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To think this is a bit mean?

62 replies

Gingganggoolies · 08/01/2025 19:37

My colleague leaves her DS in after school club until 6 when she could easily get him just before 4. I guess I could understand it a couple of times a week but it’s every day and it’s a lot for him (year 1.)

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LittleRedRidingHoody · 08/01/2025 20:54

YABU, the world is bad enough without parents judging each other.

For what it's worth, DS is also year 1 and is in some form of after school club every day so I can work. If I ever tried to pick him up early he would kick off big time. He loves it!

Supersimkin7 · 08/01/2025 20:53

If she doesn’t want to be with her child, he’s better off with people who do.

MajorCarolDanvers · 08/01/2025 20:52

BarbaraHoward · 08/01/2025 20:51

YABU for judging her.

I wouldn't do it, but I can understand why some would. Particularly if they have a very stressful job, unsupportive partner, poor mental health, if the kid enjoys it etc etc etc. Loads of reasons.

Agree.

plus adding judgemental colleagues to the list

MajorCarolDanvers · 08/01/2025 20:52

Absolutely none of your business YABU

BarbaraHoward · 08/01/2025 20:51

YABU for judging her.

I wouldn't do it, but I can understand why some would. Particularly if they have a very stressful job, unsupportive partner, poor mental health, if the kid enjoys it etc etc etc. Loads of reasons.

Tristar15 · 08/01/2025 20:50

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Porkyporkchop · 08/01/2025 20:49

Seems a bit off to me. They are long days for a young child, and they probably just want to go home by four.

icelollycraving · 08/01/2025 20:49

Yabu. None of your business.

ThatMrsM · 08/01/2025 20:47

Do you know for sure that she could easily pick him up at 4 or might she be doing other things in that time? And do you know the child is actually struggling? It's a long day but if the child is fine then I don't think it's a problem.

Michellesbackbrace · 08/01/2025 19:58

Yes I agree that’s mean. But I’m a sahm and always loved being with mine - not everyone’s the same. Some kids are probably better off in after school care than being home with their parents! At least they’re playing and getting attention at after school club.

Crazycatlady79 · 08/01/2025 19:55

I wouldn't do it, as I love having as much time with my DC, but maybe this parent needs this time to maintain their equilibrium?!

FionnulaTheCooler · 08/01/2025 19:40

Depends, really. I'm assuming she pays the same fee whether he stays for one hour or three, maybe she feels she might as well get her moneys worth and get some time to herself to get stuff done. If he was really struggling with the long days I would agree with you though but if he's happy enough then it's no biggie.