. It has been transformative. You do have to push to get it though.

Gosh OP you really wouldn't want to be married to my dh, he is so bad at replying to messages and answering calls. Although I am probably similar. Sorry you are so anxious, it must be awful being on edge and worrying all the time.

I'm glad he's ok and you know now what happened. Also sorry you're suffering with this, and your husband sounds lovely and supportive.

It's called catastrophising and the more you o focus on it the worse it will become.

Oh my God. Why message him at all unless it's a serious emergency? He's an adult. Trust home to look after himself. It drives me crazy if family m message me at work with trivial things just because they are free!! You can't answer messages at work at least I can't and it's just annoying and unnecessary.

This must be an awful way to live OP. I’m sorry you’re going through this. I’m glad your husband is understanding and caring.

As someone who also suffers with anxiety, please try and remember our anxious thoughts are totally irrational. Easier said than done I know😅 It’s really difficult to switch back to the logical and practical mindset when we’re in the middle of an anxiety attack where we assume the absolute worst case scenario and that everyone is dead. I also know it doesn’t really help when people may say “Oh just don’t worry about it” because if it was that easy, no one would have anxiety! So please don’t beat yourself up about it.

Well done for realising you need help with this. Be completely open and honest with the GP, be open minded for alternative therapies and things you haven’t tried before.

I hope you manage to calm down and have a good rest of the day. Take care x

Wow, people are being harsh. Anxiety is just awful, just because no one on here seems not to have these type of thoughts they have no idea what's it's like. I understand how she is feeling.

I would still mention it to the Dr’s and see what they say! I have a friend who is 39 and just started HRT. They’ve went from having extremely manic episodes to being very level and “them” again. Not saying it is a fix all or even applicable, but it’s worth mentioning if the perimenopause is indeed what’s making things so much harder.

I hope your getting help and that you don't smother your children like this otherwise they will end up with serious problems.

There are techniques that can be used, that work.

This is not how anxiety works at all. Having a busy life doesn’t mean you just “won’t have time to worry” - the worry overpowers completely. It can make you unable to even move, let alone think/focus regardless of what you may be scheduled or are actively trying to do. This is a blatant misunderstanding of how severe mental health issues work.

I TOTALLY understand you!!! Its horrible when you have such anxiety and are spiraling and looking for support and reassurance. However well meaning they are, you have had some unhelpful comments here that have no doubt actually made you feel worse.

When I became perimenopausal I was EXACTLY like this. My anxiety was off the scale and my thoughts would spiral and my mind would go straight to the worse case scenario instead of the rational explanation. It was a horrible, horrible time and actually really distressing.

The thing is I would KNOW I was being irrational and it would make me feel so stupid but nothing I could do or tell myself would stop it. So people saying 'just get on with your day and forget about it' believe me its WAY easier said than done. When you are in an anxiety spiral its difficult to control and distract yourself from those bad thoughts.

Like you, some awful experiences triggered my responses to always think the worst and it has taken some work on myself to reverse this.

I am okay now but it has taken HRT and some therapy to 'put my thought process back to normal'. It is good you recognise that these are not normal thoughts and I encourage you to seek some help to help you understand why you do this and to help you get better.

Good Luck OP, I hope you manage to find a solution that works for you.

Anxiety like this doesn’t suddenly pop up out of nowhere, I hope you get help.

If anything awful has happened you would have been informed.
Would it help to ring his workplace just to make sure he turned up OK?

Reading this about your previous experience, I think you'd really benefit from EMDR therapy. It must so hard hard living with this anxiety and have it flare up.

Op I'm glad you've heard from your husband and he is fine. I also get stuck in this exact spiral of worry when I couldn't get hold of a relative (a LOT less now than I used to) and didn't realise until reading your thread and some of the replies the types of help out there for it and that this happens to others. It's all consuming when the panic grips you x

I know what they mean though. If you are in back to back meetings all morning you wouldn’t have the time or opportunity to check. Being busy whatever that’s with home or work is a distraction. Obviously better to work on the anxiety but it’s why unhappy people bury themselves in work!