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Dh says it makes him feel like he lives with a serial killer!

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Pippyls67 · 08/01/2025 15:24

I want to paint my kitchen red. Tried a tester pot and Dh says it looks like I’ve committed mass murder and not cleaned up after me. I think it’s jolly. Very old house, quite dark though with low ceilings and exposed beams, stone walls etc. Maybe it could he construed as ‘spooky’. Depends on your take on it I guess. I really want a deep rich colour feature wall. What colour would you go? Should I stick to my guns (excuse the pun) and stay with the red? Edited to say yes to first couple of replies- you’re right, I must consider him too. He’s not prepared to suggest a colour tho as he got free reign on his own study. Just comments unhelpfully. He’s very old tho so he says he’s fully entitled to be curmudgeonly from time to time. So up to me. Maybe on reflection this is why I want a jolly colour. Or Oh my God, stream of consciousness thinking now, am I trying to bait him for mild entertainment???? No - I’m old too - but I’m not that cantankerous. Ahh the fun of being a pair of retirees.

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CorsicaDreaming · 08/01/2025 18:47

I'm fairly sure it's Eating Room Red - but it may be Preference Red - both F&B

Leafy3 · 08/01/2025 18:46

Why does he need to clean up after you?

CorsicaDreaming · 08/01/2025 18:45

@Pippyls67 - that's my red wall!

Dh says it makes him feel like he lives with a serial killer!
napody · 08/01/2025 18:44

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Agree. Red is probably the most veto-able colour - you can't force it on someone who lives there!

DelicateSoundOfEchos · 08/01/2025 18:42

I'm not massively into decor but I'd not be happy if my husband wanted to paint our kitchen red.

It's his home as much as it is yours and if you can't agree on a colour for a communal space then neither of you can have it.

Chuchoter · 08/01/2025 18:39

I associate red paint with old hospital corridors .

Hotflushesandchilblains · 08/01/2025 18:36

Old heritage colours were often dark and or very bright. How about yellow? Of giving him a forced choice - these are the 3 I like, pick the one you like/hate the least.

SpiritOfEcstasy · 08/01/2025 18:36

I painted one wall of my lounge a raspberry red. It has really added warmth. It’s a small room with low ceilings and quite dark … maybe your DH could live with just one wall.

Dh says it makes him feel like he lives with a serial killer!
Bbq1 · 08/01/2025 18:30

Teen ds wanted red walls with black woodwork and it looks great. A sort of deep red, not garish.

BarbedButterfly · 08/01/2025 18:26

I would go navy. I like dark and cosy.

Gremlins101 · 08/01/2025 18:22

Reply #2: We did our kitchen a beautiful dusky pink. It's gorgeous I have to say. We have high ceilings and did the top part of the wall and ceiling a lovely bright white.

ABigBarofChocolate · 08/01/2025 18:21

I have a bright red living room and a lime green kitchen. He wouldn't like my house. lol just paint it the way you want. He will get used to it. Men don't usually notice stuff like that anyway.

Gremlins101 · 08/01/2025 18:21

My friends went with a lovely rich deep green in their living room and it was really classy looking. Very country house vibes even though it's a 2 bed terrace. I think you def have to factor your husbands opinion as he has to live with it.

My husband heard me that I wanted the living room orange. I was thinking a nice rusty orange feature wall. Came back from a weekend at my parents to a bright red orange. But I admired his effort 😆

BlueSkies1981 · 08/01/2025 18:21

so I love red so would love it BUT if he hates it then no?! I absolutely hate orange and would be miserable if my partner decided to paint any room that colour!

EdithBond · 08/01/2025 18:14

Comff · 08/01/2025 15:33

There’s red and there’s red: It’s a difficult colour to do well as one of the photos shows! Burgundy isn’t too bad but still difficult. Especially for a dark room. A big grand period high ceilinged kitchen I could imagine it in but I’m struggling to think it will look good with low ceilings.

But if your partner hates it then why stick with it? There are so many colours.

Also depends on the other decor. I love red walls but the photo on the left looks awful to me. I find red goes well with natural materials: wood, stone, wicker, jute etc. Or looks good with ultra modern units as a feature wall.

I agree with using your ceramics as inspiration for colour choices. What about a deep pink, colour matched to the deeper colour dahlia:

www.portmeirion.co.uk/botanic-garden-4-piece-mixed-motif-set

devilspawn · 08/01/2025 18:07

My MIL's kitchen is red, it doesn't look serial killer-y but it does look cheap and tacky despite costing a fortune. Maybe it's the combo with the black quartz worktops though.

OctoblocksAssemble · 08/01/2025 18:06

pikkumyy77 · 08/01/2025 16:11

I have a black/white/red kitchen and I love it. The counters are black slate, the stove is enameled cherry red or fireman red. A huge painting of a pomegranate dominates one wall and the top open shelves are lined in red. Everything else is white.

Me too! Ours is white walls/ceiling/units, black sparkle worktop and fire engine red tiled splashback following all the worktops. Installers were giving us definite side eye when the tiles arrived, but I love it 😀

justthatreallyagain · 08/01/2025 18:04

The last link was yellow toned summer colours this is yellow toned spring colours
www.kettlewellcolours.co.uk/colours?sf-5000=2

GRCP · 08/01/2025 18:02

Emerald green

justthatreallyagain · 08/01/2025 18:02

Sorry this is not paint - but of you search under either Autumn or spring colours these are the yellow toned and should go with your cupboards / granite - you could go for a plum colour etc

www.kettlewellcolours.co.uk/colours?sf-5000=4

Georgyporky · 08/01/2025 18:02

Is there much wall to paint, or is it just in between wall units?

How much time does he spend in there?
If it's just to make a cuppa twice a day, I'd ignore him.

WhereYouLeftIt · 08/01/2025 17:58

When we moved in here we couldn't really afford to waste money on anything that was 'just cosmetic', as there was so much needing done, so I thought I could live with the red worktops in the kitchen.

Turned out I couldn't, so we scraped together enough to replace it. It took just one week to come to that decision. One week to find that living with a large expanse of red in a kitchen cannot be done. One week.

HomeTheatreSystem · 08/01/2025 17:58

If you're fixed on a red colour, Roasted Red by Dulux worked beautifully in a friend's house: no hint of a serial killer event about it.

justthatreallyagain · 08/01/2025 17:57

It sounds like the wood / granite in your kitchen is warm based ie yellow tones - whatever colour you choose I think it would be better if you choose something with a warm yellow toned base. If you choose something with a cool (ie blue) base than it might clash with what you have.

OliveThe0therReindeer · 08/01/2025 17:55

I like boLd and I like dark. But red or burgundy walls will clash very badly with your unit and work top colours. And make the beautiful colours of your tableware looked washed out.

Id start with the Port Meiriom Botanic garden - find a colour that you like in that , match it to a paint colour and get a sample pot to paint on a 1 m square sheet of lining paper.