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Lemonicecream · 2025-01-09T01:12:37+00:00

NC for this. I'm awake and not able to sleep as I this terrible flu bug. Nonetheless I am here cosied up in bed with MN and two cats on my lap for company. I live with one upstairs neighbour in a maisonette and for the last 6-7 hours their baby has been crying. A really distressed low level wailing. Stops for about 10 minutes and then starts again. I find baby crying noise extremely distressing and I can't find my headphones. This is in addition to 4 years of no fail morning and evening wailing and crying from their older child. Usually remedied by the parents whooping at the child as a distraction. Obviously doesn't work as the child is probably looking for comfort. I understand child rearing is hard as I have DC myself and I am a single parent but AIBU to just be at the end of my tether now and want to rip my ears off.

Curly12345 · 09/01/2025 03:49

It was rather odd lol
Especially the last part because essentially the OP has been ignoring worrying signs of neglect for years….

Thank you so much. I really do appreciate your comments. It’s so horrible seeing him in pain all the time. Hopefully we will get there soon xx

AbbyBradley · 09/01/2025 03:39

@Curly12345 I found that reply to you very bizarre and a swirly mix-up!
Had to read it three times to try and make sense of it because I was sure I had picked it up wrong due to the late hour it is and my tiredness.
But nope - it really is a rather bonkers response 😂

Anyroad - Hope the Consultant/Medical Team find out what's the matter and are able to put your baby on the road to be mended very soon. Such a distressing, sad situation for you both 😕 I hope you have some strong, reliable support to help you along the way.
And for sure, you're certainly not a failure!!
You're the mummy of a brand new, tiny, precious baby who cries a lot and you're unable to fix them, no matter how hard you try.
Like I said, I hope all is fixed very soon and you'll both be able to enjoy each other's company 💕
Will keep you both in my thoughts xx

Curly12345 · 09/01/2025 03:25

QueSyrahSyrah · 09/01/2025 03:20

My 7 month old has the flu / covid that you have, coupled with teething. Consequently he's been crying much more than usual as he's uncomfortable and distressed. Not 6-7 hours straight but significantly more than he does in a normal day. I hope my neighbours aren't mulling publicly over whether to report us to social services while stuffing their faces with cheese and crackers.

Amen. Hope your little one feels better soon.

Curly12345 · 09/01/2025 03:25

onceuponatimelived · 09/01/2025 03:22

But isn’t better to be safe rather than sorry?

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It is if it’s a genuine concern but apparently the OP has been worried for 4 years about the older child and has done nothing.

onceuponatimelived · 09/01/2025 03:22

QueSyrahSyrah · 09/01/2025 03:20

My 7 month old has the flu / covid that you have, coupled with teething. Consequently he's been crying much more than usual as he's uncomfortable and distressed. Not 6-7 hours straight but significantly more than he does in a normal day. I hope my neighbours aren't mulling publicly over whether to report us to social services while stuffing their faces with cheese and crackers.

But isn’t better to be safe rather than sorry?

QueSyrahSyrah · 09/01/2025 03:20

My 7 month old has the flu / covid that you have, coupled with teething. Consequently he's been crying much more than usual as he's uncomfortable and distressed. Not 6-7 hours straight but significantly more than he does in a normal day. I hope my neighbours aren't mulling publicly over whether to report us to social services while stuffing their faces with cheese and crackers.

onceuponatimelived · 09/01/2025 03:11

Lemonicecream · 09/01/2025 03:07

Probably not aggressive but they are generally unfriendly and have been very rude to me at times.

I have no intention of knocking on the door! I can barely move from this horrible flu or covid or whatever I have.

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This further confirms my suspicions of neglect.

SS involvement isn’t a bad thing if parents aren’t actually neglecting their kids, they will get the support they need.

SS involvement doesn’t automatically mean the children will be taken away, that is an absolute last resort and social workers are not keen on taking children away from their parents, this is only a likely outcome if their is a real concern, threat and neglect in which case it is best for the children unfortunately.

And even when there were reports of neglect, blatant abuse happening, children were involved and (Baby P, for example, amongst countless others) were all known to SS but they still ended up losing their lives because SS mishandled their case or simply didn’t act fast enough in taking those children out of danger.

Octavia64 · 09/01/2025 03:10

I would be concerned about this.

But I also remember my twins and they would have phases of crying all evening despite me offering nappy change, milk, walking with them, rocking them, etc etc.

They were offered comfort but they still cried.

The doctors just said colic.

So yes, welfare check. But this is a thing that some babies just do and I was tearing my hair out.

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Lemonicecream · 09/01/2025 03:07

yipyipyop · 09/01/2025 03:00

Yeah if they are neglectful they could also be aggressive

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Probably not aggressive but they are generally unfriendly and have been very rude to me at times.

I have no intention of knocking on the door! I can barely move from this horrible flu or covid or whatever I have.

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MumChp · 09/01/2025 03:06

A baby is sick and crying. Next SS is involved instead of the neighbour went round to say Hi.
I don't get UK anymore.

yipyipyop · 09/01/2025 03:00

NiftyKoala · 09/01/2025 02:59

I would not recommend knocking on the door. I'd call the police or social services.

Yeah if they are neglectful they could also be aggressive

NiftyKoala · 09/01/2025 02:59

I would not recommend knocking on the door. I'd call the police or social services.

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Lemonicecream · 09/01/2025 02:56

Curly12345 · 09/01/2025 02:52

lol no not at all. Just giving the people saying report to social services a different perspective. There was nothing in my comment that really should have caused you to react to me like this.

I think the fact you’ve replied to me in such a nasty way when I’ve explained how I have a newborn and how distressed I am shows a lot about you as a person. You’re apparently so concerned about the older child yet have done nothing about this already…it’s only now the baby is crying and it’s bothering you that you may act on it? Ok then,
enjoy your cheese and crackers.

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Ok

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Curly12345 · 09/01/2025 02:52

Lemonicecream · 09/01/2025 02:42

I can't put white noise on, I have can't find my headphones and I have DC1 sleeping in my room.

Do you relate every single thing to your own narrow experience? By that measure everyone should ignore any worrying signs of potential neglect because everyone would assume everyone is trying their best and wouldn't want anyone to be "mortified".

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lol no not at all. Just giving the people saying report to social services a different perspective. There was nothing in my comment that really should have caused you to react to me like this.

I think the fact you’ve replied to me in such a nasty way when I’ve explained how I have a newborn and how distressed I am shows a lot about you as a person. You’re apparently so concerned about the older child yet have done nothing about this already…it’s only now the baby is crying and it’s bothering you that you may act on it? Ok then,
enjoy your cheese and crackers.

Eenameenadeeka · 09/01/2025 02:48

Poor wee baby. I'd definitely be concerned with the baby's welfare more than anything

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Lemonicecream · 09/01/2025 02:47

yipyipyop · 09/01/2025 02:39

Poor thing has probably fallen asleep with exhaustion from all the crying

I know, I thought the same 🙁

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Lemonicecream · 09/01/2025 02:44

Iloveagoodnap · 09/01/2025 01:43

If I heard a baby crying for that long I'd be worried something had happened to its parents and it was alone. Do you know there's definitely an adult in the house with the baby?

They are a couple. There was definitely at least one person in the room with the crying as I heard footsteps going across the room.

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Lemonicecream · 09/01/2025 02:42

Curly12345 · 09/01/2025 02:31

I have a 7 week old baby with horrible digestive issues. Some days he cries for hours on end and nothing I do will comfort him, it’s very distressing for both of us. He is under a consultant but they have no idea what his allergy is.
I’d be mortified if I was reported to SS for him crying. I already feel like a failure.
do what you need to do but only do this if you truly have concerns about his wellbeing, not because you want some quiet.

put some White noise on.

I can't put white noise on, I have can't find my headphones and I have DC1 sleeping in my room.

Do you relate every single thing to your own narrow experience? By that measure everyone should ignore any worrying signs of potential neglect because everyone would assume everyone is trying their best and wouldn't want anyone to be "mortified".

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yipyipyop · 09/01/2025 02:39

Poor thing has probably fallen asleep with exhaustion from all the crying

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Lemonicecream · 09/01/2025 02:38

YourHappyJadeEagle · 09/01/2025 02:24

This was my first thought too. If you can’t phone/ knock their door I’d be inclined to call 101 and ask for a welfare check.

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Thanks I never thought about 101 for a welfare check. To be honest I have been more concerned about the older child as their crying fits are everyday and have gone on for so long.

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Lemonicecream · 09/01/2025 02:36

Well the crying seems to have stopped for now. I have just stress binged on cheese and crackers due to the noise.

Joking aside, for those saying to report to SS, I have really considered even before the baby was born as I have had to listen to four years of the older child (who not more than 5) screaming and wailing and crying day and night where it's obvious the parents are not coping. Usually left to cry as well. Now there's a baby added to the mix.

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Curly12345 · 09/01/2025 02:31

I have a 7 week old baby with horrible digestive issues. Some days he cries for hours on end and nothing I do will comfort him, it’s very distressing for both of us. He is under a consultant but they have no idea what his allergy is.
I’d be mortified if I was reported to SS for him crying. I already feel like a failure.
do what you need to do but only do this if you truly have concerns about his wellbeing, not because you want some quiet.

put some White noise on.

YourHappyJadeEagle · 09/01/2025 02:24

Iloveagoodnap · 09/01/2025 01:43

If I heard a baby crying for that long I'd be worried something had happened to its parents and it was alone. Do you know there's definitely an adult in the house with the baby?

This was my first thought too. If you can’t phone/ knock their door I’d be inclined to call 101 and ask for a welfare check.

Bearhunt468 · 09/01/2025 02:22

Please go and check. Can you go and knock and say you just wanted to check everything is okay. If they don't answer I'd be concerned something has happened and would be calling the emergency services.

yipyipyop · 09/01/2025 01:59

I'd also report to ss. Really not normal for a baby to be crying that long.