Inappropriate insults about height.

I m 5 foot 10, so unusually tall for a woman and the amount of comments I get about my height never ceases to amaze me. I find it really upsetting; I know I shouldn't but I'm shy and retiring and hate to stand out. I started a new job recently and hadn't met people in real life till our team meeting. Fully 3 different people all say "ooh aren't you tall?!" and a fourth said (inexplicably) I didn't think you'd be this tall when I saw you on Teams. I'd love to come back with a witty remark but I can't think of anything so I just seethe to myself 😳😤 I dated a man who was shorter than average (5ft 4) and the amount of comments we got when we went out was unreal. One acquaintance even asked how we had sex!! And he had to deal with comments all the time when he was out by himself, too. People calling him a hobbit (it was around the time the film came out). He found it really upsetting even though he'd learnt that the only way to get on in life was to laugh along with the "bantz" (especially with drunk men, who could get really nasty really fast, if they could sense he was annoyed by their stupid comments).

So I am not surprised if you're upset by this guy's behaviour; he sounds like a massive twat.

How many times have you told this person to stop?

Tell him they don't make diamonds 💎 as big as bricks 🧱

I’m 6’. I’ve had no end of comments and insults. People are just dicks.

But why would being short make you feel self conscious anyway?

He sounds annoying but I do think you’re over thinking it.

Me too, people really give a shit about these things?!

"Oh good you're perfect for the job, I'll see you when you're done thanks ! 😬"

I would ask him not to comment, although I'm not sure what's wrong with being short?

I'm the same height and feel short. Short doesn't mean bad though.

You aren't short. I am 5 ft. That is short. But I also wouldn't be worked up by being called a short arse. It's usually used as a term of endearment rather than an insult.

Are you confident enough ti deliver a comment back? If he says it frequently then he’s being a dick thinking that’s how you get people’s attention.
You don’t have to be mean but ask him how tall his mum is or something or do you think he wants you to know how tall he is ?

Urgh, I hate it when people make ‘jokey’ comments about other people’s appearances. I’m 4’11” due to a spine condition. I got in a lift once on holiday and there were an older couple already in there and the man laughingly said ‘ oh gosh aren’t you small? I just glared at him and replied ‘gosh, aren’t you rude? He did not like that.

He would LOVE that 😂😂😂
I'd put money on fancies you and flirting i a schoolboy way.

Reply, 'oh, I'm a short arse? That must make you a big dick?'...

Sorry im completely wrong. Ave height in uk is 5’4, with some sources putting it at 5’3”. This has blown my mind. WHY do I struggle with clothes, especially finding coats that aren’t massive. OP, ignore the twat. We should be campaigning shops to adjust their sizing. Who are they making their ginormous long armed coats for?

Indirect sexism or sexual harassment innit?

He wouldn't do this to a bloke.

Report to HR accordingly.

It sounds like he's trying to get your attention for whatever reason. As you say, 5 ft 4 is exactly average so it seems like he wants to connect with you in a very clumsy way... Who knows why some people seem to want to draw attention to themselves. Possibly an inept attempt to flirt.

It sounds like he's trying to get your attention for whatever reason. As you say, 5 ft 4 is exactly average so it seems like he wants to connect with you in a very clumsy way... Who knows why some people seem to want to draw attention to themselves. Possibly an inept attempt to flirt.

I reckon he fancies you. This is just the sort of thing I used to get (5’3”) from blokes, men always seemed to v v like my look and my height. BTW, I think the average woman’s height in the uk is 5’5 so you are shorter than usual but not by much, hence I’m sure he fancies you & you prob make him feel all big and manly. Sorry I’ve given myself the ick now.

Which is why "banter" is actually bullying

Why do you consider it hurtful if you don't consider yourself to be small? Just reply "I'm average height for a woman", with a shrug, each and every time.

It's broadly inappropriate for anyone to comment on anyone else's appearance (positively or negatively), but I can't really see why it bothers you.

Exactly because you really are short. However someone who is obviously isn't so tiny it's not seen as a hurtful comment because it's clearly a joke. Not my kind of joke, i wouldn't banter or make digs at someone's body but it's definitely a grey area when people tease you about something that is only a little bit true or obviously not true. That's how banter works.

I'm 5ft and wouldn't accept that

5ft4 isn't that small if you were 5ft and under then yeah but you're obviously not that short so I'm assuming flirty banter by an immature guy.
Unless of course your team is all 6ft snd over...