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Mums debt - is this irresponsible lending?

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deltaguns · 08/01/2025 17:47

Hi,

I actually posted about this a while ago but I need some further clarification/perspective. Please can I ask that if you respond, it's to answer my questions and not to flame/criticise my mum - We already know that this is not an ideal situation.

Mum is 75 and widowed. She was struggling financially over a year ago but was too proud to tell us. At that point she had about 10K in credit card debt. She applied for a further card from the a different bank ( mainstream bank). She applied online but received an error message. She reattempted later on and it worked. A week later two cards arrived - the exact same product. She was issued with two different customer numbers just one digit apart from each other.
She has run up a balance on both cards that is not affordable. We know that this has to be paid back and WE ARE NOT ASKING FOR IT TO BE WIPED. However I think that it was wrong/erronous of the company to allow two cards.
So my questions are -

1 - would it been a banking error to issue a customer two identical credit cards ( identical limits etc) on the same day?
2 - would this class as irresponsible lending
3 - mum's income is a pension and a very small private pension - I know that they can't discriminate for age but should this have not been considered
4 - would we have a change of getting the interest wiped?
We are currently waiting for a response and I have permission to speak to the bank on her behalf. I am disappointed that she didn't ask me for help earlier but I also feel that she has been treated unfairly.
I know that she should have cut one up/sent one back etc, but in the middle of some financial issues she made the wrong choice -surely they should never have issued these cards?

AIBU in thinking that this was irresponsible of the bank?

OP posts:
Magamaga · 08/01/2025 17:52

LittleRedRidingHoody · 08/01/2025 17:50

I've read this so many times, including today, and you've had so many reasonable and helpful replies. I don't understand why you need more advice?

This is the third thread the OP has made about this issue today!

LittleRedRidingHoody · 08/01/2025 17:52

@LizardLady but it's not just once - it's the same thing over and over and over. Copy and paste. And there's lots of helpful, useful guidance every single time. And every time the OP argues against it and starts another thread.

LizardLady · 08/01/2025 17:51

Ineedpeaceandquiet · 08/01/2025 17:49

Didnt you post this same thing just a few weeks ago?

She says right the beginning of the post that she posted it before m.

LittleRedRidingHoody · 08/01/2025 17:50

I've read this so many times, including today, and you've had so many reasonable and helpful replies. I don't understand why you need more advice?

Magamaga · 08/01/2025 17:50

You’ve posted this is exact same thing before.

What are you hoping will be different about the replies this time?

Ineedpeaceandquiet · 08/01/2025 17:49

Didnt you post this same thing just a few weeks ago?