Baby crying more than 6 hours

Op, your post is distressing to read. If you do have genuine concerns please report. Only you can judge if this is necessary not strangers on the internet.

@Lemonicecream When my ( good, conscientious) neighbour’s baby cries ( weaning) I used a wonderful brown noise you tube video ( I can’t link to it as away from laptop )
Turn OFF stable volume .

It massively helps drown out the wailing
BUT my neighbours are very good with their children-The parent above you sounds like they need help to care for their child/ren properly.

Social services?

That level of crying is not normal.

Who the heck whoops at a crying baby.

Not very effective.

Honestly there's a difference between a baby that's ill and a baby that's being neglected. Are we forgetting all those poor children who have died from neglect and abuse? Who is to say the OP's neighbour won't be another one?

I nearly reported someone last year because the baby was crying for over an hour(I had the form filled out but didn't know the actual house number) and the mother was screaming and yelling, telling it to shut the fuck up. She screams and yells and swears at all her children though, I'm surprised they haven't screamed at her back (they're big enough now). I don't cared how stressed you are there is no excuse to act like that. Wish I had thought of 101 now.

One of my neighbours had a baby, it wouldn't stop crying, the difference in how they dealt with it was huge.

Wrong. My baby when he was little had a milk allergy which just one of the symptoms is colic, which is hell on earth alone. It didn't matter what i did, how much comfort i gave, calm music, songs, stories, lots of winding, feeding more, feeding less, lots of attempts with meds like anti colic stuff, stuff for tummy acid, all the usual baby meds for wind and unease etc. Nothing worked. I had a breakdown in the end and he was finally diagnosed (noone listened to me until it got to severe mental health concerns) was given milk for cmpa, and the issue went away gradually. Prior to that it was weeks of noone listening to me, telling me colic was normal, this would pass and so on. No matter how many professionals i begged (literally) and told that it wasn't normal.

If you would have lived under me, you would have heard my baby screaming for hours. What you wouldnt have heard because it's quiet, was the love, cuddles, singing, bicycle legs and other wind removing attempts, stories, meds I tried, the list goes on.

Im not saying these parents arent being neglectful or that this is normal. Just that your assumptions that they are doing cry it out, or ignoring their baby, are neglectful, and the other hyperbolic comments you made are the extreme end, one end of possibilities. There are other possibilities. Like mine. Its not nice to assume the worst from people. I was so poorly by the end that I was sectioned and my baby taken because i couldn't take it anymore, there was nothing left to try. Cue the next year of court, a mother and baby unit for parental assessment, which in their words i passed with flying colours, and finally getting my baby back home with lots of the support i had initially begged for.

Its not good to assume the worst

You treat yout palpitations with cheese and crackers?
That'll save the NHS losds!

But you have listened to this apparent neglect of this older child for several years, and are getting arsey with a PP at 01.00 because they have challenged you.
Why haven't you reported this before if you are so worried?
Also, if you have a Samsung phone, it has a function that will search for your earphones

And I don’t know why you’re assuming it’s all perfectly fine, do you know them personally? Right, so you can’t be so sure. It’s not just the baby crying that is extremely worrying, it is a host of multiple alarming signs that have been ongoing for YEARS. Please read the thread in full before you respond so you can understand the severity of this situation.

Please OP, get a 101 welfare check on those poor children at the very least, just to be on the safe side! At least then you know you did what you could to try and safeguard those children if needed.

All the best 💐

I would also contact social services. The situation with both children sounds quite extreme and I wouldn’t want to assume that the eldest isn’t being neglected because they still make a lot of noise when upset.

I would not ignore this. Contact SS OP. Tell them what you hear.

Neighbourlyness is dead then? That'll up the anti, that person reports me before helps me? They themselves could be ill? Are you guys OK? Need anything from the shops? I'm poorly as well, what a night, I feel for you? If these people are abusive to you when you talk to them, 101 it, but if they are OK then talk to them first? Seems obvious OP. Hope it works out.

OP also said they can hear someone walking across the room which would suggest someone is there with the baby. That’s very different to a baby being neglected.

This is really reassuring to hear. I’m so so lost with it all. I hope they sort him out or maybe one day, he’ll just be happy and content

Didn't want to read and run, this was me and my first child. He cried 10 hours a day for 7 months. I was petrified someone was going to call SS. We were in and out of the GP/hospital. Then one day he just didn't. He's now a healthy, happy 2.5 year old who goes to sleep at 7pm and we don't hear from him until morning.

His 7 month old brother is the calmest little baby and I've done nothing different this time round. It's been a very healing experience.

@onceuponatimelived not clear they're not "half-descent." "Whooping" to distract the kid isn't necessarily yelling at them. All OP has said really is they're rude to her. That's not grounds for social services to intervene. They may be decent.

I don't know why everyone's assuming the baby is being left to cry. It may be in arms and crying. Some babies do. Lucky you if you've not experienced that.

I’m sure if they were half-descent people it wouldn’t be so suspicious but given their rude and OP can hear them shouting at their children through the walls, I imagine there is something more sinister going on.

However, like anything, I could be wrong. I do hope so because I feel awful for those two children from the sounds of things either way!

Dont rip your ears off, that will hurt.
When you have the light of day, when you can call at their door and breathe, take them a cake or biscuits? Ask if everything's OK? How are they? How's bubba? There might really be something wrong? Low crying from a an infant is not good, could be very hungry, weak or really sick? You might be able to help or encourage them to get a medical opinion? I really feel for you, that must be an ordeal when your unwell. Hope it resolves well.

Because OP has mentioned in a previous reply that these neighbours have been rude to her several times and she is currently battling with the flu/covid.

My son cried 24/7 for 9 weeks with colic & cows milk intolerance.

Op, why not knock the door to see if they need any help before phoning SS!

Oh god I'd have moved out by now. I cannot stand crying and screaming. My old neighbours were like this and I complained often.
Maybe do an anonymous report to SS.

That was unnecessary and unjustified.

What a nasty, unnecessary response! I hope when you have had some sleep and aren’t feeling so rubbish you look back at this and regret how you spoke to a mother sharing her child’s medical needs with you.

Yes but I believe it is better to be safe rather than sorry. That was your experience but respectively, it doesn’t mean those children are having the same experience as yours.

Was you “whooping” at your children when they would cry? Like the OP suggests this mother is.

Everyone saying neglect - neglected babies and young children learn not to cry. They learn pretty quickly it doesn’t get them anything.

DS had colic and spent day after day til it passed screaming in pain for 2.5 hours each evening. All the advice from GP we followed but nothing would ease his distress
Babies don’t just cry and are quickly comforted some babies can cry for hours

My eldest cried and screamed a lot as a toddler, she has additional needs. No idea about the baby though.