Dh says it makes him feel like he lives with a serial killer!

He lives there too and has a say in your living space

Comprimise and don't be such a bully

Who spends most time in the kitchen? If you husband rarely ventures in there, then I'd say stick to your guns! However, if he spends an equal amount of time in there as you then it needs to be something you both like, really.

Red makes people angry? What a load of tosh! Lol! That was debunked years ago, which is why insurance companies no longer penilise red car owners. My living room has a lot of red (including a red carpet), as does my kitchen and I find both of them lovely and calming. I certainly never feel angry whilst in either room! 🤣

We once painted our bedroom burgundy. It was nice in the evening but I couldn't bear to wake up to that colour, and it was soon changed to pale pink.
Sunshiny yellow is nice in a kitchen.

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We renovated a Georgian house some years ago and it was amazing when we stripped down through layers of paint and paper and found the colour which we were about to use in that room. Both the kitchen (soft citrus/olive green) and our bedroom (clear, mid sky blue) had exactly the same colours right at the bottom on the plaster.
Sometimes a room just seems to call out for a particular colour.

How are you both at controlling hunger? They say red stimulates appetite - that’s why McD have it splashed all around.
Also it’s supposed to increase feelings of anger. How about picking the colour as a highlight - red curtains or blinds for instance?

My DH is colourblind, he's got no idea what the colours that I choose actually are, but he's bothered by the depth of colour i.e. dark vs. light.

I know somebody who had a bright red ceiling in her otherwise pale kitchen. It looked a bit overbearing! Her new kitchen has black units - a bit much for me I'm afraid.

We had a 80s house that, when we moved into it, had bright red walls in the kitchen. The floor was black and white chequered tiles so it kind of worked in a 50’s diner sort of way. After a year or so we painted it sage green, but after a while I missed the red so I ended up repainting it the same shade of red because it actually felt right. No regrets.

I've looked online at your granite colour and it varies quite a lot from beigey to pretty dark. How about https://www.littlegreene.com/blush or https://www.littlegreene.com/ashes-of-roses, depending on the granite colour? The Ashes of roses is warm but not too dark. They have great reds and pinks.

I like pineapple on pizza.

If he wants a say in the kitchen color, he better match your time over the stove! Otherwise, his opinion is about as welcome as pineapple on pizza—controversial and unnecessary. Bugger off, chef-less critic!

I imagine it would be rather like being in a womb....

Having had a red kitchen, you don't want a red kitchen.

How much time does your husband actually spend in the kitchen?🙄

REDRUM REDRUM :) My mums house had many red painted walls internally - a deep moody heart blood red. She liked it and had red ornaments / vases that type of thing, but the colour was very dated and imposing. It stood out as well. After she died in order to get the house ready to go onto the market it was painted off white and took about 4 coats to cover the red. It was so much lighter and less claustrophobic. So I am not keen on red as an internal room colour. But thats just me.

But as for you, I think you need to find a colour you both can live with. Green / light brown and red go together well. You could always go green or beige in the room then add red injections of colour on eg curtains (red and beige checked curtains are nice and were available at Dunelm, cushions (eg red check matching the curtains) and maybe red flowers or wall pictures etc. So you get the injection of red which is warm and cosy without overwhelming the room with the colour. Best of luck !

House and garden UK has an entire section on cottages and very old houses with kitchen spaces such as you describe. It would be worth a look at those design and colour choices.

Some paint companies have free software where you can add their colours to pics of your room. Then screenshot them. Maybe try this? Also Google 'red kitchen walls' and select images to see if there's anything similar to what you want to do or different shares of red.

We have a partially "red" kitchen, it's F&B Radicchio but it's complemented by a lighter colour and units I really like it but I would never have chosen it, it was here already

Ahh @Pippyls67 that's tickled me! Why don't you lean into it and go full dungeon/crypt

Try a warm and rich green instead ?
Red is a very difficult colour to get right , can look like a bloodbath or nursery school primary colours , or it can look cheap .
I always compromise with my husband because it’s his house too and I don’t want him to hate it .
Right now our walls are a soft white because that’s how the house came and it’s tricky to find the right colours 😕 the furniture and soft furnishings we moved with are soft warm blues and greys with a touch of light wood .
We are in a new build house which is large with high ceilings , it was one of the last to be sold so everything was already chosen and fitted 🙁

I was all with your DH on first read, but then saw the photos Comff posted, and really liked the second one, and I get your concept totally if it's like that, however, ultimately you do both need to at least like it a bit, you can't have such a key room in your house that one of you hates.